I disagree, while on paper the “hook up culture” isn’t as big as people may think it is.
It’s moreso a societal issue. It isn’t promoted in the media as a healthy means of exploring one’s sexuality. This is still a repressive conservative country in regards to sex, even though it’s used as a marketing tool.
But you’re conflating theory with real life practice.
The reason why most young men aren’t having sex like that is because they did not grow up in a society that valued socializing them to interact with women in regard to their own sexuality. And women are taught to be sexually repressive.
Throw in distractions like pornography, video games, social media, etc. there isn’t a strong need for a man to cultivate the necessary social skills in over to overcome the fact that there isn’t an infrastructure for him to meet women with the purpose of having casual sex.
Sure you could argue that “dating apps” and “bars/clubs” exist - however they don’t exist for that exact purpose. Dating apps exist to monetize exposure of men to women, creating a toxic gender divide, and offer a degree of anonymity where creeps and weirdos (victims of a sexually repressive society) add onto this divide.
And bars/clubs are generally the worst environments to actually interact with other people and exist to sell alcohol and artificial status barriers.
That is sexual revolution/hookup culture in a nutshell. But notice how it’s a CULTURE. It only exists within a narrow set of beliefs and societal expectations. It is not necessarily reflective of real life or anything beyond a collection of societal beliefs specific to Western society.
NOW what I’m talking about is the individual. Like it or not, cold approach is a counter culture action because it isn’t encouraged and is demonized by the media. The men who do this go against the grain, otherwise you’d see a culture of men approaching women, which simply is not the case due to how society is set up. Hell most people don’t even socialize with strangers in general.
At the end of the day you cannot make broad generalizations about individuals. All it takes is the right man for the right woman at the right time. Literally anything can happen. I know dudes who have met women on the street corner and had sex with them in a Starbucks bathroom less than an hour later. And have done similar things multiple times.
Sure you can argue that these are “one in a million” examples - however they can’t even be quantified under the parameters of “most women don’t want to have sex with a random man”. Except that statement applies in the context of participating in “hookup culture”
To what degree of nuance is “most women don’t want to have sex with a random man, unless he presents himself in a particular way at a particular time” adding? Essentially you can’t actually make that statement reflecting society and apply it to individuals over a concept like biology. We exist to reproduce.
All I’m saying is that cold approach works. Biologically men and women are hardwired to have sex. Sexual attraction exists and if a person is bold enough to transcend society and culture in order to put themselves in a position to make those things apparent then they will have success.
While our society is heavily and hypocritically conservative, the sexual Revolution has indeed been attempted to be marketed as a “healthy means of sexual expression for women” culturally. And it’s been popularized as such.
Yet, in spite of the markers of hypersexuality in our culture, current generations are having less of it.
Some of the reasons you give for decrease in sexual activity, aren’t wrong persay, but they miss the mark. Which is a.) sex has always primarily been an enterprise of marriage or prostitution in Western culture and b.) current generations are having less of it because of a number of factors including those you mentioned but also the economic factors, and degradation of relationships, marriage and social human interaction altogether.
Economic downturn results in men and women delaying rites of passage like homeownership and marriage. Welp, having your own crib and being in a relationship is where people predominately get sex. That hasn’t changed much even tho we are inundated with sexual images and hyper sexuality.
Moreover, the advent of the age of technology has made sexual imagery more easily accessible and rendered in-person social interactions a skill of yesteryear.
So we have a generation of individuals who haven’t cultivated critical interpersonal social skills due to an overabundance of technology that increasingly minimizing the need for human interaction.
A generation born in an unstable economy that undermines trades, homeownership, stable careers, which in turn makes individuals reticent to start serious relationships/marriages b/c they don’t want to entertain starting a family while they can barely do for themselves.
Sooo what do we do in the meantime sexually if sex was traditionally primarily had in long-term relationships?
We lie and cap. Chicks will claim “Hoe is life” but fukk exes to avoid adding strangers to their body count. Sex toys, porn, lesbianism, celibacy, romance novels…all types of stuff to avoid the hassle of sexual interaction with strangers you have no established connection with.
As for where I’m getting this information, biological evolutionists will tell you women are exceedingly picky about sexual partners. Several scholars have tracked these trends. I posted a few studies above. And these findings resonate with my own experiences as a woman and understanding of female culture from interactions with other women.
All of this leads to the idea that hookup culture is largely a lie.
That doesn’t mean that cold approaching doesn’t work or can’t work. But number games doesn’t negate the fact that beyond the outliers, most women aren’t inclined to have sexual relations with stranger. Never really have been. Common sense tells us if they were, this whole cat and mouse game wouldn’t even be a thing.
Women want hot sex, romance, protection and provision from attractive rich men. Those are very few and far between ti the woman’s eye. But that’s okay because whereas there might not be huge strong attraction immediately, oftentimes, getting to know someone improves holistic attraction. Which is why many will have better luck getting sex in relationships, than in casual encounters. It’s also why many men have to feed chicks fairy tales to keep them sexually permissive b/c so many women DONT want casual sexual encounters.
However, if you see otherwise then you have your experience and I have mine.
) or if she emotionally unstable, insane/daddy abandonment issues—then sure. There’s always a chance. But even then they gotta be feeling you. And very few people have that raw attraction magnetism. Most need to stop trying to smash off game and just get to know people organically and authentically because their personalities will get them where their initial appearance/aura/first impression car salesman approach won’t.
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