HINGE Is The Future Brehs

[Vandelay]

The breakdown here is on point. I had the same experience. I filter out single moms though.


Honestly this is why I closed my account. shyt takes up a lot of time. Responding to messages, women flaking, dates with women just to find out you don't like em. I also dont date single moms at all. I'm a bit more strict in my requirements for a woman I'd take seriously. Getting matches wasn't an issue it was all the bullshyt after. Juice wasn't worth the squeeze just to get some p*ssy. If she wasn't in a good career and educated why bother pursuing anything more than that? I fukked a chick or two off there but I didn't go back because they were more annoying to be around than their p*ssy was worth to me.

When I'm working 8-5, workout 4 days a week at 5 am, studying up for career promotions and balancing time for hobbies and friends who has the time for all that? Then the women be tryna text and shyt late at night. I go to bed at 9 on weekdays
Funnily enough the money I budgeted for dates instead helped me max out my roth ira a month early this year. I thought part of what makes online dating good is that it allows busy people to date and meet people. I think you'd save more time meeting a chick at target

I hear you on the no kids shyt. I doubt I'll wife someone with kid(s) but I'll deal with one for a little bit, especially if she's cute. I was with a chick with a kid before, but that kid becomes a weapon if y'all go down a bad path. It's just hard to meet women without a kid around my age. Which is why I'm starting to entertain women much younger than me.

I was in a relationship for almost 5 years that ended in January, so I'm getting 5 years of fukking in in a single year lol. Said I was going to be more serious at the top of the year. I actually never had a rotation before. Always would just date one chick until it fizzled out, wifey or not.

It's definitely draining. Fortunately all I do is work, hit the gym, and occasionally do stuff with my side business. If I had a kid myself, I couldn't do this shyt.

 

[Spacejam23]

I hear you on the no kids shyt. I doubt I'll wife someone with kid(s) but I'll deal with one for a little bit, especially if she's cute. I was with a chick with a kid before, but that kid becomes a weapon if y'all go down a bad path. It's just hard to meet women without a kid around my age. Which is why I'm starting to entertain women much younger than me.

I was in a relationship for almost 5 years that ended in January, so I'm getting 5 years of fukking in in a single year lol. Said I was going to be more serious at the top of the year. I actually never had a rotation before. Always would just date one chick until it fizzled out, wifey or not.

It's definitely draining. Fortunately all I do is work, hit the gym, and occasionally do stuff with my side business. If I had a kid myself, I couldn't do this shyt.

I'm curious what city do you live in or by . I m on hinge as well and there alot profiles that are 30 plus no kids

 

[Spacejam23]

I'm curious what city do you live in or by . I m on hinge as well and there alot profiles that are 30 plus no kids

Who do you find more pressing you for something more serious single moms or 30 plus childless woman

 

[Vandelay]

I'm curious what city do you live in or by . I m on hinge as well and there alot profiles that are 30 plus no kids

30, sure you can find plenty. I'm 40. Which is why I'm starting to date 30 year olds.

I live in Chicago.

I will say dating single moms is why i have a larger rotation. They're not always available.

 

[Spacejam23]

I hear you on the no kids shyt. I doubt I'll wife someone with kid(s) but I'll deal with one for a little bit, especially if she's cute. I was with a chick with a kid before, but that kid becomes a weapon if y'all go down a bad path. It's just hard to meet women without a kid around my age. Which is why I'm starting to entertain women much younger than me.

I was in a relationship for almost 5 years that ended in January, so I'm getting 5 years of fukking in in a single year lol. Said I was going to be more serious at the top of the year. I actually never had a rotation before. Always would just date one chick until it fizzled out, wifey or not.

It's definitely draining. Fortunately all I do is work, hit the gym, and occasionally do stuff with my side business. If I had a kid myself, I couldn't do this shyt.

With the middle eastern and Indian were they harder to pull or more resistant to messing cause your black or they was not tripping ?

 

[Vandelay]

With the middle eastern and Indian were they harder to pull or more resistant to messing cause your black or they was not tripping ?

Believe it or not no. They were very cooperative. The middle eastern chick, reached out first, made herself available, and once she saw I was digging her basically just went all in with the freak shyt from the first time we made out in her car on the first date. Indian chick texts me round the clock, and gets annoyed if I don't text back within an hour or two. They both said they like/prefer black dudes and that's who usually hollers at them.

East Asians really haven't matched with me, which is cool because I usually don't go for them. And a lot of white chicks that I would go for are super flakey.

What surprises me is, I'm actually having trouble with black women. It might be the app. Either I'm not super attracted to the ones I match with or they have a gang of kids. One I was talking to blocked me because I guess I didn't set shyt up fast enough. We were talking about fukking, it just never happened. I paced myself when I found out she had 3 kids.

 

[cyndaquil]

EDIT: Too much info

 

[Mike809]

I normally swipe 4-5 times before closing the app .

But today I went for like 20 swipes , and people were starting to look weirder the more I swiped .

