Eboni K Williams: “We want black sperm but pickings are slim. Single motherhood by choice!” UPDATE: Eboni Is Now Preganant via IVF.

[Gloxina]

The poster child for what. No one asked her to go online these past few months to create media narratives about an entire group of people. She could've just done all of this in private like any normal person.

That’s what I’m saying.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Citations please. As these surveys of sentiment or educational outcomes? Are there any longitudinal studies on how these children fare overall and if they get married at similar rates to 2 parent households?

I’ve linked them before, I’m not going back to the googles for them. You can find them if you google outcomes of children in single mother by choice households and/or similar terms.

 

[DrBanneker]

And I already addressed what a child needs, a child doesn’t need a two parent household, they need love and support. Most of human life, kids weren’t raised in two parent households, they were raised by community

Really? So why is no other ethnic group championing single motherhood by choice except very feminist northern Europe? Do we as Black people have some secret knowledge or techniques to negate having a father figure in the home?

And let's be blunt, I know people like this and most don't even feign to find a man to be in the life of their kid.

 

[Gloxina]

No, I specifically said single moms by choice - the demographic who plans pregnancy alone. This is Not inclusive of single mothers by chance who usually don’t have the same demographic traits as single moms by choice


And as I’ve said, y’all can look up the studies yourselves, I have no reason to make up a lie

I get what you’re saying. They are prepared financially to provide a good household

 

[DrBanneker]

I’ve linked them before, I’m not going back to the googles for them. You can find them if you google outcomes of children in single mother by choice households and/or similar terms.

I already have and none addressed anything besides sentiment or surveys focused on the mother and her struggles more than analyzing child outcomes. What outcomes specifically did they find and I can find the papers.

 

[Gloxina]

simply getting our (collectively) head out the sand

like they’re any better. Only better of hiding their foolish.

Is there absolutely no other alternative besides abandoning BW?

Partner with Black women who are on your program!



I was being facetious in the comment you quoted.

 

[DrBanneker]

I get what you’re saying. They are prepared financially to provide a good household

We have to dead this lie that only financial resources are sufficient for childbearing. A lot of people are financially capable but should not be mothers (or fathers) full stop. There are good single mothers--I know some and some friends are from that background--but saying that some make it work is different than saying it is equally viable.

Saying love and cash for a nice private school, nanny, and clothes are all that one needs demeans the hard work of raising kids and helping them navigate society and grow into well rounded people. They aren't next level pets or something.

My wife fits the demographic of single mothers by choice and often tells me she has no idea how she could raise our kids effectively alone. She admits she doesn't always have the right answers to raise or sons and I tell her the same for our daughter.

 

[HARLEM AL]

And you got a thong on that's pulled to side.

Please stop pretending that brehs don't see how you are constantly on here shytting on women as if you don't like them at all

When you wear your draws outside your pants, do you automatically get your super powers?

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Really? So why is no other ethnic group championing single motherhood by choice except very feminist northern Europe? Do we as Black people have some secret knowledge or techniques to negate having a father figure in the home?

And let's be blunt, I know people like this and most don't even feign to find a man to be in the life of their kid.

Show me who “champions” it. I actually know several SMBCs of all races, none are “feminists”, they are women who were unpartnered late into their fertility window and moved ahead with having a kid. Y’all keep trying to over complicate things and make it as if every woman who goes this route hates men or never tried - of the five I know closely, two were divorced and one was once engaged. Another I know as an acquaintance, her husband killed their son, once she was ready to move forward, she did it alone. None of them have sworn off men and two are dating men now. Women have a window, taking control of that window doesn’t equate to hating men or the idea of traditional families, most women mourn the fact they won’t/don’t have a traditional family when doing this.


But go head, y’all got all the answers. I doubt any of y’all have really talked to anyone who has gone this route.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

I already have and none addressed anything besides sentiment or surveys focused on the mother and her struggles more than analyzing child outcomes. What outcomes specifically did they find and I can find the papers.

Schoo performance, childhood milestones, emotional security

 

[Marlow Stanfield]

When you wear your draws outside your pants, do you automatically get your super powers?

When you refer to another man in your 'women bad' circlejerk as "superman", are you still from Harlem?

And don't think we didn't see that shyt. And we saw that you edited it out

 

[Gloxina]

We have to dead this lie that only financial resources are sufficient for childbearing. A lot of people are financially capable but should not be mothers (or fathers) full stop. There are good single mothers--I know some and some friends are from that background--but saying that some make it work is different than saying it is equally viable.

Saying love and cash for a nice private school, nanny, and clothes are all that one needs demeans the hard work of raising kids and helping them navigate society and grow into well rounded people. They aren't next level pets or something.

My wife fits the demographic of single mothers by choice and often tells me she has no idea how she could raise our kids effectively alone. She admits she doesn't always have the right answers to raise or sons and I tell her the same for our daughter.

You are absolutely right. In the past, if you weren’t married you simply didn’t have kids.


But in a world where there are plenty of kids who need to be adopted, people who are late bloomers who didn’t find a partner in their youth, etc…yea there are people who still want to be parents and choose to do so without a partner. It is not optimal and not suggested, but I’d rather see a successful career woman raise a kid with the resources needed to afford help than a woman who was careless or a couple that is careless.

Finances play a part. A significant part, but that isn’t everything and can’t replace a father- you are correct. That definitely wasn’t what I was implying.

 

[Gloxina]

We have to dead this lie that only financial resources are sufficient for childbearing. A lot of people are financially capable but should not be mothers (or fathers) full stop. There are good single mothers--I know some and some friends are from that background--but saying that some make it work is different than saying it is equally viable.

Saying love and cash for a nice private school, nanny, and clothes are all that one needs demeans the hard work of raising kids and helping them navigate society and grow into well rounded people. They aren't next level pets or something.

My wife fits the demographic of single mothers by choice and often tells me she has no idea how she could raise our kids effectively alone. She admits she doesn't always have the right answers to raise or sons and I tell her the same for our daughter.

Of course, which is why this stuff isn’t supposed to be championed.

 

[HARLEM AL]

When you refer to another man in your 'women bad' circlejerk as "superman", are you still from Harlem?

And don't think we didn't see that shyt. And we saw that you edited it out

I edited out because i didnt want him to think that was for him when it was for your bytchass. Trust me lil nikka, ive been fuicking bytches since you were in soggy ass pamper eating crayons.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Good Household = I can outsource this baby to day cares and uber eats once it aint cute anymore to take bullshyt photoshoots for social media.

DEAD nikkaS