Is It c00nish to Think that Other Races are More Attractive than Your Own?
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Gutter Life Records
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No we're actually agreement there, I thought I made that clear with the concise "diversity and stimuli" statement. Didn't think I needed to rehash black history on the Coli. However, the higher quality of the black man or woman the greater chance they'd have to date outside their race for an equal.
Pull up some quotes of people you've seen saying that other races of women are more attractive than black women.
Elle Driver
Veteran
Definitely sambo behavior.
PurpleRose
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Tariq Nasheed. This is why I don't take Tariq seriously. The women Tariq describes "hanging out at the club" , "baby mama drama" "undeveloped mind", and equates it with the majority of black women, ignoring the stats of educated black women who do want to settle down and can't find a mate. I'd rather listen to these brothers Why Can't Black Men And Women Get Along?
This is the reality in the dating game out there:
- unrealistic expectations
- financial disparity between two people
- different backgrounds and as one of the brothers in the link I provided said different "conditioning"
This nonsense about outgrowing black women simplifies the dynamics in the dating game out there. If the excuse for dating a white woman is that you're tired of black women, it's still a value based judgement on race.
You know good and well, any black male that says he's mainly attracted to white/Asian/Latina women isn't going to say he believes he's inferior (in any way) to the males.
Do you think deep down in a place they can't acknowledge do you think they feel that way?
Gutter Life Records
Banned
If the excuse for dating a white woman is that you're tired of black women, it's still a value based judgement on race.
I don't agree with everything the man says, all the time. He uses race in his topics assuming that his audience is mostly, if not all black. Nasheed also said in the video that it's a financial decision. Which I agree, you may have your shyt together but black women may not be feeling you like that. It's not a matter of self-hate, non-black women may just understand where you coming from because of commonality is income, and education. Although black women are highly educated and earn more than black men, it doesn't mean they make the best choices in dating. Hell, look at Phaedra from Housewives of Atlanta. She's educated, and believed she was a role model for young black women but she's married to a light skin (bi-racial) thug now in prison for 8 years. Are you implying that black men should wait around for black women to until they're finished indulging in loser ass men? Then when they're used up and humbled we're suppose to swoop in and be there for her?
This is the biggest problem I find in the black community is that women don't recognize the struggle of the black man and often leaves him behind in favor of an easier opportunity. She dates drug dealers and thugs throughout college well into adulthood, then wake up 35+ wanting to find the "nerd" she fukked over, daydreaming of cooking for him with "Les Nubians - Makeda" blasting in the kitchen.
Meanwhile he's learned to live without her, he's learned to expand his horizons and the bigger he becomes the less suitable black women there are for him. Keep in mind I'm talking from both a statistical and empirical standpoint.
We need more Deja's straight out of high school. She is an example of how every black woman should be with their friend, boyfriend or husband. Behind him, pushing him hard to succeed, but also being sensitive to the fact he is at a disadvantage so his grind has to be harder, more difficult and requires greater sacrifice.
PurpleRose
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Dude those are movies lol. Where are you getting this?
People are dating within the social brackets of what they know half the time - this is dependent on class, background, income, socialisation. Are we really consigning assessing each other through the lens of movies and Hollywood? there's a grim economic and by extension a grim cultural reality that influences the choices people make in selecting a mate. That's why Tariq's over simplicity on of any topic isn't helpful and feeds into the lazy analysis of the black experience which isn't helpful. I can tell you point blank that none of my black sisters want the thug you describe, and I'm not married to one.
People are dating within the social brackets of what they know half the time - this is dependent on class, background, income, socialisation. Are we really consigning assessing each other through the lens of movies and Hollywood? there's a grim economic and by extension a grim cultural reality that influences the choices people make in selecting a mate. That's why Tariq's over simplicity on of any topic isn't helpful and feeds into the lazy analysis of the black experience which isn't helpful. I can tell you point blank that none of my black sisters want the thug you describe, and I'm not married to one.
Gutter Life Records
Banned
Why does it seem like we're saying the same thing and you're finding a reason to disagree? The film was an example, by the way. As far as you and your sisters go, you guys are a small minority and I'm pretty sure the brothers will back me up on that one.
PurpleRose
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Nah we're not on the same page. First I took issue with this
Inherent is a strong word, an attribute. Part of someone's essential make up. It isn't seeing a beautiful woman and appreciating her beauty for what it is, it is not being attracted to ones kind on a very basic level which is why I asked if that person grew up in a community with people who only look like them what would their preferences be? You can't just describe an inherent attraction to something without wondering why this person possesses that attribute in the first place. And as black people there are a loads of reasons why we "inherently" shun our own kind.
Inherent is a strong word, an attribute. Part of someone's essential make up. It isn't seeing a beautiful woman and appreciating her beauty for what it is, it is not being attracted to ones kind on a very basic level which is why I asked if that person grew up in a community with people who only look like them what would their preferences be? You can't just describe an inherent attraction to something without wondering why this person possesses that attribute in the first place. And as black people there are a loads of reasons why we "inherently" shun our own kind.
I was going to bring this up also, I don't see/hear other men going through this
Gutter Life Records
Banned
You're talking in circles. And I kinda hate thoroughly correcting people. There are people who have inherent dating preferences:
Secondly, I explained why successful black men often find women outside their race attractive. There's a shortage of eligible black women.