I don't know if i was right in telling my gf this but we got in an argument and..

[MikeyC]

she was asking me what was wrong why was i acting real bothered all of a sudden. At first i was telling her it was because we missed the iron man movie because she was taking long in getting ready to come to my crib then she kept on asking what was wrong once i told her it's cool to not come at all. I told her i rather not say anything and that i'm just pissed off, to leave it at that. She keeps insisting so i just let it all out, tell her that her nagging and jealousy as of late has been pis*ing me off and that i get tired quick if a girl starts getting like that. I then said there's more to it but i rather not say anything because i just want to keep it to myself. She says please tell me, i know there's more. So i let it out and tell her, you haven't lost weight like you had said you would when we first met. now she's like thick chubby girl, and i saw past that cuz i saw potential in her, i knew once she lose all that, she'd be a hot girl and there'd be no problem. I told her all that potential that i've seen and you still haven't done sh*t about it when it's been a year and a half. She starts saying in a low voice "i know... you've been patient with me and i feel like i failed you". I told her "I catch myself looking at other women and i dont want to! i don't want to look at other women, have the urge to cheat just cuz i'm not getting that here, i told you i'd be patient with you but if that sh*t happens, it's going to disappoint me!" mind you she's great in every other aspect, she's a great cook, can cut my hair, isn't a gold digger, understanding etc etc. everything you'd want in a woman! But that right there is the only thing that has bothered me and i've told her time and time what she needed to do, how to eat right, what exercises to do. She started crying a bit as expected and tells me, "I don't want to lose you, i want to make every effort to keep you, i know i haven't accomplished it, it's just that i dont' have to time sometimes", i'm like that's no excuse, everyone has 30 min of their day to do something about it and you don't food prep which i've told you it's all about how you eat and how consistent you are with it. I'm tired of you coming to my crib saying "oh i haven't ate in 7 hours, lets go get something" , it's like a never ending cycle and the wrong way to go about it. I told her, i'm a real dude, and this is as real as it gets, you asked me what was bothering me and this is basically it right here. You know me as a person that never hides how he feels and this is the best way to present it to you. She's like, "i'm going to go to the gym right now and work out, i'm also going to get a trainer, i don't want to lose you, please"

to get to the point, am i right for standing up and explaining how i feel cuz it's been bottled in me and i made it clear from the rip since the first day we became official that i'll be patient with her in her weight loss or am i an a*shole for being real?? Communication is key in a relationship and i've never hid anything in regards to my daily status of how we're doing.

 

[ridedolo]

the only incentive you gave her is to fukk that personal trainer she's about to hire.

 

[C-Styles]

the only incentive you gave her is to fukk that personal trainer she's about to hire.

nah man, she's actually nothing like these other h*es out here. She's originally from Monterrey mexico and the girls there, once they are with you, they become this type of loyal like no other and please their guy in whatever situation they're in. I can't explain this level of loyalty, hopefully one day you'll get to have what i have, some don't in their lifetime

 

[*crackSTAR*]

Ok.. She has everything you want but just a little overweight right? In 10 years that won't matter my dude. She is fine the way she is anyway. Yeah of course with 15lbs less she is a dime but you really think you are gonna find a dime who does what she does after all is said and done? You that shallow my dude?

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

like i said, i don't have anything to hide, great woman and all.

You're not Black. That explains so much. I was reading this from a BP prospective like WTF? Now I know you're White/Hispanic whatever it makes since. You sound like a dikk but that's how ya'll talk to your women so. You basically got with her knowing you're better looking and had plans to "mold" her. She probably has low self esteem and all cause that's how ya'll like um. But I guess it isn't working out for you.

I wish a dude tell me I better look a certain way or he'll cheat. You'd get those walking papers real quick and get replaced tomorrow. Who says shyt like that? I hope she break up with your superficial ass so she can have someone who appreciate her chubby ass.

 

[dennis roadman]

If I looked like my mom still dressed me I'd be happy to have any woman, you should stop complaining

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

She look like a mexican rosie odonnell. Aye the screen is taking forever to load.. All those fukking pixels it takes to make an image of her fat fukking ass

Oye you know shes gonna blow uo when she has a kid

 

[Hiphoplives4eva]

she was asking me what was wrong why was i acting real bothered all of a sudden. At first i was telling her it was because we missed the iron man movie because she was taking long in getting ready to come to my crib then she kept on asking what was wrong once i told her it's cool to not come at all. I told her i rather not say anything and that i'm just pissed off, to leave it at that. She keeps insisting so i just let it all out, tell her that her nagging and jealousy as of late has been pis*ing me off and that i get tired quick if a girl starts getting like that. I then said there's more to it but i rather not say anything because i just want to keep it to myself. She says please tell me, i know there's more. So i let it out and tell her, you haven't lost weight like you had said you would when we first met. now she's like thick chubby girl, and i saw past that cuz i saw potential in her, i knew once she lose all that, she'd be a hot girl and there'd be no problem. I told her all that potential that i've seen and you still haven't done sh*t about it when it's been a year and a half. She starts saying in a low voice "i know... you've been patient with me and i feel like i failed you". I told her "I catch myself looking at other women and i dont want to! i don't want to look at other women, have the urge to cheat just cuz i'm not getting that here, i told you i'd be patient with you but if that sh*t happens, it's going to disappoint me!" mind you she's great in every other aspect, she's a great cook, can cut my hair, isn't a gold digger, understanding etc etc. everything you'd want in a woman! But that right there is the only thing that has bothered me and i've told her time and time what she needed to do, how to eat right, what exercises to do. She started crying a bit as expected and tells me, "I don't want to lose you, i want to make every effort to keep you, i know i haven't accomplished it, it's just that i dont' have to time sometimes", i'm like that's no excuse, everyone has 30 min of their day to do something about it and you don't food prep which i've told you it's all about how you eat and how consistent you are with it. I'm tired of you coming to my crib saying "oh i haven't ate in 7 hours, lets go get something" , it's like a never ending cycle and the wrong way to go about it. I told her, i'm a real dude, and this is as real as it gets, you asked me what was bothering me and this is basically it right here. You know me as a person that never hides how he feels and this is the best way to present it to you. She's like, "i'm going to go to the gym right now and work out, i'm also going to get a trainer, i don't want to lose you, please"

