is it me or after u turn 25 life gets real, I feel like Im losing my mind

[↓R↑LYB]

Did you ever go through the medication and therapy route after the trauma or are you carrying the PTS ? You remind me of my younger cousin, shes 21, she was a maths prodigy, extremely intelligent however plagued by the same thing. She found life and the concept of daily living pointless and also became fixated with suicide, had multiple attempts, would write pages and pages on this idealisation.

Reluctantly after it became too crippling she seeked help, now she is such a genius and incredible person to speak to, the years of suffering ultimately moulded her into such a great young woman.

Of course every person is different however it's a thought that this suffering might one day be the key to your genius.

the way you described your cousin is how I've felt a good chunk of my life. I've never attempted suicide but I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought about it numerous times. Like I said earlier, I'm 99% sure I'm suffering from some sort of mental illness, or at the very least residual trama from shyt that happened as a youngin, but I've been holding on to my sanity thus far.

My brothers on the other hand.........

 

[Anothergirl]

that go to work and be miserable, just to come home & do it all over again routine. I can see why my moms used to come home exhausted and unhappy. i said to myself ill never become that, but slowly I'am.


I'm 25 going on 26 and i feel like 25-35 is the last window to really achieve ur dreams...of course over 35 u can reach ur goals BUT it gets harder as u get older


I been going crazy lately, losing touch of reality....I want to be successful so bad and grind all day....i hate my job with a passion but i have bills to pay....i can see why criminals risk everything chasing success...its like, whats the point of living just to barely survive

i felt the same way at 25. just keep grinding. be patient and persistent and things will come together for you by the time you hit your 30's. it happens fast too...one day you'll just wake up...like i'm actually doing it. i'm right where i wanna be. so keep your heads up.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

But bruh , what you just said is making more money will make for a better life for you and your family. YOU said making money should be priority #1. What would money do if your son was born with a birth defect.. What if your daughter was born with autism? MJ had a very though life , but using the coli logic , Money should have mitigated these issues. How many of you would trade getting your ass beat for 15 years , for billions of dollars? That money didn't MEAN shyt to MJ .. His Father beating his ass MEANT alot. I think you may be missing the point here. I think we are all GODS in some way , but wealth dont buy health. I'm sure Steve Jobs felt very godlike , also-- Until he was touched by the hand of GOD.

If you gauge and measure your life based on how much money and material possessions you have , what happens when you lose it all? What else is there to live for?

Breh, people with money have access to the best care in the world. The best doctors, the best therapists, the best medication. Things will be a million times easier having a child with a birth defect if you have the finances to care for them beter. That's not even debateable.

Makes no sense to argue about it breh, you live your life the way you see fit, and I'll do the same. Like it says in my sig, don't mind me, I'm just another lost nikka

 

[Patriarch]

Breh, people with money have access to the best care in the world. The best doctors, the best therapists, the best medication. Things will be a million times easier having a child with a birth defect if you have the finances to care for them beter. That's not even debateable.

Makes no sense to argue about it breh, you live your life the way you see fit, and I'll do the same. Like it says in my sig, don't mind me, I'm just another lost nikka

Just reading your posts I think you trolling hard.. You got me

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Just reading your posts I think you trolling hard.. You got me

 

[Theraflu]

the way you described your cousin is how I've felt a good chunk of my life. I've never attempted suicide but I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought about it numerous times. Like I said earlier, I'm 99% sure I'm suffering from some sort of mental illness, or at the very least residual trama from shyt that happened as a youngin, but I've been holding on to my sanity thus far.

My brothers on the other hand.........

Breh you guys are usually geniuses. My cousin is just like you at 21 shes building a business to sell it. She was a maths prodigy got into uni at 16. Then that depression hit her Now shes so driven and intelligent. Genius and madness comes hand in hand breh. You can't have deep thinking madness without the genius. The depression moulded you. If you ever feel it weighs too much there's always help. My cousin was anti help but those meds changed her life. I know she will hit the 7 figures before 30.

How are your brothers doing

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

Im glad I had my son when I did. By the time he's 18, I'll be 36.

Gon pack my bags and go to Jamaica, on some How Stella Got Her Groove back tip

IN all honesty, this is real talk...Men and Woman should have their kids out of the house before they are 40.....But American society allows\encourages you to be an aimless kid until your early 30s, and not be mature enough to deal with real responsibility and real life situations

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

here's the problem. #1 you really believe in the american dream. if you just work hard you will succeed. that aint true at all. i know you've seen the article today talking about how th 1% has amassed an insane amt of wealth in the past 20 or so years. while the rest of us creep along. how is that possible? the game is rigged. now you may be thinking "well thats why i need to be in the 1%" good point. but let me remind you. unless you get there because you get lucky and come up with a great idea that no one steals from you before you can bring it to market or win the lottery, or play a professional sport or become a big time entertainer. because odds are if you're not one of those folks you are probably CHEATING people to get into that 1% slot. and when you cheat people for a living. how well do you sleep at night?

let me add this last little bit. people in general Run after FINANCIAL SUCCESS. the reality is this. there are only so many slots for you to become very successful on an economic level. that means if you dont make it, no matter how hard you've tried. you will FEEL Unsuccessful. which will lead to depression on some level and you being utterly disgusted with your life until you visit the grave.

