Don't let the thread give u 2nd thoughts. There are successful marriages out there.
Getting a Divorce Brehs...
- Thread starter Ziggiy
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@Ziggiy
real talk, and please don't take offense and quit me too because I don't mean any disrespect, but it seems like it was very easy for you to fall out of love.... what is love for you? Did you ever love her?
No one is saying you should stay in an unhappy relationship, but you seem like a quitter....you never gave your wife a chance to correct her "wrongs" (which aren't that big of a deal in my world but I don't have an over-sized ego).
real talk, and please don't take offense and quit me too because I don't mean any disrespect, but it seems like it was very easy for you to fall out of love.... what is love for you? Did you ever love her?
No one is saying you should stay in an unhappy relationship, but you seem like a quitter....you never gave your wife a chance to correct her "wrongs" (which aren't that big of a deal in my world but I don't have an over-sized ego).
4North1Side2
Banned
fukk out of here with these retarded ass assumptions. Ok lets say Best Buy does go the way of Circuit City, with OP's experience and skills at being a manager at Best Buy and also having been honorable discharged from the US ARMY, he is pretty much set at acquiring mid level jobs quite easily. Your whole spill of him being scared to be a leader in the household is nothing more than a sorry ass attempt at shaming.
you gotta grind before you shine
if your broad don't understand the struggle, save yourself the trouble
if your broad don't understand the struggle, save yourself the trouble
Shuuut yo dumb ass up Cole..... Why not get the entry level or middle management job at a tech company now instead of working your way up hourly pay? Who knowingly invests in a sinking ship? Those who want to hustle backwards is who....
A man who can handle responsibility and has confidence in his leadership skills does not hustle backwards...there is no shaming in calling a spade a spade dikkshyt...
Mountain
All Star
c/s, nikkas just dont know how to read between the lines, Im sure this is deeper than one incident of disrespect.
4North1Side2
Banned
Why are you so fukking stupid? Serious question really.
Slaimon Jr
Rookie
Ahhh yes.
Another divorce, another easy way out. Your problem my son is not your wife, it is you.
Un-forgivness has wrapped its demonic hand on your heart, you can't forgive her? and what then for the next woman in your life when she makes a mistake( and she will)
What is this fantasy that people have that the other person is supposed to be blameless. You're sitting around hurting inside screaming "freedom" with chains attached to your very being
Come to Christ @Ziggiy ....or at the very least your senses.
Another divorce, another easy way out. Your problem my son is not your wife, it is you.
Un-forgivness has wrapped its demonic hand on your heart, you can't forgive her? and what then for the next woman in your life when she makes a mistake( and she will)
What is this fantasy that people have that the other person is supposed to be blameless. You're sitting around hurting inside screaming "freedom" with chains attached to your very being
Come to Christ @Ziggiy ....or at the very least your senses.
.....YOU calling ME stupid?!.... 
Okay so I just read this whole thread and if I wasn't familiar with the OP I would have assumed this is a troll thread. This must be the single worst reason I've heard a person has ever gotten divorced, ever. Seriously, and I've heard some dumb reasons in my time.
LOL at you getting divorced over this. I remember when my fiance wanted to go and study anthropology and I told her it was a 'mickey mouse' degree which wouldn't amount to much. Man, some of my advice has made my fiance cry before, but I fukking mean well and I want her to reach her highest potential. She has also given me some etherous feedback on my life decisions and do you know what ? I like that. My fiance is the ONLY person in my life who isn't scared to give me 100% honest feedback no matter how I react. She always tells me 'I might not have the best delivery but I'm looking out for you'. It's a bit like when your mother says 'take that shirt off you look like a tramp'. She isn't insulting you, she means well. I always judge advice by intent, not delivery as some of the best advice won't be said 'nicely'. Your rationale is absolutely ridiculous.
It sounds to me as though you are just not in love with her and that's fine. It is what it is. The dialogue you just listed as to why you're divorcing her is a cop out and makes little sense. You were young, made a mistake and don't want her anymore. Cool
But that excuse is garbage breh and you know it.
Only people making sense in this thread is @Ill Clinton @Poitier and @feelosofer
LOL at you getting divorced over this. I remember when my fiance wanted to go and study anthropology and I told her it was a 'mickey mouse' degree which wouldn't amount to much. Man, some of my advice has made my fiance cry before, but I fukking mean well and I want her to reach her highest potential. She has also given me some etherous feedback on my life decisions and do you know what ? I like that. My fiance is the ONLY person in my life who isn't scared to give me 100% honest feedback no matter how I react. She always tells me 'I might not have the best delivery but I'm looking out for you'. It's a bit like when your mother says 'take that shirt off you look like a tramp'. She isn't insulting you, she means well. I always judge advice by intent, not delivery as some of the best advice won't be said 'nicely'. Your rationale is absolutely ridiculous.
It sounds to me as though you are just not in love with her and that's fine. It is what it is. The dialogue you just listed as to why you're divorcing her is a cop out and makes little sense. You were young, made a mistake and don't want her anymore. Cool
But that excuse is garbage breh and you know it.
Only people making sense in this thread is @Ill Clinton @Poitier and @feelosofer
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It don't sound like he love her. He sound like a dude who married too young and wants to get out. lol.
NobodyReally
Superstar
You sound very sensitive. I can't imagine being married to someone who had trouble giving me that work over some real shyt. That's what marriage is about to me. You fight, you forgive, you reconcile, and you grow stronger for it. But everyone's relationship is different, so I won't judge your situation by mine.
At the end of the day, you have to be happy, so congrats on making the move to happiness. Maybe you really didn't love her in the first place. In the future, you probably should look for a woman who will be unconditionally supportive, say all of the right things, all the time. Just don't expect her to be very self-sufficient or honest and you should be fine. Good luck on your new life.
At the end of the day, you have to be happy, so congrats on making the move to happiness. Maybe you really didn't love her in the first place. In the future, you probably should look for a woman who will be unconditionally supportive, say all of the right things, all the time. Just don't expect her to be very self-sufficient or honest and you should be fine. Good luck on your new life.
...good luck with that....
Im not married but I'm going through something very similar. I just haven't reached my goal yet.I was coming out of the Army, deciding what I wanted to do. Decided I wanted to go back to work for Best Buy. She looked me right in my face and said "So your going to be 35 years old making $12.50".
That was literally the moment where I completely and utterly fell out of love with her. NO woman in the history of my existence has ever been allowed to disrespect me, my work ethic, nor my decision making to such a disgusting level. Especially a woman whose hand I took in marriage...
So I did exactly what I had to do. Started back at the bottom part time and worked myself back to Manager in 5 months. Three promotions, three pay raises (plus bonuses). And after that time period I didn't feel as if she deserved to be a part of my success as she wasn't supportive during my hustle and struggle. Once I made manager she wanted to talk about how proud of me she was and all that shyt but I told her straight up I didn't make it because of her. I made it DESPITE of her and I didn't want her nor the marriage any longer. I actually told her all of this two months ago but she begged and pleaded for another chance talking about how sorry she was and she always believed in me and she was just frustrated during that time period. She wanted to go to counseling and I tried it but nah....the damage had been done. Once you disrespect a man.... TRULY disrespect him, he will never forgive you