Why can't we just be honest?
Women value physical attraction. Why is that so hard to accept?
It's not just a "subset" of women
Women everywhere are always talking about complete male strangers they find physically attractive.
And yet there are millions of examples of unattractive men landing quality women. All of us know dozens of such examples from our own lives.
I'm
maybe of average attractiveness. Not a smooth talker at all. No charisma. Not rich. And when I was single I was very slow to initiate anything and would almost never "shoot my shot".
Yet I married a far more attractive woman than myself, who was also highly intelligent, had a great career, and a great personality, who could have had her pick of any guy. And between school, work, and church, there were a few dozen other women I could have successfully pursued if I wasn't focused on her, some of whom made their availability known. Being deeply involved in church, passionate about social justice and Black empowerment, and successful at what I do in life was enough. The sort of women who I was interested in are the sort of women who are interested in passionate and honorable men. And there's honestly a lot more women looking for that sort of man than there are men for them to choose from.
I posted a picture in here once of one of the most beautiful woman I knew, and she's a college graduate who is fun to be around and great at what she does in life. The picture was a wedding photo and she married a straight nerd of average looks, who is basically just a really good guy who went to college with her and made it his business to go after her. My best male friend in college was a similar nerd, married a woman way more attractive than himself for some of the same reasons. I could keep going for a long time.
Of course, guys like me aren't going to appeal to every woman.....but MOST women have something they're looking for that isn't just looks. Maybe it's church, maybe it's money, maybe it's personality, maybe it's a shared hobby, maybe it's a shared life experience, maybe it's just someone who truly understands them or does the work to show how much they care about them.
When you realize that you don't need to attract "most women" or "the typical woman", but just need to land that ONE woman who fits you, life gets a lot easier.
Even the women on here admit that they must be at least physically attracted to any man they're dating.
Looks matter.
My experience is that most women are able to become physically attracted to guys they like over time, even if they weren't at first. The objectively attractive guy has the advantage at the beginning, the unattractive guy has to more slowly work his way into her heart through other means and she begins to see him as physically attractive over time. Guys do the same thing - the women I had an emotional connection to were way more attractive to me than they would have been to some neutral third party.
All that morality, be a good man, have hobbies etc goes out of the window if you have the right look. Murderers, serial killers and abusers have relationships even wives with all kinds of women. Society still finds it difficult to deal with the true nature of female attraction.
