Kevin Samuels Discussion Thread

[Apollo Creed]

Congrats breh. Trial in era. But most certainly strap the fukk up until you ready. And know your experience is what will mold you.

i think the learning curve alot of brehs are facing is if you were locked down in the past 5+ yrs you are entering a new dating culture with the hookup stuff from all these apps. I’m single now also and things are night and day different from the last time I was in the trenches.

 

[HARLEM AL]

For most women, their homegirls' opinions of their man means more to them than their own opinion of their man!

Men factor in our friends opinions in to a certain extent. If she's butt ugly or they have street intel about her, for example. But, for the most, men don't factor in the opinions of other men when it comes to where we are sticking our dikks.

There's a reason I believe. Women are social creators. Everything they do is within their group. shyt they don't even go to the bathroom by themselves. If some don't believe me have a conversation with a chick in front of her friend. Ask her a question and look at her. she will begin to answer the question and while answering it she will look at her friend. she will either get a confirmation from her friend or the friend might just finish her answer to the question you asked.

 

[Wild self]

For most women, their homegirls' opinions of their man means more to them than their own opinion of their man!

Men factor in our friends opinions in to a certain extent. If she's butt ugly or they have street intel about her, for example. But, for the most, men don't factor in the opinions of other men when it comes to where we are sticking our dikks.

Yep, they homegirls ugly n bitter. The ultimate crabs in a barrel type shyt.

The gene pool is going to look mighty interesting in the next 30 years.

 

[mamba]

There's a reason I believe. Women are social creators. Everything they do is within their group. shyt they don't even go to the bathroom by themselves. If some don't believe me have a conversation with a chick in front of her friend. Ask her a question and look at her. she will begin to answer the question and while answering it she will look at her friend. she will either get a confirmation from her friend or the friend might just finish her answer to the question you asked.

Those are straight facts. You are preaching, breh!

 

[HARLEM AL]

i think the learning curve alot of brehs are facing is if you were locked down in the past 5+ yrs you are entering a new dating culture with the hookup stuff from all these apps. I’m single now also and things are night and day different from the last time I was in the trenches.

Im big on telling dudes to meet women in real life. You can't gauge her off the dating apps. Most the time the apps are full of attention seekers.

 

[GoAggieGo.]

Congrats breh. Trial in era. But most certainly strap the fukk up until you ready. And know your experience is what will mold you.

Thanks, breh. I actually just came out of a 5 year relationship, and going through that and hearing what KS and many other brehs have been saying has me feeling like I wasn’t alone in what I went through.

I honestly ignored all the red flags (comes from a single parent home, only child, said she likes drama, high earner, etc) and towards the end of the relationship (years 3-5) she pretty much got bored with me and wanted to move on. She didn’t need me, as she was a high earner, and she pretty much made that clear. Towards the end of the relationship, it was nothing but arguments and I felt I lost myself. I felt I couldn’t say anything without an argument or getting some type of pushback, so I just bottled shyt in. The arguments stopped, but I lost myself in the process.

Going through all that opened my eyes, and now I know exactly what I want and won’t go for less. If she’s not bringing me peace and cooperation, then I’m cutting her loose. Funny thing is, now my ex throws hints all the time about getting back together. I’m not the pushover or “beta” she needs. I can’t and won’t go through that again.

This new woman is a breath of fresh air. She’s younger (she’s 23 and I’m 32) and so far her actions have shown she aligns with what I’m looking for. We’ll see how it goes, but I’m just feeling her out right now.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Im big on telling dudes to meet women in real life. You can't gauge her off the dating apps. Most the time the apps are full of attention seekers.

of course this is why i mentioned being on your purpose. You will meat meaningful people during your journey.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

There's a reason I believe. Women are social creators. Everything they do is within their group. shyt they don't even go to the bathroom by themselves. If some don't believe me have a conversation with a chick in front of her friend. Ask her a question and look at her. she will begin to answer the question and while answering it she will look at her friend. she will either get a confirmation from her friend or the friend might just finish her answer to the question you asked.

Reminds me of my past clubbing days

Her: were just going to the bathroom malc brb


Me: 10 min later....they not back..they left
moves to the next sets lol

 

[ogc163]

I agree that with some BM seeing celeb examples of marriage go left and are quick to say “GMB”!!!!

I’m like....



That’s one situation out of a million relationships.

That GMB shyt is one of the most annoying and toxic aspects of this site. When I engaged with the cats espousing that shyt I saw how shallow their arguments are.

