Kevin Hart’s Ex-Wife Says Black Men Prefer Light Skinned Broads

[FTBS]

I would tell them to look at my track record as it relates to women that I've dated before I met my wife. There are some consistent features and attributes but skin color isn't one of them. It's a non factor.

Point is a person accusing of you of being with your wife because of her skin tone would be off base.
But honestly why does it matter? You like who you like. Everyone is entitled to that.

 

[TNOT]

Black women do need to take your advice......and we need to apply it to ourselves.

I'm happy those women found someone who loves them. What's interesting to me is that their aren't any "light skin" women in those pics


Could it be that successful white men who chose to date interracially choose women who are on their level socioeconomically and not based on some arbitrary trait such as skin color

 

[luckyse7enz]

Many of the men in this thread have posted about a preference for light skin AND non-black women. I am just posting the opposite side of the coin. Why are black men allowed to have preferences and black women are supposed to simply hope that they occupy the right shade on the color spectrum to be desired by one?

You're kind of missing the wood for the trees here. The discussion is about black women saying that black men are color-struck when dating within their own race and have a preference for light-skinned women, right?

One of the more interesting rebuttals (outside of the one I quoted) was that black women do the same thing to black men, which has also been seen as true in many cases.

You're having an entirely different argument for an entirely different thread. If anything, you should be finding an argument for how black women don't show favor to lighter-skinned men. It kind of derails what could potentially spin itself into a good discussion.

There's an interesting argument to be made on both sides. What I quoted adds a VERY interesting dynamic that I've never seen mentioned though.

Focus.

 

[FTBS]

I think it's less to do with "black men" and more to do with black people in general: in many ways we are conditioned to prefer lighter skin. Western beauty standards dominate, and you see this in black men and women. From talk of "good hair" to the casual self hate we participate in with respect to automatically labeling any light skin person "pretty."

This is less of an issue with dark black men IMO. The "tall dark and handsome" trope applies to us, and there are plenty of cases of dark dudes getting love (Idris Elba for instance). A dark black man is less likely to have self esteem issues, although obviously that does not mean that "light skin men=pretty" sentiments don't exist.

Whereas dark black women have a far worse time. From childhood they have to deal with people saying ignorant shyt about their color, or praising the beauty of lighter friends, and the lack of dark role models on television/media. Imagine the mental turmoil of that shyt brehs. It's disgusting and I'm tired of seeing black people denigrate our darker sisters as if they're inferior. Stop that shyt. Now.

Dark dudes take their lumps too. I know dark skinned cats with self esteem issues. They get talked about too. I know light skinned females with self-esteem issues.There is no arguing with the European standard of beauty that exists but the reality is that most females of some sort of self-esteem issues and the prettiest and/or lightest aren't exempt.

 

[Firefly]

I'm a grown ass man in a free country. I'm a MAN. I'll date or fukk whatever colored woman I want.


If you have an issue or make snide comments you gotta first check yourself and step up your self esteem and security game.

Second realize that your low level thinking and irrational (team lightskin vs team darkskin) ass baby brain is what is turning me off and away from you, not the fact that I prefer lighter or yellow or orange or whatever women.


Folks gotta cut out all the whoa is me shyt and make themselves the best they can be. There's someone out here for everyone. Sistas gotta cut out the "he can't be shorter than 6 foot 4, he gotta have this, gotta have that" and just worry about finding a good dude. Stop with all the depression and getting with a bunch of birds who will back up your insecurities.

I don't wanna be forced to be with someone just because the only thing we have in common is our pigment. And this is coming from a black man who has dated African women, Asian, Indian, White, Black American, etc. women.

Get cultured and get out more. If you can't find anyone for you where you are, MOVE. The world is a big place.

 

[FTBS]

I'm happy those women found someone who loves them. What's interesting to me is that their aren't any "light skin" women in those pics


Could it be that successful white men who chose to date interracially choose women who are on their level socioeconomically and not based on some arbitrary trait such as skin color

Couldn't one look at these pics and suggest that once a white man becomes successful he goes out and get a dark skinned women and shyts on the lighter women? It's just as silly to assume someone is with some one because of an arbitrary trait (btw swag, charisma, fashion sense are arbitrary traits) as it is to get with people based on said arbitrary trait.

