Kevin Samuels Discussion Thread

[Astroslik]

I was chilling with one of my homegirls from the block. Her and her man had just pulled up and I was happy to see her. Her man did all the necessary daps and was ready to go in the house. She was not. When I said, "That man going upstairs, go attend to him," she was on some 'fukk that nikka, Ill go upstairs when I want to.' Now, this man is a good man. Works everyday and comes right home. Gave her several more babies and a super involved dad. Yay, right?

No. She'd rather stunt for her single friends. I'm the only one who told her, "Take your black ass upstairs and take care of that man, he deserves it!"

She went.

There honestly aren't enough married black women to make the case. I'm the raisin in the tradwife oatmeal on many occasions, and not because I want to be. Black men need to be marrying black women at a higher rate and instilling this thought pattern.

This is why married women shouldn’t have single friends

 

[jwonder]

This is why married women shouldn’t have single friends

Bingo. Single friends aren't a woman's friend. Most times they are jealous Ava would love for them to break up

 

[HarlemHottie]

Bingo. Single friends aren't a woman's friend. Most times they are jealous Ava would love for them to break up

I don't even think it's jealousy a lot of the time, it's boredom. Your bff got a man and now yall don't go out no more, yall aint running the streets together. Now you gotta go through the onerous process of become besties with another girl in your extended circle because its harder to make friends as an adult, etc, etc.

 

[jwonder]

I don't even think it's jealousy a lot of the time, it's boredom. Your bff got a man and now yall don't go out no more, yall aint running the streets together. Now you gotta go through the onerous process of become besties with another girl in your extended circle because its harder to make friends as an adult, etc, etc.

I've seen it too many times when single friends try to throw a monkey wrench when their girl has a man. Like a real serious one.

 

[HarlemHottie]

I've seen it too many times when single friends try to throw a monkey wrench when their girl has a man. Like a real serious one.

No, I hear you, they do be trynna break shyt up. But I'm speaking to motivation. Like, irl, there are MANY I could have dismissed as simply jealous, but usually its more nuanced than that. Maybe the little girl in 1st grade who wanted to fight me after school bc I wouldn't give her the answers IS jealous, but is she jealous bc she's one of a house full of kids being raised by an overwhelmed grandmother? See? There's always an underlying reason under the jealousy.

In this case, you have to understand: women have created friendship bonds stronger than those they have with actual blood relatives. See how quick people be going NC with they parents? They bestie getting married and distracted with married people shyt is a serious loss to them. These are the same people who treat pets like children. It's a sickness of modern American womanhood.

 

[Gloxina]

I was specifically speaking to a subset of bw who are willing to hunt a man because he is the prize, and ain't ashamed to say it.

Do young women not feel this impulse? Are they unwilling to admit that the man can be a prize, even when he's 'lesser than' economically? Because there are different criteria for men and women?

Ah- I get you. Honestly, it’s all about dynamics, proximity, and likelihood of positive outcomes.

Some women would prefer to transform themselves into what would be considered a prize (by certain men) than possibly have to compete for a man who is likely being chased by multiple women.

But yea- if a dude is a legit top tier dude OF COURSE girls are shooting their shot. OOOOOOF COURSE. Men on this site tell us all the time.


That’s why I say I understand #handsomegang. Good looks or success will have women approaching you. And if you have BOTH? Hell yeah girls are choosing.

 

[Gloxina]

This is why married women shouldn’t have single friends

Eh. Healthy single friends aren’t really an issue. Some of my girls are married and they make it a point to tell folks I give good advice and encourage them to pour into their unions. One’s hubby always says I was the only one who encouraged her to stay with him.

But I’m not a weirdo who was jealous and never had my own man so I guess

Like @HarlemHottie said, a lot of those friends are bored and want their married friend to still hang out. If you have a concept of marital/familial structure you understand that your homegirl needs to be home with her hubby

 

[Astroslik]

Eh. Healthy single friends aren’t really an issue. Some of my girls are married and they make it a point to tell folks I give good advice and encourage them to pour into their unions. One’s hubby always says I was the only one who encouraged her to stay with him.

But I’m not a weirdo who was jealous and never had my own man so I guess

Like @HarlemHottie said, a lot of those friends are bored and want their married friend to still hang out. If you have a concept of marital/familial structure you understand that your homegirl needs to be home with her hubby

You’re a woman, so your perspective is skewed considering I’m talking in the vantage point of a man. Married woman shouldn’t have single friends is an adage I’ve been hearing from OG older successfully married women since I was a kid. There’s a reason the saying is popular. Most men understand how easily influenced women are to the sisterhood.

Bolded also proves my point. The majority of her single friends wanted her to crash out, but you were the only one that said otherwise.

 

[Gloxina]

You’re a woman, so your perspective is skewed considering I’m talking in the vantage point of a man. Married woman shouldn’t have single friends is an adage I’ve been hearing from OG older successfully married women since I was a kid. There’s a reason the saying is popular. Most men understand how easily influenced women are to the sisterhood.

Bolded also proves my point. The majority of her single friends wanted her to crash out, but you were the only one that said otherwise.

I concede.

 

[jwonder]

You’re a woman, so your perspective is skewed considering I’m talking in the vantage point of a man. Married woman shouldn’t have single friends is an adage I’ve been hearing from OG older successfully married women since I was a kid. There’s a reason the saying is popular. Most men understand how easily influenced women are to the sisterhood.

Bolded also proves my point. The majority of her single friends wanted her to crash out, but you were the only one that said otherwise.

You know what though it's actually common sense. There is a lot of it lacking with most American women.

Married means you are in a different lifestyle now. You should more focused on your family. Single people live a totally different life. They basically do what they want without having to think about someone else. So if a married woman is hanging with a single woman of course it's going to conflict.

 

[DJSmooth]

"Your enemy is your pocketbook" this a classic

 

[Fresh]

All I have to say about Kevin Samuels is there were way too many women happy that he died...even though women are supposedly morally superior to men

If Kevin was a woman saying the same things, a lot of women would cry and pray for her

hypocrisy is a b*tch

 

[DJSmooth]

All I have to say about Kevin Samuels is there were way too many women happy that he died...even though women are supposedly morally superior to men

If Kevin was a woman saying the same things, a lot of women would cry and pray for her

hypocrisy is a b*tch

who said this?

 

[HarlemHottie]

If women in spaces like Lipstick Alley hear a this, they will hunt you down. They will go for that neck.

They already tried it. One of their minions came over here to 'expose' me (due to this thread, actually). Thread is in the rafters.

 

[Yas]

Just saying because you're mentality damn sure isn't like the average black American women. It's on some unicorn shyt seeing this

Not to come in here to disturb y'all but I notice men that say this usually deal with bottom of the barrel type of women because they are bottom of the barrel type of men. It's a red flag