Long post: So I really like this woman a lot but

[Uchiha God]

Do what makes you happy but you should go talk to your friends in real life and not Internet strangers.

You are 38 years old coming online for relationship help lol

Nah, this is the one thing I agree with him on.

On thecoli, he's a moon avatar and a username. Sure, people here will largely clown and laugh, and only a few will engage meaningfully, but in real life that's people that might actually matter to him, people that are active in his life. You wouldn't want them to see your potential spouse for the whore she is/was as that can actually affect respect, interactions and dynamics in real life.

He should do what makes him happy of course, but please don't go around telling your peoples the woman you love is on cam getting "Eiffel Towered" by cacs

 

[The God Poster]

lol when you think y’all weirdos can’t get more strange

Go find a woman who ain’t done pornos & more than likely sold on the side. I legit wonder how y’all were raised sometimes. Straight suckers

 

[Sad Bunny]

He should do what makes him happy of course, but please don't go around telling your peoples the woman you love is on cam getting "Eiffel Towered" by cacs

Oh, I guess I didn’t really understand what that meant. I thought she just had a video with her ex-boyfriend or something. Lol.

 

[Diondon]

Long story short, she and her ex have a lot of videos where they do “everything under the sun except for scat play, water sports, and multiple partners” but multiple times she did have sex with one of his friends while dude had sex with the friend's girlfriend and both her and the other girl got Eiffel towered several times. Her and the ex dude actually broke up because he was fukking the other girl “outside of the arrangement” and she started fukking with the ex’s friend after the break up as payback but stopped when she realized he didn't give a fukk.

She could've just lied by omitting this and without the videos popping up I would've been none the wiser and I definitely wouldn't have known about the partner swapping they did and other unflattering shyt she told me. I truly respect and appreciate her keeping it a buck and giving me a choice. Now If we’re out and see this dude and he's on some -I have vids of her in my phone right now- I wouldn't be tripping, that's part of the game in 2024.

But outside of this still being a lot to accept regardless of her volunteering the info or not, I'm very much tripping on her not being down to film with me without a mask unless we're married.

Her logic is that if something happens and we have a falling out I could expose her and she could potentially have videos with 3 different dudes online (yes, 3 she also made a video in college with a nikka who “at the very least showed his friends” and could've put it out but she's never heard word of it floating on the net)

1. She's down to do anything with me on tape with a mask on and without the mask if married

2. She says she's never going to “be with 2 men again” aka get gangbanged. — I’m not on some cuck shyt so this wasn't even on my radar but it's been clocked that she did it with the white dude and it's not an option for me.

3. She says she would do threesomes with me and other women but she would prefer to only deal with one partner going forward. AND she would be okay with me fukking “clean escorts” occasionally as long as I use a rubber, head included. But she's not okay with me fukking other women without her that I don't pay for if we decided to get serious.


There's way more we discussed but this is some of the major shyt. She understands why I'm tripping on the mask and why it rubs me wrong that all the options that the white dude had aren't available to me whether I want to exercise them or not. I also understand her side, except for the only paid for or shared outside p*ssy. She's paranoid to the point where she constantly runs her face through facial recognition software to check if she's been exposed online. And she has a job where porn could actually get her fired. So I get it but this puts me in a difficult situation.

We had this talk on Labor Day but I've been in limbo since then and she's understandably pushing for an answer on whether or not were going to continue in a serious manner. I've told my best friend and he, like me, thinks she's still a winner for being 100 with me. 99% of women would just deny, deny, deny until there was proof and then they would cry and try to get sympathy and forgiveness. But Shorty just laid it on me. Honesty even when the truth makes you look crazy, slutty, etc is valuable as fukk.

I'm bringing this here to get more perspectives.

I know there's gonna be shyt talking but some people on here give good advice and I'm not embarrassed because I'm just a screen name on here. Also, she's not a wench because she's half-white. So if there's actually participation can we skip the wench lover insults?


Thanks for reading all that if you're here.

nikka what?

