Do you have a friend or acquaintance you don't invite out places because of insecurity?

[MaxPain]

ive recently been stood up by pretty boy white acquaintances for this same reason im pretty sure.

i used to be a skinny dusty african nikka who only got cuts every 3 months, now i cut my own shyt sharp and stay working out. like rookie season giannis or something

same dudes i grew up with been acting weird as hell lately

Men are the new women.

 

[MaxPain]

That aint the reason you have 1 or 2 friends

Whats the reason then?

 

[Claudex]

Ayo this is it. Spot the fukk on. Nice to know there's plenty of us on here that actually be outside cuz you correctly assessed the whole situation just off what I posted like you know me or sum. Never once did I think about what the hoes I didn't fukk was saying cuz like you said never once did I give a fukk why they couldn't just articulate the shyt like that these mfs just be sum " you be tweakin g" I'm like Kanye how sway?!! But yeah you right tho real shyt

breh I had a homie just like you, shyt didn't bug me out when I met him because I was already aware of men that basically live like they got short memories. Dudes that just go out there and create new memories everyday without dwelling too much on the past or what didn't work.
One day I had to let him know
"nikka you really don't see it?"
Him: "nikka see what? "
Me: "Bruh that girl be flunking classes 'cause you basically ghosted and she been trynna get your attention for a minute now, been bothering the hell out of us too! "
Him: "Dafuq? I just hit it for part of the semester, and I broke things off with her, it ain't like I ghosted without an explanation. Matter of fact, why y'all putting up with her bullshyt anyway? "
Me: "'Cause she's OUR nikka's girlfriend's best friend who's been bugging us to make you at least give homegirl some closure man!"
Him: "Closure for what?"

Eventually he switched up though, going out with us became socializing time and he found other friends to be free to hunt with. I went out with him a couple of times outside of our group of friends environment...this dude was amazing to watch. He was relentless , would score more average girls than dimes but bruh...EVEN the DIMES would get forgotten with the quickness once he was on to the next one.

nikka was just out here living life.

But him choosing to restrain himself with us helped a little. I think it also helped him separate his personality from his conquests, he learned to be the life of the party without necessarily getting at anyone...

but if some p*ssy fell through, we all knew he'd hit us with the: "MF's she approached me. I was behaving myself."

 

[BBG]

It could just be the way you are.
Maybe you always on the hunt while sometimes they wanna chill with the girls.

I had a friend like that, he would often hit on the girl i'm hitting on at the same time i'm hitting on her.
But then he'd be like bro i'm not flirting with her but i want her to tell her friends oh he was nice....
His perception of things did not even allow him to understand what i was complaining about.

This sounds like me too and I'm with breh, I don't see the issue. If the bytch get swept off her feet just off the charm alone better to let the bird fly away than to try to keep somebody choosing.

By uncomfortable that I mean creating like "competition" among the women. In small settings, this always causes problems in some way or the other.

You've exampled two incidents in two separate environments where your behavior has caused some sort of negative reaction toward you. At work they had to "get you off the line" and your friends stopped inviting you to gatherings. I'm not saying your behavior is wrong, but perhaps you should consider modifying it based on where you are.

At a club or bar where there are multiple women, flirting with all is cool, in more intimate or professional settings, based on what you said, it doesn't appear to be a good thing.

Ah I get what you saying in the bolded. I threw some meat on the grill a couple weeks ago, super small lil gathering I definitely wasn't tryna do nothing big cuz I ain't feeding the hood on my dime lmao but the point is towards the end of it was literally only me, my guy, and three girls I already smashed. Apparently none of them were interested in him or at the very least had enough respect to not entertain nikkas in my presence. But clearly they don't know me cuz I don't give a fukk lol. Homie was mad about that too talkin bout I would've told him I fukked em all but I'm like nikka I wasn't trying to ruin your confidence, go out there and get you a bucket . Needless to say he didn't, and the women ended up pretty uncomfortable except for my favorite home girl who be down for threesomes n shyt. We just laughed about the shyt together as they eventually left


I think it's safe to say I'm more inappropriate than I realized and still got a lot of work to do. I really wanna blame my upbringing on the shyt but I'm too old for that so fukk it I just gotta do better

Whats the story? I never heard of it

Yeah iono what dude talmbout , apparently nobody else does either. That shyt was random af lol.

breh I had a homie just like you, shyt didn't bug me out when I met him because I was already aware of men that basically live like they got short memories. Dudes that just go out there and create new memories everyday without dwelling too much on the past or what didn't work.
One day I had to let him know
"nikka you really don't see it?"
Him: "nikka see what? "
Me: "Bruh that girl be flunking classes 'cause you basically ghosted and she been trynna get your attention for a minute now, been bothering the hell out of us too! "
Him: "Dafuq? I just hit it for part of the semester, and I broke things off with her, it ain't like I ghosted without an explanation. Matter of fact, why y'all putting up with her bullshyt anyway? "
Me: "'Cause she's OUR nikka's girlfriend's best friend who's been bugging us to make you at least give homegirl some closure man!"
Him: "Closure for what?"

Eventually he switched up though, going out with us became socializing time and he found other friends to be free to hunt with. I went out with him a couple of times outside of our group of friends environment...this dude was amazing to watch. He was relentless , would score more average girls than dimes but bruh...EVEN the DIMES would get forgotten with the quickness once he was on to the next one.

nikka was just out here living life.