 

[TNOT]

Couldn't one look at these pics and suggest that once a white man becomes successful he goes out and get a dark skinned women and shyts on the lighter women? It's just as silly to assume someone is with some one because of an arbitrary trait (btw swag, charisma, fashion sense are arbitrary traits) as it is to get with people based on said arbitrary trait.

Maybe you can clarify what you are saying, because none of that made any sense to me.

 

[TezMilli]

It's evident the black community has issues. All this lite skin vs dark skin starts from the parents, who don't love themselves and pass it along to their children and the cycle never ends and seems like it never will. I know what I'm saying is common knowledge but damn....shyt is sad!

I took my daughter, who happens to look biracial (her mom is mixed) to the playground one day and she was surrounded by three or four darker skinned little girls, who acted like she was the lost savior queen from whatever tribe.....shyt was pathetic and made me feel uncomfortable. They went on and on about how "pretty" my daughter was, with comments like "her lite skin is perfect" to "I like her curly hair". I told all the little girls that they were pretty too and they instantly gave me the as if they never heard that in their lives.

We definitely gotta do better!

 

[FTBS]

Maybe you can clarify what you are saying, because none of that made any sense to me.

You suggested that white men aren't going for chicks purely because of an arbitrary trait such as skin color. A person who wants to be as silly as Toree Hart could easily suggest that those white men are picking based on skin color because none of the chicks pictured are light-skinned. Assuming a person is with someone because of their skin color because you see someone with a person of a certain shade is just as dumb as picking based purely off shade. Last but not least there are numerous arbitrary traits that no one bats an eye at (swag, charisma etc.). Clear now?

 

[Will Ross]

Black women do need to take your advice......and we need to apply it to ourselves.

This proves my point black women are more color struck than black men. All the women in the picture you posted could have easily had a black husband but they wanted white men.

 

[TNOT]

You suggested that white men aren't going for chicks purely because of an arbitrary trait such as skin color. A person who wants to be as silly as Toree Hart could easily suggest that those white men are picking based on skin color because none of the chicks pictured are light-skinned. Assuming a person is with someone because of their skin color because you see someone with a person of a certain shade is just as dumb as picking based purely off shade. Last but not least there are numerous arbitrary traits that no one bats an eye at (swag, charisma etc.). Clear now?

I guess

FWIW I'm not disagreeing with you.

 

[Will Ross]

I'm happy those women found someone who loves them. What's interesting to me is that their aren't any "light skin" women in those pics


Could it be that successful white men who chose to date interracially choose women who are on their level socioeconomically and not based on some arbitrary trait such as skin color

A lot of white men marry black women because they will treat them like a king.
A white woman is not going to look at them as special but a black woman will

 

[semtex]

If you're attractive you're attractive. Blame skin tone when you're just ugly/have a bad personality brehettes.

 

[GiGi]

You're kind of missing the wood for the trees here. The discussion is about black women saying that black men are color-struck when dating within their own race and have a preference for light-skinned women, right?

One of the more interesting rebuttals (outside of the one I quoted) was that black women do the same thing to black men, which has also been seen as true in many cases.

You're having an entirely different argument for an entirely different thread. If anything, you should be finding an argument for how black women don't show favor to lighter-skinned men. It kind of derails what could potentially spin itself into a good discussion.

There's an interesting argument to be made on both sides. What I quoted adds a VERY interesting dynamic that I've never seen mentioned though.

Focus.

My point is that black women need to stop buying into the light skin vs. dark skin nonsense where we are being pitted against each other in competition for the love of black men. The hierarchy for a black woman's physical attractiveness based on skin color has been going on for generation after generation. There is a reason that a lot of little black girls have self esteem issues....their "inferiority" is reinforced day after day by the men and women in their own community. The MAJORITY of the black men, when asked, will praise light skinned women and crap on dark yet dark skinned black women are supposed to pretend that they aren't aware of not being the object of black men's desires.

These same black women who are basically being told that they are "less than" are supposed to wait around for the "scraps" or just be happy that a black man even wants them. Or should be content to just share a man with 2 or 3 other black women. And I say that these women need to be open to their other "options" in other men. Perhaps if more black women were open to other men there would be less of a desperate need to have babies by broke kneegrows and deal with all of the unnecessary drama.

 

[labrokejames]

Aint never seen Kevin Hart look THIS miserable. He wanted to kill himself. Starting to think maybe he was just tired of her in general. She's using the skin color angle to distract from how annoying she must have been.