My wife doesn't keep a lock on her phone and I trust her. I found earlier by looking at our online phone bill that she's been texting a number hundreds of times per day. All of the texts take place when she is at work or I'm at work. Basically at times when I'm not around.
I've checked her phone and this number isn't saved. All of the messages and logs are cleared on a daily basis by her. After poking around with the number. I've found out that it belongs to her boss which just so happens to be the director of her company (a large well known educational institution). I know the relationship is inappropriate because there are hundreds of texts and some are at 4 in the morning. We've been married 9 years and have 2 kids. Sometimes I text her and don't get a response for hours but yet, I'm looking at the bill and she's texting him every second.
I've made up my mind that once I get concrete evidence, I'm out. How can I get concrete evidence? Texts in her phone are deleted before she comes home and I checked her gmail and facebook. This guy works with her so they have a company email. I will never find out what's in those emails or what goes on at work so her cell phone is my only shot.
Also, is it wrong for me to want to expose this to her job. It's a good job but I'm at the point that I feel hurt and I want to bring everyone down with me. Is it a good idea to try to get this guy fired. I feel like my family has been destroyed and I have nothing to lose. I keep telling myself that I can leave and do better but I feel like I'm in shock. I haven't eaten or slept since yesterday morning. I don't know how much longer I can hold off on blowing up on her but I feel that I need more evidence.
nikka no be patient and follow the gameplan we gave u, get lots of hard evidence, financial stability, lawyer. This will take a week to do dnt be a woman and let your emotions get the best of u, think about how much better its gonna feel when u confront her with proof and the divorce papers. Think about the kids, whenever u get mad and want to say sum just picture them. Also dnt listen to these nikkas tlkn bout "oh u cheated already, its karma, chalk it up to the game" naw fukk dat cuz u actually broke it off and she didnt know, its different becuz in this situation u know and she dnt wanna stop, plus if she had found out she would have divorced u and got the kids. nikka give it at least a week.
Peace out dawg. 
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