But him choosing to restrain himself with us helped a little. I think it also helped him separate his personality from his conquests, he learned to be the life of the party without necessarily getting at anyone...

but if some p*ssy fell through, we all knew he'd hit us with the: "MF's she approached me. I was behaving myself."

It's amazing to me how much I can relate, breh. I spent a lot of time on this earth thinking I was very different than everybody else and maybe for the most part I am but these situations you mentioning sounds exactly like me and my homies. You sure you not from Chicago

 

[Prince.Skeletor]

This sounds like me too and I'm with breh, I don't see the issue. If the bytch get swept off her feet just off the charm alone better to let the bird fly away than to try to keep somebody choosing.

Ahhh then you wrong when you said this wasn't a humble brag.
It is a brag.
It ain't your face or your physique as your mind thinks it is.
It's your behavior with girls around when you with your friends.
You cock-blocking, and you blocking because of your personality and not any other bragging rights type of reason

 

[BBG]

Ahhh then you wrong when you said this wasn't a humble brag.
It is a brag.
It ain't your face or your physique as your mind thinks it is.
It's your behavior with girls around when you with your friends.
You cock-blocking, and you blocking because of your personality and not any other bragging rights type of reason

Nah you being sensitive if you been reading what I've been posting, I'm clearly trying to figure out what the problem is and whenever someone pointed it out clearly I take accountability and own it. You just sound like you furious cuz your bytches only like you until they run into your superior friend. If you think the guy just being himself and genuinely not flirting is the problem and not the woman, that's all I need to know about you to be honest. Tf is there to brag about

 

[RaspberryFitted]

If all else fails, blame it on you being #handsomegang

 

[DEAD7]

Embarrassment yes… insecurity nah

 

[Yas]

You honestly sound like a hoe. I wouldn't want you around my friends either. I wouldn't want to scare them.

 

[Xcenai]

 

[lespaulultra3]

The only nikkas i don't invite are the loud mouth nikkas that start telling corny jokes and change their while personality when hoes are around. shyt is annoying.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Mafukka posted text messages

 

[Jahbarri]

In before insecure nikkas call this a humble brag thread.


I'm that "friend". Several people have hinted at, or flat out told me they don't invite me places when they girl around or at a function where ain't enough women for everyone to eat comfortably. Admittedly, there was a time in my life where knowing this was an ego boost and made me feel like dat nikka but at 31 that shyt is frustrating. nikkas will invite me over to smoke, talk shyt amongst the fellas, or if they need life advice but will almost NEVER invite me over if it's bytches around. That shyt ain't cool bruh cuz I always set women out, like if you can bag em, eat breh wtf?


Someone I wouldn't say I'm close enough with to call a friend, but we run in the same circles and cool with each other birthday was yesterday. Apparently, he invited people over to celebrate but ain't nobody really show up. nikka start posting emotional shyt on FB "I swear I hate my birthday, why am I even alive" then the next post was him with a bottle talkin bout "fukk it imma drink this by myself I don't need no help" just downright pathetic shyt. So I hit my homie who is also friends with this nikka and that's when he told me about him inviting people over. Neither one of these nikkas told me beforehand but come to find out he had his sister and female cousins come through and he ain't want me trying to talk to em that's why yo bytch ass had to celebrate by yourself, ol lame ahh nikka




Also last night, I just had a conversation with my favorite supervisor from my first job ever. Cool ass older black lady that used to put on "Mista Don't Play" when it was time to close the shop. We reminiscing about the old days and I'm telling her about a co-worker I was feenin to smash but never got the chance. This was the conversation:

But then this had me thinking back, like damn they was really hating on me, every time even a decent looking woman would get in my line they would make me go do the dishes, kinda shyt is that??




All this shyt was on my mind last night, I thought it would be gone in the morning yet here I am pondering my life choices and how I came to be who I am.. like I'm a solid friend I give great advice and real easy to talk to, I listen, and am brutally honest to a fault... Especially when talking about myself and my negative qualities. I wanna be a better person and honestly I've made real strides to be throughout the years, but I don't think my nikkas be seeing that shyt frfr.







tl;dr y'all ain't gotta read all that shyt I just be using thecoli as my journal sometimes. But the question is do y'all have homies that y'all don't bring around females, or are you that homie lol. Share stories



P.S. where that nikka @skeetsinternal at, I'm almost certain we share similar woes

U have an android thats why u cant be invited into group chats

 

[Prince.Skeletor]

Nah you being sensitive if you been reading what I've been posting, I'm clearly trying to figure out what the problem is and whenever someone pointed it out clearly I take accountability and own it. You just sound like you furious cuz your bytches only like you until they run into your superior friend. If you think the guy just being himself and genuinely not flirting is the problem and not the woman, that's all I need to know about you to be honest. Tf is there to brag about

Nah nah nah
Why do you equate such behavior with superiority?
He acts this way so he must be superior?
He ain't superior and nobody sees him as superior either, none of the guys and none of the girls.
But sometimes you just changing the vibe.

See you don't get it
Also I said you cock-blocking but also sometimes guys just wanna chill with girls, and girls with the guys.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

You sound like a nikka who don't know time or place.
Aint nobody trying to deal with that shyt in their circles. Creates drama in the long run.

exactly

can merge worlds when a habitual line stepper will stomp all over the delicate balance of things