Emotional Infidelity: Do you believe in it? Is it worse than physical infidelity?

[Desirous]

You can't really help who you love sometimes. You can control who you fukk though. Physical cheating is always a choice. The other may be more detrimental to a relationship, but I'd rather someone tell me if they've fallen for someone else before it leads to the physical - then we can dead "us" and move on.

 

[Mr. Negative]

But do you agree that the "Oh, they must be fukking/dating" line is thrown around too loosely in the workplace?

yes.

 

[UserNameless]

You can't really help who you love sometimes. You can control who you fukk though. Physical cheating is always a choice. The other may be more detrimental to a relationship, but I'd rather someone tell me if they've fallen for someone else before it leads to the physical - then we can dead "us" and move on.

Powerful.





Checking your thoughts and ruminations is possible, albeit extremely tough. But controlling the actions, especially the sex, should be much easier.

In regards to the underlined, it might not even be they've fallen for someone else, but the someone else -- and falling for them or getting emotionally attached to that someone -- was just the means to indicate they're now cold toward their partner and have no desire to warm back up to him/her.

 

[Desirous]

Powerful.





Checking your thoughts and ruminations is possible, albeit extremely tough. But controlling the actions, especially the sex, should be much easier.

In regards to the underlined, it might not even be they've fallen for someone else, but the someone else -- and falling for them or getting emotionally attached to that someone -- was just the means to indicate they're now cold toward their partner and have no desire to warm back up to him/her.

In any case, the emotional withdraw should be communicated.

 

[Theraflu]

you'll know.

Yep, a person who is deeply in tune will always know. The thing is people are more obvious than they think they are and the woman's voice, tone and eye movements will change when she mentions 'Tony'.

Always, if you're aware of your spouses body language you'll be able to pick on their feelings for someone just by observing how they react when speaking about them.

 

[Ego Noir]

Right...but so often that's not the case. But there are any men who are limited and/or downright unavailable emotionally... sooooooooo...

That's just an excuse for a woman to justify being a whore.

You knew breh wasn't about that emotional thing when y'all first committed

If you letting another man swoop in and listen to all your cries you have first the intention to look 'elsewhere' before it happened

 

[The 2020 New Member]

i would call it cheating, for sure but i wouldn't ever tell my s/o how i felt about them doing it.

but my platonic crush would hear about it all night long until we both emogasm. real talk.

 

[UserNameless]

In any case, the emotional withdraw should be communicated.

Definitely.

Again, as you stated, you might not be able to control whom you develop a fondness for, but I'm a strong proponent of "thought-stopping," "thought redirection" and other cognitive exercises to help delay/subvert any super adverse/costly scenarios.

The thoughts birth the actions.

But still, the sexual infidelity speaks to more of a lack of discipline and recklessness than emotional infidelity.

 

[UserNameless]

That's just an excuse for a woman to justify being a whore.

You knew breh wasn't about that emotional thing when y'all first committed

If you letting another man swoop in and listen to all your cries you had the intention to look 'elsewhere' before it happened

i would call it cheating, for sure but i wouldn't ever tell my s/o how i felt about them doing it.

but my platonic crush would hear about it all night long until we both emogasm. real talk.

 

[HoloGraphic]

We all need different levels and types of "love" or relationships. As long as we know the boundaries of these connections, I think it's fine. See, Onegina Disease.

Granted, your Significant Other is and should be that number one in your life and your best friend. But more than likely, your going to have a few females/males who are your friends and there will be some sort of attraction there. I personally use these relationships to learn what makes me attractive to women and to work on those strengths. But my S/O will reap those benefits.

i would call it cheating, for sure but i wouldn't ever tell my s/o how i felt about them doing it.

but my platonic crush would hear about it all night long until we both emogasm. real talk.

There are different levels to love and friendship. Friendly/Platonic, Erotic, etc. All levels should be worked on for a healthy relationship.

 

[UserNameless]

We all need different levels and types of "love" or relationships. As long as we know the boundaries of these connections, I think it's fine. See, Onegina Disease.

