If you're a parent and can offer nothing to your child in their adult life, you've ultimately failed

[duncanthetall]

I can get your argument OP. But as black Americans there is a reason why so many of our parents didn’t have anything to pass down to us. We literally, until relatively recently, weren’t allowed to accumulate wealth and especially property in the same manner.

 

[frush11]

My parents don’t owe me anything. They fed me, raised me, paid for my education, put a roof over over my head etc. That’s more than enough.

You didn't create yourself, they created you. Thats what they are supposed to do.

 

[The Realist Perspective]

OP

You are an immature ingrate. Parents raised, clothed, and fed you for 18 years. They owe you nothing.

Well I wouldn't say an immature ingrate. Funny insult though. I would say I am entitled to feel this way. But I couldn't imagine doing this to my son. I'd honestly feel like a failure if I couldn't pass something on to him to help him through this world. What's a great upbringing when it can be all for naught in a failed adult life, which is much more long of a time period?

 

[Koba St]

You didn't create yourself, they created you. Thats what they are supposed to do.

There are millions of bum ass parents who don’t even give their kids the bare minimum

 

[NeilCartwright]

I’d say generations before us got a pass. My grandparents dealt with Jim Crow and my folks didn’t grow up with internet.

I’d say if I don’t leave my kids and inheritance then I ain’t shyt

 

[The Realist Perspective]

Absolutism is a dangerous thought process

In certain cases. But there is no true argument that the opposite is better for your lineage.

 

[PaperEnterprise]

I love my folks. My brother and I take care of them...my mom gave us whatever she inherited. It wasn’t much. I use to feel how you feel but then realized i gotta go get it. Eventually thinking my parents should have done more and others got a step up on me was making me not build generational wealth.

in the last 3 years I have made more progress than I did from 22 to 37. It wasn’t my parents fault that I made good money but bought stupid shyt, never took care of my credit. Any opportunity to do something good, I’d take the short cut. My parents were immigrants and for them to get me here...I’m forever thankful.

one day you gotta grow up and get it.

 

[African Peasant]

Another Coli cat whining like a kid because Daddy was not a millionaire and did not give me money.

If your parents fed you, sent you to school, and gave you affection and a good education, you should be grateful.

Stop envying other kids because their parents gave them a house or something.

Be grateful for what your parents gave you and do better for your kids. That's how a family progresses thru generations.

 

[Thanos]

If your parent took the time to feed you, and make sure you at least somewhat fit to particpate in society. Everything is extra. It's not owed.

 

[OG Talk]

OP

You are an immature ingrate. Parents raised, clothed, and fed you for 18 years. They owe you nothing.

It sounds cool. But you stop being a provider and support system for your children at 18 because of some arbitrary law made by white men?

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

What's a great upbringing when it can be all for naught in a failed adult life

nikka that would be YOUR fault, not your parents

 

[The Realist Perspective]

DON'T BLAME YOUR PARENTS BECAUSE YOU AREN'T AS FAR ALONG AS YOU WANT TO BE. STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN AND BLAMING OTHERS FOR WHERE YOU ARE. GET IT OUT THE MUD AND BE THE PERSON YOU WANTED YOUR PARENTS TO BE.

I am very blessed to be where I am now but like I said that's been 100% all off my "getting it out the mud." I far exceeded financially what my parents wanted of me.

But.

This is not the right type of thinking at all. You should not raise your kids in just any type of environment as well as not set them to sail on just any type of ship.

 

[old pig]

OP

You are an immature ingrate. Parents raised, clothed, and fed you for 18 years. They owe you nothing.

ya I didn’t read his post fully...I came in the thread thinking his parents were deadbeats and didn’t do shyt for him...I’ve worked with too many children who grew up with far less and still managed to come out ahead as adults to feel “sorry” for this nikka

 

[MidniteJay]

Man... I'm just glad my parents weren't abusive a$$holes.

 

[Music Fiend]

Im almost 30, my grandmother spent the first 10-15 years of her life picking cotton on a plantation as a sharecropper.

We arent nearly as far removed

when you break it down, it takes a few generations to get it right. 1st generation grew up in poverty and found a way out but did what they had to do to provide, 2nd generation out gets to shift from providing to being happy and saving for the next generation