Women think nearly all men are either one of two: great-looking or ugly, so they project that belief onto us. To women, the "average" dude is basically the stereotypical "last call" looking chick to us.
IF your homeboys think you've got a solid woman by your side, every single one of them is gonna tell you straight up, "Maaaaan, are you sure? You got a good one at the crib, don't fukk it up." That's why I laugh when I see bimbos claim men encourage each other to be unfaithful... Women's projection game is A+.
What's hella funny is when a racist claims black people are violent because of their experiences with black people, the same blackface femininsects who judge black men off their poor choices will cry about traumatic racism.
Take note of my response above.
This sentiment about black men among professional black women circulates because of two main reasons.
1) Black women gauge what a "motivated" man looks like based on images of "successful," "motivated" black men the media presents to us. More specifically, black women associate a charismatic swag daddy with a good "mouthpiece" as a guy who is going high places and, as many learn two kids out of wedlock later, that's rarely a smart way to judge where a guy will end up in life.
2) A considerable portion of professional black women come from lower income households, either in or on the edge of the hood, and we all know women have a difficult time disconnecting their inconsequential eXperIeNceS from reality. They grow up seeing a lot of
low income black males living off of women, so that means most or all of black males must be living off women! As mentioned above, this is precisely what racists do (judge the character of the entire race based on the number of violent black male offenders in prison, for example) when judging black people as whole.
My old roommate in the Bay (not a bedwench, but she's from the edge of an inner city) didn't realize how her perception regarding how white men she has workplace relationships with (co-workers in tech) compared with black men she knows (from back home in the hood) was warped until I asked her if she had ever associated with any
low income white men.