Have any of you ladies ever cheated on the dude u were in a relationship with?

[SouthernBelle]

I'm calm (I don't think I gave the impression that I was upset or anything), and I never claimed that I knew what you told your boyfriend or ex.

That's why I'm ASKING about what the details were, and I'm asking if the case was that you didn't tell him that your ex tried to hook up with you. You don't have to share those details if you don't want to.

But if I was your boyfriend, I would find it unusual that you feel okay with telling me that you talked with your ex, but didn't mention all of the details. As I said earlier, the only details that conversation SHOULD have had is him trying to talk about your old relationship/old feelings, and you shutting him down; nothing else. But then again, you said that those details (whatever they may be) are 'your business'.....something in itself that would cause worry to any normal person in a relationship.


You also said that the conversation gave you 'closure'. I would find that worrisome if I was your boyfriend (assuming you even told him that). The word 'closure' implies that you had unresolved feelings for this ex of yours, which no boyfriend should have to learn about in a legitimate relationship.

My ex trying to get with me and that I was committed to my current relationship was all my bf needed to know (he also knew that I was committed to him because I took him to the wedding when I could have EASILY not invited him since the wedding was in my hometown and not the town we lived in).

Maybe you don't have any thing that is "your business" while you are in a relationship but I do (he was my bf not my husband). Going into detail about all aspects of your past relationship(s) (which were the parts of the conversation that I left out) is just not smart in my opinion; however, if you do it with your woman then more power to you. I personally do not want to know all the ugly details of a bf's past relationship.

In regard to closure, my ex and I had a really bad break up. A break up that we never discussed. Finally discussing the break up, hearing a sincere apology, and saying that it was great but that's not what I want was closure for me and let him know that I had truly moved on. Maybe that's not something you would need after 4.5 year relationship, but it was something that I did.

 

[Uffie]

Care to share?

nikka wasnt given you enough attention? drunk and/or spur of the moment type thing? Im just curious cause they say when a woman cheats its bad because its a "premeditated" cheating so to speak. They dont cheat just cause but for particular emotional reasons.

he was abusive, in every way. was seeing other girls behind my back, pretty sure he was cheating too so the first time i did it because i didnt care anymore. tried to break up with him a million times but he was possessive and wouldnt leave me alone. so technically to me it wasnt cheating because "i" felt i wasnt with him. cheated again because he was extremely disrespectful calling me a whore, already claiming i cheated even though i never told him i did and all types of foul things. also in the beginning before things really went sour, he was never there for me, didnt agree to certain things i didnt want him to do. but he tried to control me and tell me what to do. ??? he became a monster. so i felt he "deserved" it. but in the end, it gave me no satisfaction so i'll never do it again. hopefully my next boyfriend is sane. and by the way... he still wants me back.

 

[Assata Shakur]

he was abusive, in every way. was seeing other girls behind my back, pretty sure he was cheating too so the first time i did it because i didnt care anymore. tried to break up with him a million times but he was possessive and wouldnt leave me alone. so technically to me it wasnt cheating because "i" felt i wasnt with him. cheated again because he was extremely disrespectful calling me a whore, already claiming i cheated even though i never told him i did and all types of foul things. also in the beginning before things really went sour, he was never there for me, didnt agree to certain things i didnt want him to do. but he tried to control me and tell me what to do. ??? he became a monster. so i felt he "deserved" it. but in the end, it gave me no satisfaction so i'll never do it again. hopefully my next boyfriend is sane. and by the way... he still wants me back.

He should have beat yo lying sluty ass even more

 

[Uffie]

He should have beat yo lying sluty ass even more

so i can have even more evidence to put his ass in jail? sure...

 

[BillBanneker]

If so, why?

Like you're going to get any legitimate answers

 

[Nintendough]

already claiming i cheated even though i never told him i did and all types of foul things

I can't comment on the rest of your story since I can't confirm or deny it. However, the part I bolded is very fishy.

 

[Uffie]

I can't comment on the rest of your story since I can't confirm or deny it. However, the part I bolded is very fishy.

HE claimed i was cheating. only because he would hide his facebook, texts, calls etc from me. he even told me straight to my face that he added his ex back on fb after i asked him not to talk to her. and he wrote her, she called him late at night, and they even were at the same parties when i wasnt there. so ummm... yeah the bytch deserved it. and much worse. he should be glad i didnt fukk his friends. : ) which by the way, two of them hit on me. once right in his face and he did nothing and another time when he stepped out from a party and left me in there... but i told him what happened later that night and he BLAMED me. even though i was the one who pushed HIS "best friend" off me after he tried putting his hands in my pants and kissing me. he was extremely wasted but regardless.... i stopped it and i get called a "whore" and nothing was said to his best friend.... not even now.

the guy was a dirtbag. i dont even consider what we had a relationship. so i dont feel guilty in any way.

 

[Ronnie Lott]

Damn. Its a lot of soft,insecure, sensitive, byytch nyggaz on here. Nyggaz actin like a chick can't have a convo with her ex. That ain't cheatin. Relax.

 

[JasonSJackson]

He should have beat yo lying sluty ass even more

 

[AgentGrey]

he was abusive, in every way. was seeing other girls behind my back, pretty sure he was cheating too so the first time i did it because i didnt care anymore. tried to break up with him a million times but he was possessive and wouldnt leave me alone. so technically to me it wasnt cheating because "i" felt i wasnt with him. cheated again because he was extremely disrespectful calling me a whore, already claiming i cheated even though i never told him i did and all types of foul things. also in the beginning before things really went sour, he was never there for me, didnt agree to certain things i didnt want him to do. but he tried to control me and tell me what to do. ??? he became a monster. so i felt he "deserved" it. but in the end, it gave me no satisfaction so i'll never do it again. hopefully my next boyfriend is sane. and by the way... he still wants me back.

'preciate the honesty miss.
So was he wrong to call u a cheater the 2nd time?

 

[Ninjaz In Paris]

Me thinks you only fukk with "hoes"...

 

[Uffie]

'preciate the honesty miss.
So was he wrong to call u a cheater the 2nd time?

eventually i told him i cheated those two times. and he never used the word "cheater" just "whore". in my mind, i didn't cheat because i was done with him. but to him because he felt he owned me, i was a whore for seeing others.

 

[Metta World Movement]

he was abusive, in every way. was seeing other girls behind my back, pretty sure he was cheating too so the first time i did it because i didnt care anymore.

Personally, that's all I need to know right there

My only issue in this topic is girls who cheat on dudes (well, people who cheat on other people, really) who they CAN'T say for certain cheated first

Once the dude messes around first, he can't say shyt afterwards if the woman does the same thing later, not even if she claims she forgives him (can't be mad at her for setting him up for the eventual ether ). Just my opinion....because I know a lot of dudes will disagree