 

[Blown Moon]

Breh, you're projecting wildly onto women to justify your choices and the compromises you're willing to make. Yes, there are plenty of women that are whores and loose - but ultimately, there are plenty that aren't either. It's an equation of the time you're willing to invest to find one vs what you're willing to accept/let slide as a man vs peace of mind

regarding my posts in this thread, I was only going of the information you've made available:

1. She was smutted out by a cac, partaking in all kinds of debauchery and degeneracy with said cac
2. Upon finding out said cac wasn't taking her seriously by means of disrespecting their arrangement and fukking the other woman behind her back, instead of showing appropriate adult decision-making, she decided to open her legs some more to the cac's friend to provoke a reaction from him. It just so happens that the cac understands the game and didn't see her as more than a means to have degenerate fun. These were things you described in your OP

For someone that seemingly proverbially knows "how the game goes" and speaks of others potentially being naive, you should know that the cac owns your girl's soul just by the above actions you described.

Most of us here knew you had already made your mind up. You're in love with a whore - and you're hoping those days are behind her. You pretty much just engaged in an exercize of rationalization and to do so, you paint the world with large brushes "this is how women moving now", "most women would lie about it", "you nikkas are naive", etc. Breh - it is ok. You're not the first nor are you going to be the last. This isn't a new script.

I hope that it works out, because it you found happiness - it is what it is You came to thecoli and asked for perspectives. I think you would have been better off not knowing any of this to be honest, going out like a sucker can happen to the best of us unknowingly, but it's not a choice I'll actively make knowingly. Some men are willing to compromise on some things, others are not. And that's what it ultimately comes down to. I simply said I'm not looking to a woman that's on camera getting a train ran on by cac as someone to start a family with.

I don't like what you're saying but I do appreciate it. Your posts and others like it are why I brought this here. I would've repped if I could've.

I don't think the cac “owns her soul” but you're right, I do love her so I accept that my feelings might be compromising my judgment. If I was on the outside looking in I would agree with you almost completely. On her being “a whore” do you stand by that IF her only having 8 bodies at 28 is true? Lastly, I truly do believe most of these Western women are putting up high numbers. Hookup culture is what's promoted and accepted by many, especially with people under 30.

 

[DPresidential]

 

[Braman]

Buddy opened this like Inspektah Deck

Long story short, she and her ex have a lot of videos where they do “everything under the sun except for scat play

 

[Phitz]

How so? Bruh, we're in 2024 where women can get díck like it's same-day delivery at Amazon from a dude that lives 20-30 minutes away from her, so not only is it more socially accepted for her to do so (by women, mainly), but it's far enough away for it to not get out.

Literally, ANY woman could be on that type of time if she wanted to, so it really isn't telling of who we deal with.

That cute ass, jovial ass female that you saw at Starbucks could have fúcked 25 people by the time she was 21.

this assumes all women have the same tastes and interests, just based off the logic it's flawed.

We're all men but not all of us do and like the same thing. Not all of us drink, not all of us like the same foods, not all of us like sex the same way.

Just off common sense this is flawed. Yeah times are dark but not every woman does these dirty things just because the 35% of women in your city in the same social circles are screwing the same guys in that circle like musical chairs.

Everywhere has a cluster of people who are promiscuous among each other, but this is not representative of every man and woman or even every man and woman where they live.

 

[Mr.bocario]

I'm old and tired of the field, she's pretty, smart, and honest. In two years I'll be 40 and she'll be 30 and we're both trying to have a family and do lame shyt like family camping trips and shyt.

I think this is the underrated part of your post. Your staring down Father Time, with no other prospects to create a family

Also if you think she only hooked up with 3 random dudes at 28 and she is open about to a potential simp (no disrespect) that trying wife her up and legitimize her
Nikka

 

[SupaHotIce]

The best friend cosigning this happens to be a woman

 

[ThrobbingHood]

The best friend cosigning this happens to be a woman

I really want to believe this is a troll thread… but most men are simpletons, especially when it comes to pretty women. Women stay on code, until they’re competing for the same dikk.

 

[ItsPeople]

All I want to comment is that mixed girls are FREAKS. As evidenced by her fukking a pitbull

 

[SupaHotIce]

I really want to believe this is a troll thread… but most men are simpletons, especially when it comes to pretty women. Women stay on code, until they’re competing for the same dikk.

Only woman you can trust to have your best interests in mind is your mother.

 

[Arcavian]

Don't forget to come back to get roasted when the shyt goes bad

 

[BaggerofTea]

I love hoes, but even I know better than this.