Okay.
I will just say this without my normal preamble about this being obvious:
Even if you get the girl you want
She is automatically the girl who wants you
Cause you GET her. So she WANTS you.
Every dude that GETS a girl is getting a girl that wants him.
You are thinking of dudes who get a girl they DON'T WANT. That's truly sad if niqqas are humping women they don't want at all. Yuck.
Most of y'all problem is you think you're an 8 so you be talking to a 9 and mad that she doesn't WANT your ass.
Look around. If there are a bunch of 5s checking for you and that's the top..
Then YOU are a 5 or 6. So act accordingly. Quit bothering the finest girl in the club all night.
It's a given if she's dealing with you, she wants you. The second part is implying that you're really not feeling her and are using her for an easy nut.
In terms of men not meeting women that want them, It's less about male 5's chasing female 9's (or whatever non-numerical way you want to refer to that type scenario). It's more about guys not putting in the work to build a lifestyle that they can attract women other than the ones that want slurp them straight off of first sight (which tend to be subpar for a lot of brehs)
A man's "level" isn't determined by the chick that is googly eyed over him before they even meet. It's more in line with the woman that thinks he's attractive but is not sold until she sees his personality and character. There's no reason for a woman to be drooling over a guy on her level when she has sexual access to men above her level. But when she is truly looking for a life partner, she will be receptive to the men on par with her, and let the chemistry build up to the point where she does bust it open.