So is financial success the only type of success out there? NO. You my friend need to find out what REAL success is outside of MONEY.

:qualitypost:

 

[street heat]

you people have got to stop putting so much value on money. im taking steps to earn a higher salary, but damn im not letting myself get all depressed just because i only make a little over 30k. stay positive, stay focused, and realize you probably dont have it as bad as you think. always remember there are millions of people on this planet who would switch places with you in an eye blink. also, if you are unemployed and feel like you cant find a job, there are jobs out there that offer decent pay and dont require a degree, but they are typically jobs others dont want to do, so you just have to sack up and do one.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

I think most of you are victims of American Exceptionalism. We are indoctrinated at a young age , and taught to believe we can achieve or become anything we want to be. When you buy into this system we become malcontented. Poor folk from all over the world come here each year in pursuit of the "American Dream" , this dream usually involves amassing large fortunes. In Britain , at one point , if your father was a butler , you'd happily accept this fate and take pride in it. In stratified societies like India , in the Caste system , not only do you accept your position in this lifetime , but you should also expect to be reincarnated in the same position next lifetime. We live our lives believing that nothing is out of the realm of possibility. If your neighbor has a new BMW , why cant you? Not saying there is anything wrong with this , but we're living in a constant state of "status anxiety"..

I think what most of us are craving is "meaning". I read once that people dont crave happiness , they crave meaning. A Buddhist Monk will set himself on fire if he believes it MEANS something(clearly the feeling of burning flesh is not a happy one). Some Ascetic people live depraved lives devoid of luxury because of what it MEANS. A Nun gives herself to GOD because of what it MEANS. I challenge all of you to give up your pursuit of material things and find out what drives your life. I studied Buddhism when I was younger because I found this was the only religion that rejected desire instead of using it as an incentive. With some religions , Heaven or Paradise is viewed as a place where you can have whatever you desire. I think the problem is desire , itself. Desire is like a fire , it just continues to burn and consume. I was 23 making nearly 50k a year (which is alot to people in the Midwest).. Now I'm 25 , and id be ok making 30k a year and living alot more modestly. I got a raise a few months back and thought this would make me happier..

:anotherqualitypost:

 

[Primordial]

I want to be successful so bad and grind all day....i hate my job with a passion but i have bills to pay....i can see why criminals risk everything chasing success...its like, whats the point of living just to barely survive

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Breh you guys are usually geniuses. My cousin is just like you at 21 shes building a business to sell it. She was a maths prodigy got into uni at 16. Then that depression hit her Now shes so driven and intelligent. Genius and madness comes hand in hand breh. You can't have deep thinking madness without the genius. The depression moulded you. If you ever feel it weighs too much there's always help. My cousin was anti help but those meds changed her life. I know she will hit the 7 figures before 30.

How are your brothers doing

When I was younger my moms actually tried to have me go on meds, but I told the doctor no. My character wouldn't let me accept help for shyt, even if I needed it. I said I'd rather kill myself fighting, than give up and take pills. She even tried to drop me off a homeless shelter one time. On some where going for a ride. 3 hours later we're in fukking Raleigh at a shelter and my bags are packed in the car...I learned way to early not to trust anyone

All of my brothers a wreck man. shyt my whole extended family is fukked up on both sides. Only person I'm feeling for is my 3 year old newphew. I'm honestly scared for his life to the point where I'm thinking of adopting him. I don't want him to end up like his pops or uncles

 

[SemiEnlightenedBum]

*points to avi and proceeds to levitate back into multiverse maytricks*

 

[Kufismack]

Life can get real at anytime whether you are 4 and lose your parents or some shyt or possibly never if your family rich like dat.
People are taught from day one what they should do for something they don't even know if they want it or not. That American Dream or just some kind of success. Then you later down the line you realize you didn't really want this you just did what you were told early on and see someone else living what you now know is what you want but you can't because you've been doing all this shyt that was pointless to you're true goal that you've figured out a tad too late.

Honestly just do whatever the fukk you want to do, if you don't know what it is, try a lot of things so you know what you DON'T want and go from there. Whatever it is do it, literally whatever you want to, if you want to go for world domination if that's what you truly want (highly doubt that's happening ) do it at the end of the day only person who needs to be satisfied with the life you've chosen at that sir is uncle sam. And by uncle sam I mean yourself.

But then again I made it sound a lot that it actually is so you can say fukk it, but that is my 2 and a half cents.

 

[Hiphoplives4eva]

Breh, it kinda hit me when I was talking to my girl a few weeks and she told me she viewed me as rich. I was confused as hell cause I don't view myself that way, then sat back and thought about it like

And the crazy part is every time I hit a new plateau I feel broker than I did when I made less. No lie breh, I'm making 200k a year right now and I look at myself in the mirror sometimes and think "nikka you ain't shyt cause you're not a millionaire yet." So I stay up until 3am hustling and grinding trying to find a way to make more money, but I always end up feeling like I'm farther away from making it the closer I get

I told myself I wanna hit 30k/mo by next year and I can already feel myself being miserable because it's not 100k/mo. Or a million a month. Or a hundred million a month.

I honestly feel like I might be insane some times

You making 200K but aint donated to the coli!