How Frequently she contacts you vs What she says to you when you do talk

[twan83]

Good points made in this thread, got me considering starting a convo with a female instead of playing this stupid ass waiting game.

if u talk too her with respect and common sense and u got things in common u be surprised how long that convo be lasting

 

[GhettoNintendo]

what she says to you
she might not hit you up often in fear of you getting annoyed

 

[Remote]

What's this females not initiating talk?

Initiating conversations on profound topics.

 

[Soundbwoy]

I rarely initiate. Even with my friends unless its something I really have to say. I am just not big on phone convo, and I like to text more. With men its the added element of not wanting to do too much. This could be wrong. I have had someone recently stop talking to me because I wasn't all in his face and he took it as me not being interested. If you need all that we might as well not talk anyway.

were you interested?

 

[Raava]

were you interested?

Yea, I was.

 

[Chill]

Yea, I was.

That was all I needed to hear.

I hope I haven't lost her

 

[Soundbwoy]

Yea, I was.

did you express your interest?

 

[Raava]

did you express your interest?

When he brought it up I told him I was. I also told him if I didn't want to talk we wouldn't be talking. But it was brought up again and to me, we were talking a lot especially since it was the very beginning. But he gave me the impression he was use to females blowing him up more. That's just not me.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

This is real sh*t my brother. I'm also currently talking to a chick who never iniates convo(says she's not a phone person). I thought it was just game first(a part of me still does). But whenever we do get together we laugh, joke, tell stories and chop it up very nicely. I've been known in the past to overthink certain things but right now I'm just gonna enjoy the ride and see where it leads as long as mutual respect is upheld.

Thats whats up! You know, we as a country tend to behave very immaturely w/ respect to issues regarding race, economics, and the concept of love. We've kinda trained people to interpret and appreciate love through very crude ways....a lot of dudes feel like if a chick isnt incessantly contacting you, then shes fukkin someone else or doesnt care. And a lot of women substitute true emotion, w/ texting or calling a man non-stop, asking 'how are you' and 'how are you doing', not out of true concern by with an eye towards monitoring and controlling.

When you meet a grown ass woman thats above those stupid ass games, it can be kind of jarring at first, but you grow to quickly appreciate what true affections and emotions are. Im very happy you are experiencing such...as am I, and I am super geeked about it so far.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

Both matter.

It doesn't matter if we have a meaningful conversation if it happens only twice a month in between her feelings of doubt in other platonic relationships.

Im confused by this...clarify?

 

[Raava]

That was all I needed to hear.

I hope I haven't lost her

All women aren't clingy, talk your ear off women. If she is straight up she will either tell you she isn't interested and if she is not straight up she will just ignore you either way you will be able to tell.

 

[Chill]

All women aren't clingy, talk your ear off women. If she is straight up she will either tell you she isn't interested and if she is not straight up she will just ignore you either way you will be able to tell.

My issue is trying not to come off as clingy, I can talk about/elaborate about anything if I wanted to but I get the feeling that's associated with clingyness and can make someone uncomfortable very quickly.

 

[Remote]

Im confused by this...clarify?

Some women will only hit a man up every once in a while when she's going through some shyt with all the other dudes she contacts/flirts with. She'll reach out to that nice guy that is smart to get her through her fukkery.

Those conversations will end up being some heartfelt/profound shyt. And the two people will feel like they have a connection on some level.

...until you realize she aint hitting you up for 3 more weeks as she goes back to those goons.

For a woman to really be into someone, he has to contact him regularly and have real quality conversation.
It has to be both.

Talking every day about Love and Hip Hop is petty bullshyt and she's using you to waste time.
Talking every 2 weeks about her sick mom is making you a crutch to get her through the stress.

The reality is, everyone has a handful of people that they talk to, OR THINK ABOUT every single day.
Those are the people that she's really into and the ones that really matter to her.

Everyone else is just a side nikka.

 

[Raava]

My issue is trying not to come off as clingy, I can talk about/elaborate about anything if I wanted to but I get the feeling that's associated with clingyness and can make someone uncomfortable very quickly.

I mean, clingy to me is not talking about things. It's calling all the time or constantly on me and wondering where I'm going like all the time. And honestly when a female likes you, she doesn't even mind it that much. Just make sure you guys are on the same page, and there is nothing wrong with talking about that. That's what adults do, nobody wants to waste time.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

Some women will only hit a man up every once in a while when she's going through some shyt with all the other dudes she contacts/flirts with. She'll reach out to that nice guy that is smart to get her through her fukkery.

Those conversations will end up being some heartfelt/profound shyt. And the two people will feel like they have a connection on some level.

...until you realize she aint hitting you up for 3 more weeks as she goes back to those goons.

For a woman to really be into someone, he has to contact him regularly and have real quality conversation.
It has to be both.

Talking every day about Love and Hip Hop is petty bullshyt and she's using you to waste time.
Talking every 2 weeks about her sick mom is making you a crutch to get her through the stress.

The reality is, everyone has a handful of people that they talk to, OR THINK ABOUT every single day.
Those are the people that she's really into and the ones that really matter to her.

Everyone else is just a side nikka.

oh okay...got ya. Yeah, I think we need to further define frequency. I was more or less talking about a chick that hits you multiple times a day, or makes a big deal about not talking to you "all day" at the end of the night. I agree that a woman who you dont hear from for weeks or months on end is the other end of the spectrum, and probably doesnt view you as much of a priority.