 

[Apollo Creed]

That GMB shyt is one of the most annoying and toxic aspects of this site. When I engaged with the cats espousing that shyt I saw how shallow their arguments are.

i feel the convo of protecting yourself during marriage and accepting you are not fit for/dont see value in marriage thus you opt out are two different convos that often get merged under the guise of GMB

 

[ogc163]

i feel the convo of protecting yourself during marriage and accepting you are not fit for/dont see value in marriage thus you opt out are two different convos that often get merged under the guise of GMB

The conversations I've had with that crew revolves primarily around an irrational fear of the economic downside risks of divorce. Divorce law is pretty vanilla for individuals making below a certain amount, and so the risk are exaggerated on here because of the conflating of what happens to the average Black man vs celebrity Black men.

 

[HARLEM AL]

Thanks, breh. I actually just came out of a 5 year relationship, and going through that and hearing what KS and many other brehs have been saying has me feeling like I wasn’t alone in what I went through.

I honestly ignored all the red flags (comes from a single parent home, only child, said she likes drama, high earner, etc) and towards the end of the relationship (years 3-5) she pretty much got bored with me and wanted to move on. She didn’t need me, as she was a high earner, and she pretty much made that clear. Towards the end of the relationship, it was nothing but arguments and I felt I lost myself. I felt I couldn’t say anything without an argument or getting some type of pushback, so I just bottled shyt in. The arguments stopped, but I lost myself in the process.

Going through all that opened my eyes, and now I know exactly what I want and won’t go for less. If she’s not bringing me peace and cooperation, then I’m cutting her loose. Funny thing is, now my ex throws hints all the time about getting back together. I’m not the pushover or “beta” she needs. I can’t and won’t go through that again.

This new woman is a breath of fresh air. She’s younger (she’s 23 and I’m 32) and so far her actions have shown she aligns with what I’m looking for. We’ll see how it goes, but I’m just feeling her out right now.

The older they are the more baggage they have. One thing for sure, women know when you're a good dude. They either get bored or think they can do better. And most of the time it dont work out like they thought. Which is why they try to come back.

Remember, your happiness is first and foremost. If you are happy she is happy. Trying to make her happy will only make you and her unhappy. She is unhappy because you are trying to please her and you are unhappy because you can't please her.

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

Thanks, breh. I actually just came out of a 5 year relationship, and going through that and hearing what KS and many other brehs have been saying has me feeling like I wasn’t alone in what I went through.

I honestly ignored all the red flags (comes from a single parent home, only child, said she likes drama, high earner, etc) and towards the end of the relationship (years 3-5) she pretty much got bored with me and wanted to move on. She didn’t need me, as she was a high earner, and she pretty much made that clear. Towards the end of the relationship, it was nothing but arguments and I felt I lost myself. I felt I couldn’t say anything without an argument or getting some type of pushback, so I just bottled shyt in. The arguments stopped, but I lost myself in the process.

Going through all that opened my eyes, and now I know exactly what I want and won’t go for less. If she’s not bringing me peace and cooperation, then I’m cutting her loose. Funny thing is, now my ex throws hints all the time about getting back together. I’m not the pushover or “beta” she needs. I can’t and won’t go through that again.

This new woman is a breath of fresh air. She’s younger (she’s 23 and I’m 32) and so far her actions have shown she aligns with what I’m looking for. We’ll see how it goes, but I’m just feeling her out right now.

They always come crawling back. KS made a video about women who had the right guy but they blew it. You were the one for her but she fukked it up thinking she can do better than you. The market has shown her wrong so she sees the error of her ways and wants to reunite Good luck on your new relationship, at least you're going in with experience and knowledge of this crazy dating world.

 

[mamba]

The older they are the more baggage they have. One thing for sure, women know when you're a good dude. They either get bored or think they can do better. And most of the time it dont work out like they thought. Which is why they try to come back.

Remember, your happiness is first and foremost. If you are happy she is happy. Trying to make her happy will only make you and her unhappy. She is unhappy because you are trying to please her and you are unhappy because you can't please her.

Breh, you opened up the manhood Bible to the right section this morning!

If a woman wants to be part of your program, she endeavors to make you happy. And, in turn, you will see the value she is bringing to your life and do things to make her happy.

Most men mess up by trying to force a woman into our programs. And we spend so much time trying to make them happy. We end up losing focus. And it almost always ends badly.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Breh, you opened up the manhood Bible to the right section this morning!

If a woman wants to be part of your program, she endeavors to make you happy. And, in turn, you will see the value she is bringing to your life and do things to make her happy.

Most men mess up by trying to force a woman into our programs. And we spend so much time trying to make them happy. We end up losing focus. And it almost always ends badly.

once you lose focus you slip out your “frame” (the man she “fell in love with”) and become other than. This can lead to depression internally which outwardly may show in low interest in doing anything, weight gain, etc.