Have you ever had a chick act brand new with you for no reason?

[Turbulent]

yeah like @Turbulent said, happens when they get someone new.

when i was i remember this chick i was just smashing on the side, a "friends with benefits", then one day she stopped answering my texts, phone calls. I saw her at the mall with her friend and she just right passed me, anyways to make a long story medium she finally found some sucker to give up his vagina aka commitment

that's just how it goes. the trick is to never take it personal.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

Look at the OP, he openly calls a female "his sidepiece", and then acts confused when she moved on and did her own thing, and claims she acted brand new "for no reason".

I think thats a problem with a lot of ya'll when it comes to women; you completely eliminate how your personal behavior contributed to the end of a relationship (no matter how you wanna define it), and start victimizing yourself.

 

[Turbulent]

Look at the OP, he openly calls a female "his sidepiece", and then acts confused when she moved on and did her own thing, and claims she acted brand new "for no reason".

I think thats a problem with a lot of ya'll when it comes to women; you completely eliminate how your personal behavior contributed to the end of a relationship (no matter how you wanna define it), and start victimizing yourself.

her moving on is one thing and that's respectable. OP described her as a sidepiece so it's whatever. her acting brand new is another thing though.

 

[Cat piss martini]

alot of them every year at tax time.

 

[Standing on business]

It's always a reason fam

 

[No_bammer_weed]

her moving on is one thing and that's respectable. OP described her as a sidepiece so it's whatever. her acting brand new is another thing though.

what Im saying is thats not acting "brand new"....she was responding to a person whom clearly wasnt valuing her. I think this is a pretty common psychological approach when a relationship breaks down. Instead of analyzing our own behavior, we put the focus squarely on the other, and lose sight of the actions that led to that point where the other person decided he or she has had enough.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

what Im saying is thats not acting "brand new"....she was responding to a person whom clearly wasnt valuing her. I think this is a pretty common psychological approach when a relationship breaks down. Instead of analyzing our own behavior, we put the focus squarely on the other, and lose sight of the actions that led to that point where the other person decided he or she has had enough.

I don't think that anyone is disputing that she was wrong in leaving him or anything. It probably just caught him off guard that it was so sudden. Usually if someone shows a pattern of behavior like that, it comes around like more of a slow burn rather than everything being hunky dory then all of a sudden someone snaps, in my personal experience.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

I don't think that anyone is disputing that she was wrong in leaving him or anything. It probably just caught him off guard that it was so sudden. Usually if someone shows a pattern of behavior like that, it comes around like more of a slow burn rather than everything being hunky dory then all of a sudden someone snaps, in my personal experience.

Most people arent completely idiots, even if they come across like one. Even if you feel like you're getting over on them because one is "playing the fool", i.e, fully aware they are being mistreated but sticking around anyway, they are still acting self-interested. They're just waiting for the opportune moment to move on with things, and a lot of times w/o causing drama about it. Wondering why a sidepiece got tired of ya sht and dipped, is kinda like wondering why you got robbed when you left your door wide open, with Ipad and flat screens in plain visible sight. Cause and effect.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Most people arent completely idiots, even if they come across like one. Even if you feel like you're getting over on them because one is "playing the fool", i.e, fully aware they are being mistreated but sticking around anyway, they are still acting self-interested. They're just waiting for the opportune moment to move on with things, and a lot of times w/o causing drama about it. Wondering why a sidepiece got tired of ya sht and dipped, is kinda like wondering why you got robbed when you left your door wide open, with Ipad and flat screens in plain visible sight. Cause and effect.

I think you're assuming a bit much about this situation without knowing all that was going on. To assume that she was casually playing the fool until something better came along runs the risk of overestimating people's intelligence.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

I think you're assuming a bit much about this situation without knowing all that was going on. To assume that she was casually playing the fool until something better came along runs the risk of overestimating people's intelligence.

I think its a far more reasonable assumption that someone being treated as a "sidepiece", recognized they were being played, which explained why they dipped; versus saying that someone you were treating as an expendable option at best acted "brand new" when they bounced.

Besides, I was making a larger point that people tend to ignore how their own personal behavior influences these matters, and instead put all the focus on the other person and his or her act of leaving.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

I think its a far more reasonable assumption that someone being treated as a "sidepiece", recognized they were being played, which explained why they dipped; versus saying that someone you were treating as an expendable option at best acted "brand new" when they bounced.

Besides, I was making a larger point that people tend to ignore how their own personal behavior influences these matters, and instead put all the focus on the other person and his or her act of leaving.

Dude, nobody reasonable ITT is saying that being treated like a sidepiece isn't a reason to dip out like that. In fact, the center of OP's post isn't really griping about why it happened IMHO, but just asking about how it happened. Nobody is saying that she's at fault somehow for leaving. What we're saying is that there was reason for the sudden and drastic change in the behavioral pattern that likely involves more than the fact she was treated like a sidepiece.

 

[Paradime]

lol, that's pretty standard behavior for a lot of females. it usually happens when they're speaking to someone new that they view as better than you AND that they feel they have a strong chance with. In a nutshell, they stop needing you cause they get "better quality" attention (in their eyes).

and to answer the thread question, yes it has happened to me.

15 yrs old met a cute and fine and sexy chicana at Halloween party. Didn't know she was dating a dude. Felt guilty...didn't hit it because we lived about 50 miles apart, but shyt if I don't feel guilty for that, breh.

To the dudes who get the rebound or just get thrown to the side..you still gettin' love so it's all good.

 

[Uncle Kingpin]

one of their homegirls done got in their ear.

The latter happens more than we would like to believe

I dont have much experience sharing girls like some of yall, so usually when my girl is acting brand new it's cuz one of her angry bird friends told her how i'm such a pig, blah blah blah. She'll leave and be all happy, then come back from hanging out with her girls and is acting like she's disgusted by my mere presence. Regardless, girls just expect us to be mind readers and know whats going on without an explanation. Best thing to do is call them out on it. She'll go from silent treatment to cant shut the fukk up about it in 2 seconds.

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

yup

Girls can be so cruel was she Black or White?

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

Look at the OP, he openly calls a female "his sidepiece", and then acts confused when she moved on and did her own thing, and claims she acted brand new "for no reason".

I think thats a problem with a lot of ya'll when it comes to women; you completely eliminate how your personal behavior contributed to the end of a relationship (no matter how you wanna define it), and start victimizing yourself.

The bish knew I had a bish the first day we met. She pursued me.