I agree with everything said. But in regards to the pedos age , that number can just as easily be a 44 year old man. (I know you said or older ) The 66 year old detective showed how easy it is to get in and out of there.
Book recommendation: The Cases That Haunt Us. Time usually reveals so much in this cases, just like a clarity, even if there is no exact answer. I don't see how a reasonably open minded person weighs all this and comes up with a scenario involving a nine year old or the parents.
Just me speculating, but the reason I would go younger is the way that note is written, the breakdown in that book talked about the movie references, not exact, but very close. Action/thrillers. There's some so dramatic and a little childish about the note, like someone playacting a role.
A 45 year old man something like that, living in the neighborhood, is more likely to have a wife, kids. Where was he going to take Jon Benet? Not home. The way it was planned is like half improvisation and half planning, kind of like a teenage/younger mind.
An 18-25 year old would know about smoke spots, vacant lots, maybe an empty house, kind of places where he was maybe planning to go, obviously a kids brain, not thinking as an adult either. The more stable and grounded a person is, the less likely they are to commit crimes like this. Obviously there are exceptions, (BTK) but it's a good rule. You always look for heavy drinkers/abuse drinkers, underemployed/unemployed, no partner, no kids.