Do you feel like black men respect black women enough?

[DaRealness]

Too broad a question.

Speaking for myself, yes I do. If you don't give me a reason to disrespect you, then I'll always show respect by default. Only if you disrespect me then I'll call you out your name and totally shun you altogether. It's that simple. If I am "disrespectful" to anybody for that matter it's because they gave me a reason to be. I'm not the type to just smile and nod and "sista" you if you think you can just come at me with negative bullshyt because you're frustrated. But this is very rare anyway.

Calling out women their names casually just for the hell of it and mistreating a woman because you can isn't cool and I hate brothas who do shyt like that.

 

[Ness]

As some have stated, the disrespect comes from both ends. Neither end is disrespectful under its own auspices however. White supremacy makes it so that black men and black women live in an unnatural family state.

Under white supremacy, black men struggle to provide and protect women and children. Women feel insecure in that kind of environment. If female cannot depend on male for safety and sustenance, she becomes resentful towards male. This is not even limited to the human dynamic. There have been studies done in the animal kingdom that confirm the same type of activity when the male species is systematically handicapped from being able to do what the male species does...provide food and shelter for its female counterpart. The female counterpart then becomes antagonistic towards the male out of resentment and frustration due to having to nurture and provide for their young.

Under white supremacy, the black experience is a manufactured one. One where the family is in disarray. So, neither side is right or without blame.

Some black men, as someone stated, feel so beat down by white supremacy, usually due to a lack of understanding of it, that they take out their anger and frustration on the closest outlet...the black woman.

Some black women are so caught up in their own frustration and resentment that they cannot see the "why" as to the situation regarding black men. And so, they falsely assign negative attributes to the whole of black men as being lazy, unmotivated and "aint sh#t."

Black men and black women would be best served by understanding the system of white supremacy. Then they'd most likely have a better perspective on why they think the way they do about each other. Just blindly saying that "black men and women need to respect each other" and "black people need more unity" is almost intellectually lazy.

Peace

man can yall issue avoidin ass nikkas ever discuss any solutions w/o bringin up white ppl?

white supremacy got us where we are, we all understand that. but now its about movin on from this bad place. aint nobody gon get us out of it but us.

trust me man holdin each other accountable is much more productive than just pointin fingers at white supremacy constantly. at this point doing it is almost like cushion absolving nikkas of any accountability.

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

It's a two way street. Girls get mad at me because I call my girls bytches. But I also call them angels.

But they don't want to talk about that. The shyt a nikka has got to do to get a date is wild. Do women consider how that affects a man's self esteem. We're already shyt on all day by the media and devils. Then in our community we continue to be shyt on. There's no shelter from the storm. That makes people angry and bitter. I see BM and BW who are furious. I get it.

Let's not pretend a black man doesn't have to meet a ridiculously high standard to get a date. We pretty much have to be perfect while these bum ass other races of men just have to be around. So, those of us who can date, and are desired, at times are hard on hoes for our brethren that girls are hard on. My new motto is, we gotta have honest dialogue about shyt. Everyone is guilty in all situations.

At my new job 6/10 really fine black women aren't dating black men. I'm feeling some type of way about that because I go way out of my way to show my angels love. That AB rant has got me thinking how do BW really feel. These girls also look at me wild when I speak slang. Look I got into one of the best universities in the world. I don't have to speak like I'm giving a speech. And I'm not going to present myself as a white man to get approval from anyone.

The older I get the more ghetto I become because it weeds out the fake ass nikkas. I realize why Tupac was thugged out now. The ghetto is full of soldiers, we, the educated class, shouldn't be looking down on them. They're not bringing down the race. THEY ARE THE fukkING MAJORITY. We are minority.

I used to think everyone had the same opportunities as me. Most black people, especially black men, have the highest rates of suicide, poverty, homelessness, and incarceration, etc. All the bad shyt hits my age group, gender, and ethnicity. What that means we don't have access to opportunity. I got lucky because I'm smart and athletic.

I never hear black women discuss this. I've been floating through the coli looking for recent discussions. Ive seen none. Ladies can I get some support? I support you even if you're wrong. That needs to go both ways for us to find balance again and move forward. Black people are quick to reject each other because it's easier to dump the whole and move forward as an individual. I could write a book about this and I might do it.

Get mad at me. Drop links. None of that will prove me wrong. To prove me wrong you have to change period. Everyday I try to be a better black man. I challenge everyone to do the same. For ever black man that wants a light skinned honey dip there's a black woman that wants the male equivalent of that. Again, it's a two way street. We abuse and degrade each other, but only men get called out because people believe black men have power. Lol we don't.

Sexism isn't an African idea. Do your research. Women are considered the first thing created. The life blood of creation. A man without a woman's influence is not a man. So what is a woman without a man's influence? We all need to stop bullshytting. And correct this cracker shyt that we do. I'm over it. I know I'm guilty and have been up until 7 months ago. But I'm trying my hardest everyday to stop the bullshyt.