to get to the point, am i right for standing up and explaining how i feel cuz it's been bottled in me and i made it clear from the rip since the first day we became official that i'll be patient with her in her weight loss or am i an a*shole for being real?? Communication is key in a relationship and i've never hid anything in regards to my daily status of how we're doing.

You should write a dope song about this concept. You could have a hit.

You did the right thing btw. Never be afraid to tell your girl whats really on your mind. She'll respect you for it in the long run.

 

[C-Styles]

Ok.. She has everything you want but just a little overweight right? In 10 years that won't matter my dude. She is fine the way she is anyway. Yeah of course with 15lbs less she is a dime but you really think you are gonna find a dime who does what she does after all is said and done? You that shallow my dude?

see that's something that i don't want misconscrued. i appreciate everything she is, shallow would be if i didn't make her my gf for the year and half we are so far. I'm just a person that is real and express myself straight out whenever someone ask me "What's wrong" and at first used the iron man movie as a scapegoat of what was bothering me, then that just came out. She didn't take it bad, she knows how i am and being real every time is appreciated than me lying and fronting like everything is ok. We weren't yelling at each other either. Health wise, she has been told to lose a few and at 40 (10 years from now ) a woman's metabolism goes to the bushes if she didn't do anything about it before that. So that plays a factor as well.

 

[C-Styles]

She look like a mexican rosie odonnell. Aye the screen is taking forever to load.. All those fukking pixels it takes to make an image of her fat fukking ass

Oye you know shes gonna blow uo when she has a kid

she has 2 kids and come on man, lets be mature about this. I told her in the most respectful way.

 

[C-Styles]

You should write a dope song about this concept. You could have a hit.

You did the right thing btw. Never be afraid to tell your girl whats really on your mind. She'll respect you for it in the long run.

i actually had her in one of my music videos for "Your perfect imperfections"

 

[ridedolo]

nah man, she's actually nothing like these other h*es out here. She's originally from Monterrey mexico and the girls there, once they are with you, they become this type of loyal like no other and please their guy in whatever situation they're in. I can't explain this level of loyalty, hopefully one day you'll get to have what i have, some don't in their lifetime

I'm good.

 

[*crackSTAR*]

see that's something that i don't want misconscrued. i appreciate everything she is, shallow would be if i didn't make her my gf for the year and half we are so far. I'm just a person that is real and express myself straight out whenever someone ask me "What's wrong" and at first used the iron man movie as a scapegoat of what was bothering me, then that just came out. She didn't take it bad, she knows how i am and being real every time is appreciated than me lying and fronting like everything is ok. We weren't yelling at each other either. Health wise, she has been told to lose a few and at 40 (10 years from now ) a woman's metabolism goes to the bushes if she didn't do anything about it before that. So that plays a factor as well.

I get that homie.. I'm just saying that later in life things matter more than looks.. Try and get her to understand abouther health and the ramifications more than telling her you are looking at other chicks . only for the reason that if she does lose the weight and resents you for it she gonna cheat.. If she feels that loyalty from you AND you MOTIVATE her to lose the weight then you have her for life . but I mean if it ain't that serious then just move on.. I don't know your situation

 

[C-Styles]

You're not Black. That explains so much. I was reading this from a BP prospective like WTF? Now I know you're White/Hispanic whatever it makes since. You sound like a dikk but that's how ya'll talk to your women so. You basically got with her knowing you're better looking and had plans to "mold" her. She probably has low self esteem and all cause that's how ya'll like um. But I guess it isn't working out for you.

I wish a dude tell me I better look a certain way or he'll cheat. You'd get those walking papers real quick and get replaced tomorrow. Who says shyt like that? I hope she break up with your superficial ass so she can have someone who appreciate her chubby ass.

i didn't tell her in a d*ck way and she has a high self esteem, we have a great relationship, that's why i can tell her anything. I'm not one of those mexicans that belittles his woman, i'm against that. All i was saying was something real which most guys won't admit, which is "I'm a human being, i'm being attracted to all these other women i see around me and i don't want to, please help me here because i don't want to be tempted". Might sound like sh*t but it's better to face the problem than be like the rest of them dudes that just go ahead and do it.

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

she has 2 kids and come on man, lets be mature about this. I told her in the most respectful way.

u came to thecoli for maturity?

There is no respectful way to say youre not attracted to her anymore. Some women are incapable of forgetting that typa shyt.

Oh ya, and date chubby single moms brehs