"I Married A Guy I Wasn't Attracted To"

[#1 pick]

I kind of wished my hands was bigger though. im jealous cause I wanted my hands to be the size of fukking jackhammers and I got rubber mallets... My hands are rough to the touch tho.

My dad is the same way. People used to say I got never worked hard hands. They are right, I hate blue collar. But give me a computer, a mic, an audience and I am gucci. Give me a mop, broom, tools or mechanical shyt

 

[Neuromancer]

I see older women approach on their own lots of times. Some of them are straight on the prowl. For younger women they usually appear to be with their friends. Like maybe their friends gas them up to go talk to a guy. There's an app, bumble I think, designed for the women to do the approaching

I know the app. Not enough sistas. Or any really.

at the bolded. That's because they're usually past prime and don't really have heads checking for them.


Never seen this happen. @the second bold.

 

[#1 pick]

Why do people act like it's so difficult to find a spouse that is attractive and has a nice personality? As long as standards are reasonable and not too high it shouldn't be that hard.
I swear a lot of these people that keep pushing the idea of looks not mattering or being a low priority are lazy or ugly looking people themselves which would explain their opinion.

Because what people find attractive is usually more rare than what they don't find attractive. Most people don't like ugly, out of shape and the average.

 

[Mr swag]

Most women do. They just don't say it out loud. She sure took a lot of words to say the equivalent of nothing

They were FORCED to settle. This women went a different route

 

[Woman of god]

I know the app. Not enough sistas. Or any really.

at the bolded. That's because they're usually past prime and don't really have heads checking for them.


Never seen this happen. @the second bold.

I've only observed it at the mall and sometimes when I see larger groups of kids by the bus stop. The older woman scenario is far more common

 

[intruder]

Her name is Ketsia Gustave. Most likely Haitian or Martiniquan or Guadeloupean heritage.

With that said you also have to take the mindset of said people to understand her decision so let me let you in on a few details about them.

Haitian parents (for example) tend to teach their daughters to marry "well" and not necessarily for love. While among americans you can pull chicks with just "confidence" in this chick's world (at least part of it) the choosing of a mate takes a lot more into account such as family name and wealth, financial future and just how much they can build with said mate based on their potential. Not saying american culture doesnt but these things weigh far more in other cultures than plain old "love".

The beauty about Americans is that (for the most part) they truly believe in love. I often see two mofos married in America and when I see them and thier individual families I cant help but wonder how they ever got together in the first place. Completely different social ranks, backgrounds and views on life. Yet they are married and love each other to death. This wouldnt happen in Haiti and many other societies. Hell your parents wouldnt even allow you to be friends, let alone date enough to be married. Thus why it's often weird to me when i see black american who are successful or dudes from "good families" marrying strippers and other women that their social ranks would typically look down upon.

AGain, that the love factor. Not that it's right or wrong but many other societies dont give love as much weight in choosing a mate

 

[Neuromancer]

I've only observed it at the mall and sometimes when I see larger groups of kids by the bus stop. The older woman scenario is far more common

I'm sure it is.

I live near a high school and I don't see girls approaching the guys.kids still seem to play the same school yard games as always. But it could be regional.

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

You probably have a reasonable definition of "attractive" like most men do. Now go in the rating threads in The Salon and look at the scores brehettes hand out to men who clearly aren't ugly and have a lot going for themselves

shyt we even had a brehette straight up say that her opinion of a dude goes down if she see him with a chick she feel ain't on his level.

Egos real out here in the field.

 

[miranda]

No, most American women are like you. Old and online putting up pics trying to attract men you are not attracted to so they can play provider after years of your youth chasing men you are attracted to.....and more men are opting out after realizing the cycle

Ouch. Tell us how you really feel about us. Dang.

But the story doesn't seem that strange, she developed a romantic attraction to him over time with out any pressure of dating or sex. It not like an unattractive guy she didn't know approached her for a date and she forced herself to go out with him while being physically repulsed just in the hope that he had a great personality.
Guy that was not ugly, but not her type, stuck around for multiple months/years, treating her well, with no pressure, only indicated his interest once, none of the men that hit her checklist were approaching, she started genuinely become friends with dude and that transfered into romantic feelings. Sounds cool.

 

[ultraflexed]

Most women do. They just don't say it out loud. She sure took a lot of words to say the equivalent of nothing

Still not feeling that other post you made about ignoring body counts, I was going to make a separate thread on that...still might....

But anyways.....everyone checks for looks, as far myself it's goes like

10 in face+no booty=

10 face+10 body+broke=

10 face/body+ghetto =

10 face/body+smart+job+common sense=

 

[yakamein]

Dark skin, at least 5'11, not skinny, nice teeth, good paying job, smells like name brand Cologne, clear skin, loves God and me

 

[King Sun]

sometimes you guys project your insecurities so blatant on here

 

[Woman of god]

They were FORCED to settle. This women went a different route

It sounds like she had her moment of realization earlier than a lot of women, especially if they got married or exclusively dated while still teens. It takes many women a few more "life experiences " to come to this woman's conclusions, but they usually still get there. She got there a lot earlier

 

[Poitier]

But the story doesn't seem that strange, she developed a romantic attraction to him over time with out any pressure of dating or sex. It not like an unattractive guy she didn't know approached her for a date and she forced herself to go out with him while being physically repulsed just in the hope that he had a great personality.
Guy that was not ugly, but not her type, stuck around for multiple months/years, treating her well, with no pressure, only indicated his interest once, none of the men that hit her checklist were approaching, she started genuinely become friends with dude and that transfered into romantic feelings. Sounds cool.

lol you say this like its common at a young age.

 

[Koba St]

She wanted a man with these physical traits


SIX FEET MOTHERfukkING SEVEN INCHES LOL! WHERE DO THESE WOMEN GET THESE RIDICULOUS STANDARDS FROM?!

And they wonder why most of them are single mothers with b*stard kids.