Lot of pretty wild assumptions that again speak to the root of what I'm talking about.
Not every single mom knew their child's father prob wouldn't be in the picture when they met.
fact is, they still chose a dude who ended up being a deadbeat. were there signs and red flags? who knows...but chances are they have some responsibility in the fact they chose to have a child with someone who ended up becoming a deadbeat down the road.
Lot of dudes have preached that power simp "chicks only wanna fukk with bad boys" (implying chicks DON'T fukk with them because they are "good guys"), over and over to the point now that people here seem to deem it as fact. But that's not true, all or even most of the time.
i don't know if this is addressed to me but i didn't say anything about bad boys and women choosing them over simps.
And even still, by "not talking about the dads" you are giving them a pass. If you don't think something's a problem you won't talk about it.
i'm not giving them a pass at all. i said in my post that they ain't shyt. they are already considered scum. but what more can i say about them or to them? "don't be a deadbeat dad because being a deadbeat dad is bad mmkay???"
Second you're assuming every single mom is looking for sympathy/handouts. Again false. You make this leap while ignoring all the actual cries for sympathy/handouts by dudes on this forum. So you show your bias again.
they're not all looking for sympathy (although some are). i'm wrong on that one. but two clarifications i'd like to make.
-can be totally responsible, partially responsible or not responsible at all for bad stuff that happens to them (when it comes to women having children with deadbeats, i'd say it's partially responsible most of the time (yes there are exceptions))
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there's nothing wrong with having sympathy for someone even if they made a mistake and are responsible (or partially responsible for it). but if you have sympathy for someone who doesn't accept their fair share of responsibility in their misery (assuming they are partially responsible) then you are a sucker.
So even when dudes on that #fukkabytch shyt think they're being objective, they aren't. Your "objective truths" are built in a "reality" created under the premise that men are victims and women are their oppressors. I am not even saying shyt is all hunky dory for anybody- men or women- but its just wild how often dudes here seem to err on one side over the other
i think that ultimately we're all responsible for our personal happiness and it's up to us to achieve it. what you're talking about, both sides do but i guess i somewhat agree with you (it's just that you're kinda doing the same a little bit but in reverse).