If a man cheats on his woman bcuz of lack of sex in the relationship. He's the VICTIM.

[Rockstar Mom]

Absolutely. Using sex as a bargaining chip to yield favorable (and usually temporary) results has been at play for a long time. This is why the OP rings bells cause when that "true self" comes out, it changes the relationship dynamic and leaves the male "wanting that old thing back". If he's truly invested, he'll, at a minimum, do SOMETHING to get back to that feeling..Even exhaust himself mentally and physically and do things "differently" for the sake of "normalcy"..


Knowingly or otherwise, she's using her sexual access as a weapon. Not a good look.

It depends. Some men won't be acting right in the relationship, and just overall not "playing his part", and still think a woman is supposed to fukk him everynight That's not how his works. And he'll be the main one to say someone's withholding from him, or using it a weapon. Like Ashley said, you're doing nothing to turn me on or make me want to have sex with you.

 

[Neuromancer]

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• Nov 19, 2016

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[Still Benefited]

Your not a victim whej you take matters in your own hands

Once you cheat,at that point shes the victim,but they say an eye for a eye

 

[Shadow King]

Not this particular thread. But there have been threads on here from posters saying they should be having sex everyday, twice a day, multiple times a day, drop to your knees at the snap of a finger. shyt like that just isn't realistic.

I imagine 3-4x a week would be good enough me but then again nobody is lighting my fire like that I could also imagine being a sex everyday dude if I'm that much into that woman.

 

[Raid]

Nah lots of things can affect sex drive for women. Stress can make libido nonexistent. Residual issues in the relationship can do this too

Well I thought sex took stress away so......

 

[Ashley Banks]

That lets me know that a change occurred with him and his behavior cause if he had conducted himself with her in the same fashion as before, she wouldn't have issue cold, 2 minutes sessions. Her declining desire is to be expected. It's logical. Good to hear ya friend worked that out..

There are women however, whose men keep it consistent. Same energy throughout the relationship. Shouldn't be an issue, right?Sadly, nope. Those women try to weaponize sex or like OP talked about, reveal their true selves after investment and that's a problem, especially in marriage.

Another reason I can think of is not feeling comfortable with her body, this can happen after having kids, you don't always look the same so naturally you're not gonna want to show anyone.

It's not always a woman trying to use sex as a weapon. I know a lot of men think that because sex is basically the most important thing to them but for women a lot of things affect our sex drive.

 

[HabitualLineSteppa]

It depends. Some men won't be acting right in the relationship, and just overall not "playing his part", and still think a woman is supposed to fukk him everynight That's not how his works. And he'll be the main one to say someone's withholding from him, or using it a weapon. Like Ashley said, you're doing nothing to turn me on or make me want to have sex with you.

I feel you. I believe that eventually, yeah, a woman is going to be less and less up for it when they see their mate is not upholding their end of things (at whatever capacity that may consist of). I'm speaking to the point of a change, without warning or heads up, from the woman's side.

Folks talk about communication this or that in relationship and frankly, from my observation over the years, its been put out there as if men are the culprits behind the lack when in actuality, women who pull these sorts of stunts, by and large, act juvenile when presented with the, "So why we not smashin" discussion. Even when they do engage in the conversation, it has some, "I need you to do this new thing for me in order to be sexual like that again" reasoning behind it. Growth is one thing but, arbitrary "Make me feel better about sex with you" is another and again, from my observation, there's an insidious plot at hand.

 

[StickStickly]

Well I thought sex took stress away so......

It doesn't for some people. It doesn't for me so I can imagine there are others out there who have the same experience. Forcing yourself to have sex when you're not feeling it feels like nothing, like wiping your butt. For a lot of men it's a stress relief because it feels like something pent up is released, but for some women it just doesn't feel the same

 

[HabitualLineSteppa]

Another reason I can think of is not feeling comfortable with her body, this can happen after having kids, you don't always look the same so naturally you're not gonna want to show anyone.

It's not always a woman trying to use sex as a weapon. I know a lot of men think that because sex is basically the most important thing to them but for women a lot of things affect our sex drive.

Agreed. I'm accounting for that, especially the first point regarding body image. Dealt with it with my son's mother for almost 2 1/2 years after he was born; hormone issues due to birth control, ect. I also observed areas where she did try to take advantage of my person and it had to be called out and corrected immediately for exactly what it was: Manipulation.

 

[Raid]

It doesn't for some people. It doesn't for me so I can imagine there are others out there who have the same experience. Forcing yourself to have sex when you're not feeling it feels like nothing, like wiping your butt. For a lot of men it's a stress relief because it feels like something pent up is released, but for some women it just doesn't feel the same

I understand this but if you got a man especially a good one sometimes you gotta make sacrifices you can't expect him to suffer for the both of you......