 

[Brolic]

The algorithm finally kicked in last weekend, I’m out the Hinge bushes.
I matched with three 7/10s and an 8/10 on Hinge, and I’m talking to an 7/10 on Upward.

Update. 2 ended up randomly unmatching. I unmatched the other because she stopped responding.
I went on a date with the girl from upward. I thought it went well. But then she ghosted me for a week. Then she randomly wished me a happy thanksgiving and said she wanted to focus on herself.
Last week I matched with a lawyer. Went on a date on Sunday and we’re about to go on another this Friday.Hopefully things go well and I can delete this app.

 

[Ohene]

My rotation right now. As I said earlier in the thread; 8, 9, and 10's will match but flakey as fukk. 7's and 8's; dtf but kids. 5's and 6's; thirsty as fukk but I have low interest in (I posted a big titty chick earlier in the thread tryna get dikk pics outta me from jump).

Indian single mom (8), honest to god looks like Stacey Dash. Slow walking this, but she's into me a lot. I just wonder how long I can keep it up. She has a weird arrangement with her ex...they're not divorced, and don't plan on getting divorced. And it's not an open marriage. We be doing all this kundalini/tantric shyt. Cool people, but it's a bit too much of an alternative lifestyle that she's probably gonna fall off soon.

White single mom (7), lives in the burbs. She's actually taller than me. Cool, but very soccer momish. Just playing this out until she gets tired of me.

Palestinian single mom (8.5), Freaky as shyt...probably top 3 freakiest woman I've ever dealt with. Looks like Sarah Shahi. She's taller than me too. Grew up in the hood. Cool as fukk, but flakey as fukk.

White childless chick (6), she's pressing hard to get wifed up, but I have low interest in her. She might be a 6 at best.

Biracial Ex military chick (7). She's older and taller than me too. No kids, doesn't want kids. She manages a pole dancing studio. I think she's just biding her time with me. I can't win them all.

Working on this black chick that look like Kelly Rowland. She's a solid 9. fukked up and double booked dates on Sunday, so I had to cancel on her. Age range of a chick I'd wife up (I'm 40, she's 32). I really should've canceled on the other chick. But my mind was like "a bird in the hand"...

I'm honestly tired of juggling, spending a shyt ton of time, money and attention, and I'm getting to the point I want to be back in a relationship. This rotation shyt is for when you're in your 20s I'm actually being pickier than I've ever been. I choose wrong often, so I figure I gotta be a lot stricter than I was in the past. Gotta have solid job/career, looking at women noticeably younger than me (27-34), considering culture more (my ex was Indian Muslim...her family wasn't it), actually considering taller chicks (I'm 5'8 and these 5'10 chicks are giving me play).

I can send some pics to you, but I'm not gonna put them in the thread. I can share my profile though and all the matches I have so y'all know I ain't capping though if folks are interested.

This is how it be for most dudes above the age of 30, a concoction of flakiness, weird quirks, entitlement and monkey branching .

I can’t be bothered to use dating apps for this reason and i don’t even cold approach like i used to. shyt tiresome

 

[Ohene]

Update. 2 ended up randomly unmatching. I unmatched the other because she stopped responding.
I went on a date with the girl from upward. I thought it went well. But then she ghosted me for a week. Then she randomly wished me a happy thanksgiving and said she wanted to focus on herself.
Last week I matched with a lawyer. Went on a date on Sunday and we’re about to go on another this Friday.Hopefully things go well and I can delete this app.

Another example

You can approach 10 women. If you’re lucky or a good dude you may get the number from 4. Out of that 4 you’ll probably only actually link up with 2. And out of that 2 you’ll be lucky to fukk one usually if you put in the right kind of work.

You’ll keep on smashing for a few weeks or months and naturally it will run its course

 

[Brolic]

Another example

You can approach 10 women. If you’re lucky or a good dude you may get the number from 4. Out of that 4 you’ll probably only actually link up with 2. And out of that 2 you’ll be lucky to fukk one usually is you put in the right kind of work.

You’ll keep on smashing for a few weeks or months and naturally it will run its course

But I’m tryna get married and start a family.

 

[Mike809]

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[Mike809]

Another one .

 

[Ohene]

But I’m tryna get married and start a family.

trust me i know how you feel. unfortuante reality is that past a certain age its just exponentially more difficult now than it used to be

its like skating uphill

1. You are competing against other dudes on apps, social media, approaching in person. We talking worldwide. Back then you were merely competing against dudes in your neighborhood approaching in person.

2. You got all the trauma or disappointment a lot of these women been through that you got to fight against or unprove

3. You gotta heal from the trauma or disappointment you've been through potentially to take her at face value

4. Tik tok and social media has warped the brain and attention spans of women extremely. It is far more common now to meet women who are entitled, flaky and delusional as a result.

5. Even if you are successful...as a result of #4 and the way family court/law works all it takes is for her to change her mind and she has you by the balls.

It's a mess out here man.