Emotional Infidelity: Do you believe in it? Is it worse than physical infidelity?

[UserNameless]

I didn't say control, I said infiltrate lol. And that's a big misconception. A woman doesn't have to be in an unhappy relationship to be swayed by game.

True. The unhappy ones seem to be the most vulnerable in my experience.

Happily married women don't even divulge many deep emotions in the workplace. They're able to toe that line quite artfully, remaining professional, but can still inject some personal anecdotes and maintain a pleasant working relationship. Usually... usually... older women though.

 

[Ego Noir]

Real point. I'm strong proponent of that assertion.

You should go to your partner first, and ideally only (maybe aside from a trusted relative/friend, maybe), to process things -- especially relationship matters -- emotionally.

Although, there are some circumstantial scenarios that might not make that practical all the time.

But this is a social world. Most of us don't work in a solitary environment, so it's likely emotional matters will crop up at work. Even a discussion about career advancement/trajectory can be laden with emotion.

Bottom line: Your spouse/significant other might not always give you the best best emotional support/counsel...it's very likely it could come in a better form from someone else who might be of the opposite sex..for whatever reason.

Regardless, that scenario is something that needs to be addressed, too.

I believe in you and a serious significant other coming together as one.

Yea support from another is ok if it's your boy, or a female/male relative. But y'all should be able to connect on that level (unless it's about the actual relationship).

But when you start doing that with someone who is not the above (someone of the opposite sex no matter how long the friendship) you wading in dangerous waters.

 

[UserNameless]

I believe in you and a serious significant other coming together as one.

Yea support from another is ok if it's your boy, or a female/male relative. But y'all should be able to connect on that level (unless it's about the actual relationship).

But when you start doing that with someone who is not the above (someone of the opposite sex no matter how long the friendship) you wading in dangerous waters.

Right...but so often that's not the case. But there are any men who are limited and/or downright unavailable emotionally... sooooooooo...

 

[HoloGraphic]

That's exactly the point.

IMO once it's emotional, I don't need to see the physical develop cause the betrayal is already there.

Word, emotions dictate everything we do. Including the initial attraction to the person.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

A thread on "emotional infidelity"

 

[Mr. Negative]

cheating is whatever you do on a personal level with someone that you don't want your S/O finding out about.

aint no levels to the shyt.

 

[Shameonyou]

get married brehs

 

[HoloGraphic]

This makes me think of the many relationships that people are in because of their insecurities, as opposed to their love, wisdom and knowledge. Alot of the time, people aren't ready as individuals for a relationship. The one's they are in are for practice or comfort or because they can't stand being lonely. It's not real love, just filling a hole. Easy pickings.

If your not emotionally, healthy and secure as a single person, or your looking for that other person to be your 'other half' the relationship is already failing. You need to be 100 and that other person needs to be 100 for it to work. If your not happy being single, you wont be happy in a relationship.

I know plenty of girls with boyfriends and I can instantly tell whether it will last or if she would cheat or not based, on their emotional maturity. It's in how much they rely on the other person for happiness. Anyone not happy and content, can be seduced.

 

[UserNameless]

cheating is whatever you do on a personal level with someone that you don't want your S/O finding out about.

aint no levels to the shyt.

Emotional Inf. is different tho. There's really no "evidence" in the traditional sense. So your S/O can find out whatever...What is he/she gonna say to a response about the workday that sounds like this: "Yeah, me and Tony talked during the day today..."

Not knowing that she's becoming emotionally attached to Tony on the low.

 

[Mr. Negative]

Emotional Inf. is different tho. There's really no "evidence" in the traditional sense. So your S/O can find out whatever...What is he/she gonna say to a response about the workday that sounds like this: "Yeah, me and Tony talked during the day today..."

Not knowing that she's becoming emotionally attached to Tony on the low.

you'll know.

 

[UserNameless]

you'll know.

True... It's more of an educated..."hunch" or intuition for lack of a better word.

But during the workday there can be things shared, interactions (symbolic/overt), styles of communication, few words/many words...that signal a strengthening emotional attachment. To the casual observer, tho, it primarily seems as common work behavior.

Despite someone saying there's no levels to this, there are. And each one is quite profound.

 

[Mr. Negative]

True... It's more of an educated..."hunch" or intuition for lack of a better word.

But during the workday there can be things shared, interactions (symbolic/overt), styles of communication, few words/many words...that signal a strengthening emotional attachment. To the casual observer, tho, it primarily seems as common work behavior.

No they won't. Everyone in that work place will assume you're fukking.

 

[UserNameless]

No they won't. Everyone in that work place will assume you're fukking.

...but that's the default, knee jerk catchall that's illustrative of ignorance, and workplace chatter. Employees, clients say that about damn near any opposite sex, pleasant work relationship...two attractive people who have good working/professional "chemistry (despise that word)."

That's shyts gonna happen, but ask them to provide concrete evidence and they can't ...

That's more indicative of society, workplace sexual tension that they've observed morph into full blown affairs and internal biases.

 

[Mr. Negative]

...but that's the default, knee jerk catchall that's illustrative of ignorance, and workplace chatter. Employees, clients say that about damn near any opposite sex, pleasant work relationship...two attractive people who have good working/professional "chemistry (despise that word)."

That's shyts gonna happen, but ask them to provide concrete evidence and they can't ...

That's more indicative of society, workplace sexual tension that they've observed morph into full blown affairs and internal biases.

no, breh. Two people are attracted to each other, other people see it.

Because of that attraction, you change patterns and habits that are already established in the minds of people that know you, and even more in the mind and eye of someone who knows you intimately.

And they'll see it.

People feign innocence when they're caught and fall back on the fact that nothing physical has happened.

 

[UserNameless]

no, breh. Two people are attracted to each other, other people see it.

Because of that attraction, you change patterns and habits that are already established in the minds of people that know you, and even more in the mind and eye of someone who knows you intimately.

And they'll see it.

People feign innocence when they're caught and fall back on the fact that nothing physical has happened.

But do you agree that the "Oh, they must be fukking/dating" line is thrown around too loosely in the workplace?