What do you do when a close cousin/best friend becomes a dope fiend?

Rick Fox at UNC

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@Rekkapryde You my guy. Over the past few years I've outgrown a number of friends, I've lost my brother to health problems, I've lost an old really good friend to drugs (no one knew he was dead for weeks), and I've seen another old really good friend on the street completely out of sorts.

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Man, you're just going to outgrow certain people, regardless of whether they are doing solid in life or not. If they are on different trajectories, you will definitely outgrow them, and outside of catching up from time to time, will likely have little in common with them.

This is natural, especially if you're moving forward in your life and taking complete control of it. Takes a different mindset.

Christmas of 2023 I had dinner with a friend that I first met in like 2004. He's a really smart dude, went to an art college, spent some time doing film stuff in LA but it didn't stick. During the dinner, while listening to the shyt he was talking about, I realized we don't really have a lot in common anymore. He wanted to talk about old video game stuff from high school and all kinds of what ifs. All the stuff that was entertaining 10+ years ago was now silly to me. I had traveled the world, I was focusing in on my career, just in a completely different place.

My Boy MBL
Long story, less long. We were really good friends, kicked it tight for years. His family knew all of my family, ours his. I used to build computers in high school, teachers let me do so. They also let us have a video game club after school where everyone would play Dreamcast and Playstation for hours after school. I was a visionary with that shyt, should've charged people money. Anyway, he was always my guy. We switched high schools together, always hung out together and so on.

There were differences though. He was always into drugs, I assume just weed, but I've always been naive with that stuff, so I'm sure he did harder stuff. Over the years it started to take its toll. He was getting arrested for fighting cops, all kinds of weird stuff. He would be working and living with his uncle or sister, but never seemed to have his own places or achieve stability on his own. I don't know, we hung out and talked in and out, and still kicked it tough for some years.

After a gap, we spoke in 2018, I was in Atlanta at the time. All we talked about was 90's wrestling, video games, and whatever we talked about from 1998-2007. I just, while I like that stuff, I just didn't really care like that anymore. My life was more interesting.

He wanted to come out to Atlanta with me, but I felt uneasy about it. Either way, we lost touch again (I probably never returned a couple of his calls) and next I know he was in a halfway house after being released from prison.

Saw him last year pacing around the streets, near the state University, talking about "god is up here, the levels of god." All the students had to basically walk around him like a lamp post. I pulled over and watched him for awhile, then told him to get in the car. He got in and said what's up, but his mind was just not there.

We rode around for like 30 minutes and I dropped him back off, he asked me for some money and I told him if he wanted to get better I would support him but nothing outside of that.

Such is life.

My Boy JSS
I actually met JSS through MBL when I was around 17. He wasn't into drugs, just heavy into video games. He wrestled a bit in high school, was one of those dudes who was muscular and had like 8% body fat without every lifting weights. Didn't have the greatest confidence, wasn't good with women, and his family life was kind of...humbling, but hey. We spend every day together, got our first jobs together. I chilled with his sister, knew his family really well, all of it. We might have even gotten tighter than MBL and I were for a while.

He ended up getting into drugs, blames MBL for it. He was working fast food and doing odd jobs. I remember picking him up one night and he was talking that, "this is god's land" talk and doing a bunch of weird shyt. I was starting to get serious about finishing college, playing sports, whatever, so I kind of distanced myself and hung out with a bunch of other friends.

Either way, next thing I knew, he was serving a 4 year prison sentence for holding someone at knife point (not a robbery, just some weird situation at his house).

He maybe got out in 2012, I don't know. Saw him at the gym one time, I was into my career. Talked to him and exchanged numbers but knew I would never follow up. I really didn't keep in contact with him. Maybe saw him randomly. He was just all screwed up.

Fast forward, his sister tells me he passed away and no one found out for like 3 weeks. Of everything he was, the incredibly smart, diligent, and kind hearted kid I once knew, this is what known of him...

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Died, completely anonymous, with no one to speak his name or claim his body.

Such is life.
 

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I've also had friends move on from hanging out with me.

They moved on to University and relationships or whatever and I was still playing Gears of War every night or whatever. They made the correct move at the time. I remember this one girl I was dating in high school was like, "you're still here, what are you still doing here?"

I think about that shyt to this day, and it was like 2 years after high school. People gotta move forward man.

Such is life.
 
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That nikka tripping. Not talking to no fukking DEA lol

You guys don't have the context. They are investigating fentanyl overdose deaths, it's called Team 10, so anyone on the scene is going to have to be interviewed. All they asked me is if I used to drugs or not, and if I knew where he bought them I told them what drugs he used, how long he used and that he bought them on the street, and I didn't know anyone he used fentanyl with. What are you going to say, I want a lawyer?

They will roll you up so fast your fukking head will spin. Seize your phones, empty your pockets, search your pockets. This DEA/HSI task force. You are on the scene of an overdose death, and they are looking to make a quick arrest. It's only that I was so composed and calm, that they knew I had nothing to do with it. They were actually respectful and the dude and I had a heart to heart, I was damn near crying at that point. It's all in the game. They are just people too. It had nothing to do with any thing else. I have actually seen those guys on the block hitting houses after that.
 
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