For whatever reason I just don’t have a strong desire to have kids.
I still may one day but I don’t see an adorable infant and instantly get baby fever and will only have a child with a woman that is solid both financially and in terms of character.
I had an ex that wanted a baby sooo bad but was only working as a bank teller making like $11 an hour. I was still trying to establish my career and was only making low to mid 50s. I knew that would be a recipe for disaster having a child at that point in our lives. And she resented me for making her take birth control or plan B when we had slip ups.
A few years after we break up, she’s a single mom.. still working a low wage job, no college degree. She was having a rough go at it (and this was before the pandemic)
- phone off
- Car insurance lapsed
- Final notice on car note (which she inexplicably did an 84 month term for)
I floated her a few hundred for her car note but couldn’t help to feel that her desire to have a kid fukked her whole life up.
It’s hard to imagine that she doesn’t regret doing it at that time in her life, with that particular nikka. She’s probably glad to have her daughter but deep down.. damn look at the cost she’s paying for it.
idk man..
never change coli
The ad hominem is weak, I see you still in your feelings for me calling out your posting style. I think flawed social narratives have to be challenged with data and numbers, instead of moral grandstanding and personal anecdotes.
My next series might hit a nerve with you, it's about how Black folks should leave expensive metros and go to the south if they really want to have kids and the traditional life.
