Discuss: issues with your parents

Kenny West

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Thats why I want no beef with you. I've always gotten the vibe you don't take NO shyt from NO body. Lol, not even your momma. I do like your style though. Apex predators recognize apex predators.

I used to say I didn't need a dad. But at 26 with options, it'd be nice to have a man's guidance. I thought being a man was being super human. Successful. Fit. A winner. I'm learning it's more than that.

A man's energy would have been nice growing up. I think my bro and I were in a constant power struggle. We're both alpha males. I was clearly more talented at everything. And he's no slouch. He's a genius I think. I worked hard at everything. It came natural to him. Our competition got out of control when I was teenager. We both have sent each other to the hospital. I decided to dead the beef by avoiding him and never speaking to him.

My mom favoring him was naive of her and I'm seeing the damage done now that I'm trying to connect with people on a deeper level. I act how I think a normal person should in emotional situations or I retract. Im not a sociopath because I can feel things. It's just overwhelming and very uncomfortable.

My friends call me Don Draper because I'm distant. When I like a girl it pisses me off and I fall back. That's not healthy. Falling in love was the best and worst thing to happen to me though. It taught me about accountability.

I was running game on two girls who were best friends. I was trying to have a 3some with. fukked around and fell in love accidently. I wasn't living right. I was highly manipulative with women. I was fukking her bestie and was in love with her bestie while dating her too. I only talked to her to piss off the one I loved.

I remember planning it out and telling my friends and getting their approval. I was not living right. She was so nice. She would feed me. Ask me about about my feelings. Didn't care what I had. What I did to her ain't right. I didn't cheat on her. But I wasn't emotionally available. I see that now.

She got hella dark and morbid after we lost our first pregnancy. Which I think she lost because she was sad because when she told me she was pregnant I got up and walked out the room. Then I started drinking and didn't say anything for hella long. She told me during our breakup argument my response sounded like a formal email and there was no emotion in my eyes.

That's exactly how my mom is. It scares me a lot. Something isn't functioning inside me and I think I learned it from my mom and dealing with my family. I don't like it. Some times the kids I nanny for, who I've taught to read and play soccer, I love these boys, they told me I shut off and it's scary because I'm like a robot. Weird thing is kids is are freakishly drawn to me. And I understand them. I'd love to have kids.I think I'll ruin them though.
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Imma be honest, my parents are driving me pretty crazy right now. Between my mom just complaining and my dad being so loud. It's frustrating when you're in college and you gotta come home everyday to it and they hella controlling.

That's why im getting on my grind and buying a condo asap
 

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When I was kid I thought my brother and I would go pro in baseball like Boateng brothers in soccer. My brother got into boxing. I got into soccer and being smart. I remember he was my hero and idol.

One day I decided to be the opposite of him. Just like Jerome and Prince. One is an stylish attacker. The other is a no nonsense defender. One has a conservative appearance the other is swagged out. They play on different teams, in different countries, and they play on different national teams.
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It's a long story. He and I have always had beef. I didn't say or do anything to him to provoke the attack. Lol which is rare. I was talking to my mom and he rushed me with a knife. I stopped talking to him years before that because it's not healthy for he and I to talk.

Naw, we're both adopted. But he and I are related. We have the same mother and different dads. I think he was supposed to be the star. He a pretty light skinned mixed nikka.

Everybody loved him growing up. I was "John's little brother" until I forced my mom to send me to a high school two towns over. I knew I could be my own man in HS. My mom called me his name all the time.

Man, I'm cleaning out my closet. Lol. I'm 26 now. My mom recently started being nurturing. It's awkward cause I don't need it now and I don't like it. I learned to not need it. It seems forced too. Like she knows I don't need her anymore and she's reaching out now cause she's old.

I Damn near started my own family. When my angels are affectionate with me it makes me uncomfortable and suspicious of them.
Working with kids has soften me up a bit.

I don't think she's a bad mom. I think she treated me like a chore like taking out the trash or washing the car. I had a good childhood though. I had to tell her to say I love you. She used to just hang up on me or say nothing when I left. I feel guilty when I ignore her. I owe her my life.

RIP E. For real. Are you going to have kids? Do you feel like you have intimacy issues? My heart goes out to you, it's not your fault. We'll be okay my dear.

Sounds like your brother is the Beyonce of your family and you're Michelle. :yeshrug:
 

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only child....no father figure:mjcry:

Moms pretty much let me do me...I'm too independent for my own goood...to the point where it fukks up potential relations...

grandmomz raised me...rip....we went at it, but i realized she was right about a lot of shyt..Grandfather was there and looked out, but that was really it..did alot for me, but he played the backburner,,,,

People be wanting me to "open up", but if i dont get genuine vibes, its pretty much not happening...

Yet, im perfectly comfy acting a fool with kids...because they are genuine...

All the outcasts of society love me..I feel like i represent the "square"version of them....:to::mjcry::mjcry:
 

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Are you adopted, for real and this is no joke and you are serious?


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Yes I'm adopted, this isn't a joke man. I promise. I'm serious. I signed up to be transparent. In my day to day life I keep my personal life private. Most people don't know my last name. Some don't know my real name. I try to stay anonymous and without connections. It's easier to move on that way.
 
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