Granted, your Significant Other is and should be that number one in your life and your best friend. But more than likely, your going to have a few females/males who are your friends and there will be some sort of attraction there. I personally use these relationships to learn what makes me attractive to women and to work on those strengths. But my S/O will reap those benefits.



There are different levels to love and friendship. Friendly/Platonic, Erotic, etc. All levels should be worked on for a healthy relationship.

 

[HoloGraphic]

I broke up with my girlfriend in High school cause I had a crush or intense attraction to another female. Big mistake. I just wanted to lose my virginity to the first girl. That other girl wasn't even looking my way even though we definitely had a STRONG connection and still do. I didn't think it was right for me to be with one girl, while having such a connection with someone else.

But I realized I was attracted to many, many women, for many different reasons. I can't have them all, but I still fantasize about each individual relationship and how our dynamic would play out with each female.

I'm still friends with the 2nd girl and still attracted to her, I believe it's mutual. I think the connection is natural too. We could potentially be anything we want, friends, fukk buddies, date, etc. But I 'want' someone else.

Attraction is natural in many forms. People mix with different people for a bunch of reasons. But come to think of it. Emotional infidelity IS worse. Emotions run deep and for a long time, its where all this begins. It hurts alot more knowing someone else is making your woman happy without even touching them, and by playing within the rules. The physical is an expression of the inner emotions, so if she screws around, you lost her a long time ago. Especially when you consider most of what women do is driven by emotion. You were simply too stubborn to notice or do anything about it.

 

[UserNameless]

I broke up with my girlfriend in High school cause I had a crush or intense attraction to another female. Big mistake. I just wanted to lose my virginity to the first girl. That other girl wasn't even looking my way even though we definitely had a STRONG connection and still do. I didn't think it was right for me to be with one girl, while having such a connection with someone else.

But I realized I was attracted to many, many women, for many different reasons. I can't have them all, but I still fantasize about each individual relationship and how our dynamic would play out with each female.

I'm still friends with the 2nd girl and still attracted to her, I believe it's mutual. I think the connection is natural too. We could potentially be anything we want, friends, fukk buddies, date, etc. But I 'want' someone else.

Attraction is natural in many forms. People mix with different people for a bunch of reasons. But come to think of it. Emotional infidelity IS worse. Emotions run deep and for a long time, its where all this begins. It hurts alot more knowing someone else is making your woman happy without even touching them, and by playing within the rules. The physical is an expression of the inner emotions, so if she screws around, you lost her a long time ago. Especially when you consider most of what women do is driven by emotion. You were simply too stubborn to notice or do anything about it.

You're just on fire right now...


How old are you?

 

[Desirous]

Definitely.

Again, as you stated, you might not be able to control whom you develop a fondness for, but I'm a strong proponent of "thought-stopping," "thought redirection" and other cognitive exercises to help delay/subvert any super adverse/costly scenarios.

The thoughts birth the actions.

But still, the sexual infidelity speaks to more of a lack of discipline and recklessness than emotional infidelity.

100%

 

[HoloGraphic]

You're just on fire right now...


How old are you?

Twenny Twoo......HUNNA

I picked up this book, the way of the Superior Man by David Deida. Great read. Kinda lays out all the attraction dynamics in an easy to read format. Coupled with The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene, one may do damage, if ye knows how to play his cards right (and experience). Both of these books have great insight on this topic.

Alot of people are missing love in their life. They miss receiving and also giving it too. The more you are open and are able to allow that flow of love, platonically, brotherly, fatherly, etc the more you become a source of it for other people, and they will on their own time and ability, reciprocate it. Or not. Its about controlling yourself and allowing the FLOW.

This dynamic is what leads to emotional infidelity. Even though she may be in a relationship, her emotions are as free as the wind. If she sees some dude at work, freely giving the happiness to whomever is there, she's going to gravitate towards that source. Attraction, polarity, charge, gravitas. She isn't getting that at home, so her emptiness will seek to be fulfilled elsewhere. It's only natural, like water filling a cup.

Someone else already said this in here: Attack the emotions, the psyche and the physical will follow.