Getting turned down by a chick but she continues the conversation?

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I have plenty of male friends who are only interested in friendship and me the same. You just have to find the right people, because I also have male friends who wanna have sex and I keep those at a distance.

Just have to know how to distinguish.

Do you have any idea how that sounds right now?




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i don't think i've ever really had this happen to me. granted, rarely am i ever really direct when it come to hooking up with a girl but i think a majority of the times when i've been direct and been turned down, i don't recall the conversation continuing past that point. i think i'm quicker to bounce whenever i find out things are a "no-go"...
 

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Haven't read any responses so pardon a vigga if i'm regurgitating aforementioned commentaries.

My pair of lincolns:

Just because she turned you down once, doesn't mean that she doesn't want you to persist (especially if she's still talking to you).

It's a woman's way of weeding out the easily distraught and defeated (and that prevents them from getting that skeeted. Believe it).

If you can continue that conversation and keep it light and fun, you'll peaque her interest enough for her to reconsider and value you enough that you're gonna retrieve them numbers. Power ballin.

And just consider; if she's smiling and reciprocating the convo, she's screening and qualifying you. It's up to you to finesse the closure and leave a strong impression.

Cats don't smile enough.

Don't make it seem like approaching a woman is a chore.

Talk to her like she's the laundry lady. Mail man. A pen pal you've known for 10 years.

Engage in dialogue that she wouldn't anticipate for you to delve in.

To be interesting. You gotta differentiate.


She might not be looking at any fruits...


but you gotta be the apple of her eye.


Right then and there.


No delay, parle.


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I wouldn't trip bruh, I've turned a rejection into a one night stand because the chick just kept talking, so did I.

After talking for about another 30 mins I found out she wasn't looking for a relationship cause she had just gotten out of one that she was in for 3 years and she was just trying to have some fun out here.

Lucky for me, her homegirl was feeling my potna so we went to whataburger and then they came back to the crib and it went down.

How you handle the rejection is what matters, I've had plenty of females who rejected me at one time try to get back on the team later because I still was cool after the intial rejection and acted like it never happened.

Its like QBs throwing interceptions, you gotta forget about it and move on to the next play :takedat:

The bold is so Powerful, it's Amazing how that works... One min you keeping the left out broad company by the end of the night you in those draws... Psychologically I think they feel its ok to do the one night think cuz they friend is doing it.
 
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no matter how many times we tell them this they dont believe it

They know. They just pretend not to believe because they benefit from the fake friendship by smutting out the man emotionally the same way the man wanted to smut her out sexually. Plus having him around boosts their ego.

That's why a man with common sense wouldn't "be friends" in hopes of getting the pussie.
 

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They know. They just pretend not to believe because they benefit from the fake friendship by smutting out the man emotionally the same way the man wanted to smut her out sexually. Plus having him around boosts their ego.

That's why a man with common sense wouldn't "be friends" in hopes of getting the pussie.

Real shyt.
 

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I don't see the reasoning behind keeping up a conversation after you reject someone. Personally I tell guys I'm not interest or have a boyfriend and that I'm flattered to prevent the ultimate bytch comment as I sashay away.

Unless the guy already knew me or was my friend are the only ways I could fathom a continuation of any conversation.
 

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I've had this happen to me like one time. The chick didn't really have a choice but to continue the conversation though b/c we were at her job (she worked at Aldo's Shoes).

I was in there browsing for shoes and just generally wasting time during my lunch break. Nice looking chick walks up to me and starts helping me out. I jumped the gun pretty early in the conversation and asked for her number to which she replied

'I don't know you like that :rudy:. You already know where I work and I don't need you stalking me :heh:, but I'll take yours :aicmon: '

At the time I thought she was just rejected a nig so I declined the offer and kept it moving. Not to mention I've never seen the whole 'chick takes your number and calls you' thing work out. So I keep shopping and just making jokes or whatever and eventually settle on a pair of shoes.

As I got ready to leave she hit me with the 'So that's ALL you want from the store today?'...:usure:. I completely missed the hint and was like 'yeah I got all the shoes I came for :ld:'

Three or four days later I went back into the store and just casually spoke to her and she was like :stopitslime: :scusthov: :ufdup:
 

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This is a funny thread cause its hitting close to home right now.
I mentioned in another thread I got this black milf in my class, and we seem to be on good terms and everything. So in the class she mentioned to folks that it was her birthday. So a day or two later, I see her again and ask her what's she's doing that coming weekend for her birthday, she said "nothing". So I said basically as simple and plain as possible, "maybe we go out for a drink or something". She gave me the The Roots "Silent Treatment", and since we were standing at the elevator and other folks around there was essentially no response. Had me like :wow: I see her in class and she keeps it civil but never brings up that question or anything like that again.

So anyway, flashforward to this week, I'm working on the final paper for this same class, literally almost done, a week ahead of schedule. She hits me with the, "Newworldafro, I need help with my project, can I be with you for this assignment" :to: (no cryin of course, but urgency is the point). I was actually going to make a thread on what the-Coli posters reaction would do......but ........................................................... I went ahead..................................and said sure :snoop:.........

So I gave her some work to do :laugh:, although I could have finished it yesterday. So we supposed to meet in a few days and finish the project. I don't know if this was simpery or is this her giving me a better opportunity to get in them milf draws??? or she using me for my sexy mind :jawalrus: cause she procrastinated?? Maybe I should just keep it academic and not get thirsty and play it by ear. But we meeting this weekend, so I'll just be cordial and see what happens.....btw she tapped me on the arm and said "thank you" :ahh:...........................

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Never help chicks with homework.
Unless she already buss'n down for you.
If you do she will juice the hell out of you.
I know as a confirmation, this is true, too.
As I was able to witness the shyt as a bystander to a female/female situations.
As a sorority chick tried to bum homework projects of another different sorority chick.
To the point the bytch moved in.
Plus was trying to get me to hit her and homework done.
I am sitting there watching the shyt like,....
This is why I never helped nikkaz with homework back in the day.

I KNEW IT!!


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Im way too slick for that

I actually do the opposite..hold an interesting,dope,general convo with 0 hint of trying to smash..no questions bout whether she single or with someone,no personal shyt whatsoever..confuse the shyt outta the bytch..
If she is not interested..there's nothing to reject..if she is..she will stay in touch

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