she was asking me what was wrong why was i acting real bothered all of a sudden. At first i was telling her it was because we missed the iron man movie because she was taking long in getting ready to come to my crib then she kept on asking what was wrong once i told her it's cool to not come at all. I told her i rather not say anything and that i'm just pissed off, to leave it at that. She keeps insisting so i just let it all out, tell her that her nagging and jealousy as of late has been pis*ing me off and that i get tired quick if a girl starts getting like that. I then said there's more to it but i rather not say anything because i just want to keep it to myself. She says please tell me, i know there's more. So i let it out and tell her, you haven't lost weight like you had said you would when we first met. now she's like thick chubby girl, and i saw past that cuz i saw potential in her, i knew once she lose all that, she'd be a hot girl and there'd be no problem. I told her all that potential that i've seen and you still haven't done sh*t about it when it's been a year and a half. She starts saying in a low voice "i know... you've been patient with me and i feel like i failed you". I told her "I catch myself looking at other women and i dont want to! i don't want to look at other women, have the urge to cheat just cuz i'm not getting that here, i told you i'd be patient with you but if that sh*t happens, it's going to disappoint me!" mind you she's great in every other aspect, she's a great cook, can cut my hair, isn't a gold digger, understanding etc etc. everything you'd want in a woman! But that right there is the only thing that has bothered me and i've told her time and time what she needed to do, how to eat right, what exercises to do. She started crying a bit as expected and tells me, "I don't want to lose you, i want to make every effort to keep you, i know i haven't accomplished it, it's just that i dont' have to time sometimes", i'm like that's no excuse, everyone has 30 min of their day to do something about it and you don't food prep which i've told you it's all about how you eat and how consistent you are with it. I'm tired of you coming to my crib saying "oh i haven't ate in 7 hours, lets go get something" , it's like a never ending cycle and the wrong way to go about it. I told her, i'm a real dude, and this is as real as it gets, you asked me what was bothering me and this is basically it right here. You know me as a person that never hides how he feels and this is the best way to present it to you. She's like, "i'm going to go to the gym right now and work out, i'm also going to get a trainer, i don't want to lose you, please"
to get to the point, am i right for standing up and explaining how i feel cuz it's been bottled in me and i made it clear from the rip since the first day we became official that i'll be patient with her in her weight loss or am i an a*shole for being real?? Communication is key in a relationship and i've never hid anything in regards to my daily status of how we're doing.