I even help these c00ning ass light skinned nikkas. If you're black I got you, period. It doesn't matter how I feel about you as a person. I hate this girl so much because she's playing, but I still teach cooking techniques at work when I should be working because the white people are allowing her to fail and all her so called sisters are too. They'll offer her a ride home but they won't teach her things that make her better at her job. I do, I don't even like her. But I'm sure I'll get called a bunch of shyt for this post.

I help African immigrants being exploited at my job. I barely understand what they say but they know I love them and support them. When they have a problem they come to me! Not management. Same thing with home girl, she knows who really supports her.

I used to have a if I did it these nikkas can do it attitude. Lol that's fukking stupid and destructive. Getting out the ghetto and turning off white vision is hard. If you think you're so fukking smart go help nikkas out. If you're so successful go help nikkas out. I realized a man isn't rich or macho. A man build his community, which is his fukking family period. That's an African principle I learned recently. The idea helped settle the continent of Africa. nikkas need to come home spiritually and mentally and get off the dumb shyt.

If you're not actively supporting our family you're hurting it. If you're praising non black men and women you are the devil. If you're not telling a black person you love them and they're beautiful everyday you're hurting our community. If you're not roasting non black people for talking sideways about us you are the devil.

All I'm saying is come home. "I'm coming home to your tender sweet loving, you're the only one I want. I want to be around." I view my family, my community, as a beautiful black goddess I'm in love with. I long to be coupled with her until I return to to the big black womb in the universe that created life. "I need your loving darling." Mmhmmm. I need that love. "What can I do to get back to your heart?" I've been away from it too long.

 

[Barnett114]

OP ain't even American and isn't around African-Americans

He's in Montreal

 

[Deutsche Bank]

It was the last gasp of a misguided rebellion against a rapidly expanding matriarchy. Now we're travelling into the abyss of fakkit fatherless feminized simps culturally aiding and abetting the welfare state, disguised as black feminism.

 

[blackzeus]

It comes from Black men having no real power. Men like to feel in control. The Black man has been broken down and defeated so much that the only person he turns to let off some anger is the only person who is beneath even him...the Black woman.

Truthfully..we're used to it. My grandma didn't put my grand daddy out for having a baby with her childhood friend when they were 23 because (and I quote) "The world was hard enough for a Black man at that time..I didn't want to make it worse".

That didn't stop him from leaving her with 3 kids a couple years later when he got a settlement from the city of San Francisco and left with a White woman.



Anyways, if a man feels the need to disrespect women for no reason at all other than them being women.. I just assume he's wild mango and trynna hide it or don't get no p*ssy..I'm usually right.

Don't bother me or my friends none

 

[blackzeus]

I can't even lie, hella brehs be on that foreign tip, including myself. Don't mean we outchea disrespecting sistaz tho

 

[CashmereThoughts]

no

 

[hatechall]

Black women are given the amount of respect they deserve. Some are good, but most are loud, ghetto, overweight and entitled.

 

[ezrathegreat]

FOH with that feministbullshyt, rappers never mentioned black women specifically,just hoes in general. But men and women of all races have been directly shytting on black men on T.V and the internet for decades and you male fakkit feminist don't have shyt to say about that.

 

[InDePickWest]

You know how the story goes. The white woman encouraged him to get the settlement all up front (few hundred thousand..SO much at that time.might as well been millionaires) and encouraged him to invest in her brothers pizza shop, buy her this, etc. Soon as the money was gone she dipped. Actually got him robbed. He was such a coward he lived 25 minutes from the Black wife and three lil black kids he abandoned but couldn't face them. Reached out 2 weeks before he died living in his brothers spare room from alcohol poisoning. I was 7 but by that time I had heard so much bad things about that nikka when my mom told me he had died my lil ass hit the
Reeeeeal quick.








My grandma still alive tho

 

[1 other person]

I think you can give women too much respect. Im not saying openly disrespect them but if you give them too much respect they in turn wont respect you.

 

[ThatTruth777]

that wasn't the only music there was back then though, you had a tribe called quest and a plethora of other types that said otherwise

 

[ezrathegreat]

Lets keep it one hundred, women respect winners and black women have been outperforming black men lately. It's not due to lack of ability in black men and it's due to design / opportunity but black men are on the lowest rung of the socioeconomic ladder right now.

But black women WANT to respect black men and WANT black men to succeed. Black women swoon and submit to black men that they think is about something the same way black men will move the earth for a black women he feels is wifey material.

But dudes holding grudges from HS and talk about how marriage is for chumps, trying to finesse chicks out of p*ssy, and promoting having your fun till your 30s and 40s then getting you a 20 year old with no kids womdering where all the good girls are.

How are black women outperforming black men when black men make more money than black women?

 

[JudgeJoeForilla]

I respect bytches who deserve respect simple as that.