I'm entering my "focus on self. No hoes." phase. Any insight?

[The BasedFather]

Lowkey been on some monk mode/celibate stuff myself

Chasing ass so much and relationships practically since I turned 20 that I never really focused on myself.

Hitting the gym, reading books, enjoying life and focusing on the goals that I want for ME. Not worried about trying to make these chicks happy anymore.

Got some stuff I wanna get in motion by this time next year so I really gotta buckle down.

p*ssy be calling me but it’ll always be there

 

[Braman]

I be letting them monopolize my space and get cozy. I try to manage my time but I get soft when they be like "U* don't like me no more?".

So I find myself playing catch up on thrills. It that makes sense.

Basically, I'm a heartbreaker. But I'm too old for that shyt. It just be hard because I like a pretty thick jawn sprung on me.

This is oddly relateable I think I was in your exact same place


Whats worked for me:

-Stay away from the gym at peak hours. And don’t even open IG. The flesh is weak and both them things will keep a ngga horny

-Dont let bytches know you bout something. Nggas must be out here dogging chicks left and right bc most chicks come to the table assuming you ain’t shyt. So if you show them potential, they are going to fall in love and hence you get stuck in the situation you described.

You gotta make women stop fw YOU. Make it known it ain’t to scratch that itch and have a 1 time fling, you have no time for em. Most chicks will eliminate themself at that point. But you must NEVER give them a glimmer of hope that you’re a ‘good guy’. So no dates, no good morning texts, absolutely no phone calls. Those things make women get attached.

If you text, set the expectations early by texting hours apart. Keep her at arms length. If she complains dead it and move on. You know how women be like ‘omg these guys wannabe penpals and never meet up’. Uh, yea, be that guy. And I say that bc it’s not feasible to just never communicate with a woman again. You can still do it but with a huge fence up.

Do all that and your phone will be as dry as you’d like

 

[maxamusa]

Congrats OP; I know you've been going thru it.....


good look on your path righteousness

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

This is oddly relateable I think I was in your exact same place


Whats worked for me:

-Stay away from the gym at peak hours. And don’t even open IG. The flesh is weak and both them things will keep a ngga horny

-Dont let bytches know you bout something. Nggas must be out here dogging chicks left and right bc most chicks come to the table assuming you ain’t shyt. So if you show them potential, they are going to fall in love and hence you get stuck in the situation you described.

You gotta make women stop fw YOU. Make it known it ain’t to scratch that itch and have a 1 time fling, you have no time for em. Most chicks will eliminate themself at that point. But you must NEVER give them a glimmer of hope that you’re a ‘good guy’. So no dates, no good morning texts, absolutely no phone calls. Those things make women get attached.

If you text, set the expectations early by texting hours apart. Keep her at arms length. If she complains dead it and move on. You know how women be like ‘omg these guys wannabe penpals and never meet up’. Uh, yea, be that guy. And I say that bc it’s not feasible to just never communicate with a woman again. You can still do it but with a huge fence up.

Do all that and your phone will be as dry as you’d like

Cliffs:

Don't be the clean up man.

 

[Kasper KArr]

Aye @Uncouth Savage given that “no hoes” is a norm for a fat bum like like yourself, can you answer OPs question? You know, share your knowledge and give him inside tips and tricks

 

[8WON6]

I know a "No Fap Brehs" thread when i see one.

obligatory "Limitless" gif

 

[Diunx]

Get a fleshlight.

 

[The Prince of All Saiyans]

every couple weeks it’s a new scheme

 

[cyndaquil]

This is oddly relateable I think I was in your exact same place


Whats worked for me:

-Stay away from the gym at peak hours. And don’t even open IG. The flesh is weak and both them things will keep a ngga horny

-Dont let bytches know you bout something. Nggas must be out here dogging chicks left and right bc most chicks come to the table assuming you ain’t shyt. So if you show them potential, they are going to fall in love and hence you get stuck in the situation you described.

You gotta make women stop fw YOU. Make it known it ain’t to scratch that itch and have a 1 time fling, you have no time for em. Most chicks will eliminate themself at that point. But you must NEVER give them a glimmer of hope that you’re a ‘good guy’. So no dates, no good morning texts, absolutely no phone calls. Those things make women get attached.

If you text, set the expectations early by texting hours apart. Keep her at arms length. If she complains dead it and move on. You know how women be like ‘omg these guys wannabe penpals and never meet up’. Uh, yea, be that guy. And I say that bc it’s not feasible to just never communicate with a woman again. You can still do it but with a huge fence up.

Do all that and your phone will be as dry as you’d like

"How to not get hoes: A short essay" by @Braman

 

[Gifted one]

Stay strong breh. That's when women be choosing. They can sense when a man is focusing on bettering himself or when he has a lady.

Implement some Cardio & Calisthenics while at it. Listen to some instrumentals

 

[Fiji Water]

Stay strong breh. That's when women be choosing. They can sense when a man is focusing on bettering himself or when he has a lady.

Implement some Cardio & Calisthenics while at it. Listen to some instrumentals

I put on Kamasi Washington and be scaring the hoes

 

[Fiji Water]

@cyndaquil I apologize for the neg. I meant to be sassy with a plus 5. I got you byke. Lmaoooo

 

[Heafcliffe]

Taking that time is probably one of the best things you can do, b.

You'll learn true happiness when people know nothing about your actions/ transgressions.

 

[Primetime]

Tbh over the last 10 years "focus on yourself" has become one of those overused idioms that is nice to say but is meaningless unless you expand on it. IOW without a plan, the emotional high of "i'm focusing on myself now!" will wear thin once you realize you haven't accomplished anything but deprive yourself of p*ssy.

If you're not where you want to be in life, you should lay out some SMART goals. i.e. say you need to get a cert to get a promotion.. well, lay out a 3-month plan of studying 2 hours a day, 4x a week. If your 4 days are Mon/Tues & Thur/Fri... well, you still have Saturday and Sunday to be a thot.

Develop several smart goals (work-related, fitness, entrepreneurial, etc), rank/prioritize them, and see what your schedule would look like if you implemented at least (the most important) one. Challenge yourself to implement 2 or more.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

I'm a philanderer but I gotta stop being a ho. Too much on the line. Not in a dramatic way, but I gotta keep it a buck. Sex be a distraction. Women be time consuming. Etc.

I'm asking the thorough brehs, what's really good? I bulked up properly to 205 from 185. Been reading a lot. Eating Quran, too. I just fall weak sometimes and let a bish run a month out my life out of habit. shyt ain't even fun no more.

Unfollow everyone on social media.

Stay home and actually get work done

Easy pųssy is great but a liability. Leave it alone