Dam even women are out here saying having children lowers they value

[Bmezy]

Single parents of the Coli coming together like Voltron to straight up lie dapping each other up about how being a single parent is somehow attractive or a benefit when it comes to dating

Not gone lie, I was looking at some of these posts a lil funny, too.. especially the men. I'm an unmarried father and there's a lot of 'spinning' going on here. Now, I do agree that in comparison to WOMEN, men find an easier time in the dating world having children than their female counterparts due to some of the notions already explained, but it's STILL difficult to acquire the type of 'high value' women that you're looking for in a female partner, simply because a young, bright, independent woman that's beautiful with the world at their feet would be foolish to SETTLE for any man with kids.. The fathers that have children that's making it seem like their babies are a meal ticket to snag a golden dove are not being totally honest. The women they're attracting possess attributes that limit their own value themselves (looks, children of their own, age 30+, insecurity due to being passed over so many times) causes them to actively chase and seek out men deemed as lesser (men with children) to increase their chances of being taken. That 'breeder' and 'security' talk is overstating a lil. Yes, women like men that's good with children, but it doesn't compare to their problems with us as men having to share our attention, time and energy between them and our seed and dealing with the child's mother knowing that deep inside THEY want to be the SOLE center of our lives.. it's just not realistic. I'm surprised that the women on this forum aren't as forthcoming towards the sentiments being discussed here concerning single fathers. We get clowned on and bashed just as much as we do single mothers. Young women don't really like kids like that fr.. this presumption that women have an affinity for children is wildly exaggerated.

@Booksnrain @HarlemHottie @bourgeoisie tall freak how do ya'll relate to single fathers when it comes to dating. Do you see the sentiments discussed here being reflected in real life (in your experience, obviously)

 

[OneManGang]

Where do you all live where it’s hard to meet 30 year old women with no kids? I don’t know one single mother.

Sheeet...where do YOU live? Lol. Then again you went to Duke right? You’re probably around a lot more women who have shyt figured out and want to wait as long as possible to have kids.

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

Sheeet...where do YOU live? Lol. Then again you went to Duke right? You’re probably around a lot more women who have shyt figured out and want to wait as long as possible to have kids.

Lol ya and I suppose because I live in NYC. For some reason, I always got the impression that a lot of the Coli lived in large, urban areas --- where a lot of professionals tend to focus on their career and delay having children.

 

[OneManGang]

Lol ya and I supposed because I live in NYC. For some reason, I always got the impression that a lot of the Coli lived in large, urban areas

It’s way more thotties and knuckleheads everywhere though. I’m in ATL and even the girls who got shyt going for them got kids...25 and up? Just gone head assume they got at least one LOL. But you make a good point, the more upscale you go the less likely to encounter this.

 

[OG Talk]

It takes a certain type of individual to sign up for a “Ready Made Family” (as we say down South)

Regardless of sex it’s usually an older person, a simp or a pick me. Someone with a church or military background.

You’re definitely not gonna be the first option for a High Value progressive man or woman.

 

[Speaking Womanese]

there's a difference between having a man/woman and keeping one. Attractive people can always get looks. it's the long game that's more difficult.

if i wanted to walk away what's to stop me? Not my kids so there's no obligation.

People walk away from MARRIAGES with kids so walking away unmarried is neither here nor there is it?

If you wanna leave, you’re gonna leave.

My driving point was, the women in the Facebook comments are using single parenthood as the reason why the person they want doesn’t want them.

Who’s to say they’d want you prior kids?

The internet is the only place that shuns single motherhood yet throws high value quotes around by a guru who was raised by a single mother.

 

[luciddreamer]

It does…when you’re concerned about maintaining the attention of others. Parenting is difficult, but I think the majority of parents enjoy parenting. Those in relationships don’t care how others value them when they are priceless in their homes, families and communities.

These Instagram, attention-craved women now a days only want to be seen and god forbid they be seen with their child and as a mother.

Out loud maybe...

Most People, if they could go back and do it again they wouldn't... But you're often made to feel guilty if you admit that....

 

[JT-Money]

When I see a BD I see a man who has to split his time, money & energy into 2 separate households. I also see baby momma drama. I don't find it attractive but a lot of people have low standards with their definition of security and don't understand wealth create so I don't doubt it. I would think a single father or BD would only be advantageous to a single mom or BM.

I have female friends who we're childless but married single father's and they now seem miserable. When they not complaining about the child support coming out of dudes check. They complain about how the earlier kids get preferential treatment over his current kid with them. It honestly sounds like a nightmare to hear them tell it. They don't like their dudes baby mother either.

And now they have new found respect for childless dudes but it's too late.

 

[OG Talk]

Single parents of the Coli coming together like Voltron to straight up lie dapping each other up about how being a single parent is somehow attractive or a benefit when it comes to dating

They out here selling my young nikkas a dream.



“My fiancé loves my baby mamas. They go on girl trips together”



Trust me. All parties involved are miserable and your fiancé is just buying time until a better opinion comes along.

 

[Ziggiy]

It does for some people, but women with children still get into relationships as well as get married.

The more realistic a woman's expectations, the better chance she will find a mate.

 

[Ziggiy]

This is one of those “case by case” scenarios


I never PERSONALLY found an issue with dating women with kids as long as it was

A). No more than two
B). They had the same father
C). She had her business in order and kept baby daddy issues to a minimum.


I’m not going to skip out on dating/having a relationship with a dope black woman just because she had children whilst in an actual RELATIONSHIP (married/years committed)


Now that doesn’t mean I was actively looking for that situation. In my life i’ve dated more childless women than vice versa but I wasn’t entirely close minded to the possibility.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Women with children I only see them as temporary sexual play. IT DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE BAD WOMEN. I just don't want to raise another man's kids. If I had some I would.

 

[Tommy Sheppard]

Where do you all live where it’s hard to meet 30 year old women with no kids? I don’t know one single mother.

what planet are you living on? I need to visit there.

 

[hatealot]

Once you get to a certain age you should expect every body you meet to have a child.. nikkas be 35 expecting to find a dime with no kids and shyt. Thats not realistic in todays society

I don't think that it was ever realistic in modern American society. Previous generations you were child bearing by 16, 17, 18. Married by early 20s. Same for men, im at a point in my 30s that some women look at me as a red flag because I don't have kids initially , they like you got all this going for you and you don't have kids ?! Whoa whats going on here.

 

[Neuromancer]

Where do you all live where it’s hard to meet 30 year old women with no kids? I don’t know one single mother.

Probably not good cities.