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Get married or become a rest haven?
discuss thoughts.
choose better...
Hater Eraser
Veteran
IN .. Be a rest haven for 304's at 34 years old brehs 
Software
RIP Future Gohan
Get a woman who's stable on her own and you won't have these problems 
Hungerpain
Banned
You a car theif!
huh?
AquaCityBoy
Veteran
"We are not retirement homes for hoes." 
That needs to become a thing unironically.
That needs to become a thing unironically.
This is why I have age limits on seriously dating. If a woman wouldn't fukk you when she was 18-25 and she had met you then, or you know you couldn't catch her eye without bread, there's not a basal/primal attraction. If she doesn't lust for you there's a certain amount of leverage you'll never have in the relationship.
Also women rarely love men, they love men for what they perceive them to be, what the man can do for them, and how the man can make them feel. Not necessarily the man in his natural genuine state idiosyncrasies and all.
Also women rarely love men, they love men for what they perceive them to be, what the man can do for them, and how the man can make them feel. Not necessarily the man in his natural genuine state idiosyncrasies and all.
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All of that (including lust) goes both ways, and men (as one myself
) rarely love women without the same types of contingencies, just different criteria.love is brought through providing a certain comfort that one doesn’t want to lose. For women it may be financial or physical security, for men it may be sexual satisfaction and a sense of responsibility. Love is formed through finding someone who fulfills your selfish desires. That’s not gender based.
seabreeze80
All Star
He's right. Why get married to someone because they are "marriage material" but cheat with the ones you really want?
One you got out there probably hot as a firecracker
All of that (including lust) goes both ways, and men (as one myself
love is brought through providing a certain comfort that one doesn’t want to lose. For women it may be financial or physical security, for men it may be sexual satisfaction and a sense of responsibility. Love is formed through finding someone who fulfills your selfish desires. That’s not gender based.
The bolded ain't true for me at all, I need to enjoy the woman's non sexual company and believe she improves my quality of life. When I'm around good company ---> less stress ---> good convo ---> good ideas ---> good plans ---> good actions. And that process ideally gets repeated with longevity and the ability to work through disagreements/differences of opinion because the net good outweighs the bad. The ability of a girl to satisfy me sexually matters but in the grand scheme of things sex is like 10-15% of my life TOPS sooooo, Imma need more than that. Also fukk I look like looking for "responsibility" the responsibility you have to a partner/significant other is mutual and built into the agreement of a relationship that should in no way be a perk for a man unless they're so simplistic that they don't have a sense of purpose without a woman
“I need to enjoy the woman’s non sexual company” is selfish. I’m not saying it’s bad, I’m saying all criteria when looking for a mate is how they fulfill your need. Again, it’s not a bad thing at all, but what any of us are specifically looking for is inherently selfish because it’s meant to serve self
Deep_Black_Conscious
Superstar
MAJORITY of marriages are this
Software
RIP Future Gohan
Exactly people fall in love for different reasons
But you gotta make sure what she fall in love with you for is something that can't be taken from you or very difficult to take from you like your personality or stature or sense of humor or something
If she love you for something that can be lost or taken like money, clout, opportunity you lost
That's why the best relationships are when a chick already got what she want and need and so do you. Y'all together because y'all like being around each other not because you need each other