Drugs are bad.
What do you do when a close cousin/best friend becomes a dope fiend?
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Ezekiel 25:17
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From what I been told, they can quit anytime if they really want it.
Tell him you love him and praying that his taste for life returns before it's removed from the table. Give him a hug. Cry on his shoulder. He might call you a b***h for crying, but when he leaves your presence, he'll cry too.
You can’t compel no addict to get off dope with love, tough love, anger, patience, etc… You can support them on their journey but you can’t help them, and it’s nothing you can do or say.
If you ever been in a rehab class you can very clearly see the addicts that are serious about that recovery journey and those who are not. With hard drugs, it’s almost like an obsessive discipline they have to have to stay clean. Like people who are serious won’t even be around alcohol. They fully understand their triggers and make it a point to avoid them at all cost. Then you got people who you can tell want to be clean but they still knee deep in they addiction, those be the ones that will acknowledge an addiction but still try and justify it somehow.
I spent a lot of time around crackheads and addicts. I also used to have to sit in them addiction/treatment classes when we used get in trouble in work release. The drug program was on the other side and they used to punish us by making us go sit in them classes with them. That was a horrible idea though cause you just putting the dope boys with the J’s from they neighborhood and we just be making them dance and do silly shyt
If you ever been in a rehab class you can very clearly see the addicts that are serious about that recovery journey and those who are not. With hard drugs, it’s almost like an obsessive discipline they have to have to stay clean. Like people who are serious won’t even be around alcohol. They fully understand their triggers and make it a point to avoid them at all cost. Then you got people who you can tell want to be clean but they still knee deep in they addiction, those be the ones that will acknowledge an addiction but still try and justify it somehow.
I spent a lot of time around crackheads and addicts. I also used to have to sit in them addiction/treatment classes when we used get in trouble in work release. The drug program was on the other side and they used to punish us by making us go sit in them classes with them. That was a horrible idea though cause you just putting the dope boys with the J’s from they neighborhood and we just be making them dance and do silly shyt
Yinny
Sweet and Sour Patch Mom
I don’t know, that’s tough and I don’t have the empathy to be near or in frequent contact with them without getting upset. Like I know it’s not “them” but it bothers me. Obv it isn’t about me so I keep my distance and wish them well. Thankfully it hasn’t hit that close.
Richard Glidewell
Superstar
That's short walking distance for a dope fiend........you fukked up now........as everybody said they have to course correct on their own and that doesn't happen unless something majorly disastrous has happened.......and if the loss of the trust of various friends is and family won't do it......having to prostitute for a hit don't do it.......what's it gone take for them to finally hit rock bottom and decide to do better? I personally don't wanna know or be in proximity when it happens........it's gone either be, damn, good job homie, or damn, you in a better place now homie
My one old homeboy isn’t a dope fiend. He just seems like he’s a miserable person. I told the story about his brother getting shot over 60+ times when he was 13 and that has fukked him up to this day at almost 40.
But pretty much do spiraled so bad last year. Was cheating on his wife had the mistresses husband pull up to his house with his kids in the car to confront him about the affair. Was fukking around on his work phone with the mistress and ended up getting suspended while they investigated everything and he lost his county job. Dude was trying to get me to play wingman to some of his friends who were some onlyfans hoes and we just randomly make up lies when it wasn’t necessary.
One time I went to visit him in San Diego and he made up a whole story in front of his wife that I had came to visit a chick…
And one time a few of my homegirl came to Santa Monica to kick it at my crib, and he was a little hurt that my homegirl didn’t have a friend for him. So he ended up leaving my spot and drove all the way to Lancaster to fukk with one of his old joints. We had mad conversations last year about how he was going downhill, but he just never seems to listen.
He hit me up a few weeks ago, saying he wanted to come out here and talk to me, but I told him that really wasn’t necessary as I really can’t trust his judgment these days.
But pretty much do spiraled so bad last year. Was cheating on his wife had the mistresses husband pull up to his house with his kids in the car to confront him about the affair. Was fukking around on his work phone with the mistress and ended up getting suspended while they investigated everything and he lost his county job. Dude was trying to get me to play wingman to some of his friends who were some onlyfans hoes and we just randomly make up lies when it wasn’t necessary.
One time I went to visit him in San Diego and he made up a whole story in front of his wife that I had came to visit a chick…
And one time a few of my homegirl came to Santa Monica to kick it at my crib, and he was a little hurt that my homegirl didn’t have a friend for him. So he ended up leaving my spot and drove all the way to Lancaster to fukk with one of his old joints. We had mad conversations last year about how he was going downhill, but he just never seems to listen.
He hit me up a few weeks ago, saying he wanted to come out here and talk to me, but I told him that really wasn’t necessary as I really can’t trust his judgment these days.
My one old homeboy isn’t a dope fiend. He just seems like he’s a miserable person. I told the story about his brother getting shot over 60+ times when he was 13 and that has fukked him up to this day at almost 40.
But pretty much do spiraled so bad last year. Was cheating on his wife had the mistresses husband pull up to his house with his kids in the car to confront him about the affair. Was fukking around on his work phone with the mistress and ended up getting suspended while they investigated everything and he lost his county job. Dude was trying to get me to play wingman to some of his friends who were some onlyfans hoes and we just randomly make up lies when it wasn’t necessary.
One time I went to visit him in San Diego and he made up a whole story in front of his wife that I had came to visit a chick…
And one time a few of my homegirl came to Santa Monica to kick it at my crib, and he was a little hurt that my homegirl didn’t have a friend for him. So he ended up leaving my spot and drove all the way to Lancaster to fukk with one of his old joints. We had mad conversations last year about how he was going downhill, but he just never seems to listen.
He hit me up a few weeks ago, saying he wanted to come out here and talk to me, but I told him that really wasn’t necessary as I really can’t trust his judgment these days.
Sound like p*ssy is his number 1 priority in life. I got a few partners like this. They whole world revolves around trying to fukk something, preferably something new.
only works if people actually want to get help
Maximus Rex
Superstar
don't let them in your home
That nikka tripping. Not talking to no fukking DEA lol
Cloutius Maximus
with the aid of the Funk...
most addicts really want to quit but them cravings will whoop you like Thanos mixed with prime Tyson. Also the part of your brain that plans long term, weighs out pros and cons of potential actions and puts off short-term gratification is literally damaged from years of use.
desjardins
Veteran
simple
that's not a close cousin/friend anymore
I'll direct them to some rehab or addict help type stuff other than that they on their own
if the addiction is gradual then I was warning them along the way, if it's something i suddenly find out about then apparently I'm not as close as I thought anyway so good luck
that's not a close cousin/friend anymore
I'll direct them to some rehab or addict help type stuff other than that they on their own
if the addiction is gradual then I was warning them along the way, if it's something i suddenly find out about then apparently I'm not as close as I thought anyway so good luck
Yeah man, he really got offended when I said I can’t trust his character. He was trying to work things out with his wife, but we still dipping and dabbing elsewhere.
But losing your good job over some p*ssy was damn near the final straw. He is now a maintenance man making $13 less an hour than when he was making at the county. And him and his wife are still trying to work things out.
I told him I’m happy for them, but I can root for them from afar all that talking every other day type shyt is dead for me.
