Cheating Husband And Best Friend - I'm so sad...

[Yo Mama]

Do you and your husband have kids? That would be the only reason to stay long term.

Yeah we got kids.

I dont see us as long term/forever anymore. I see him as a mean$ to an end now.

I'm not using him. I have told him this point blank but he does not take me seriously. He doesnt seem to grasp that he killed the love and respect I had for him.

 

[Cynic]

Maybe she was nagging him to death and p*ssy-rationing that n!gga

and he had to release his stress

 

[Buckeye Fever]

Take it from someone who's done it. I wouldn't say I regret it but it was foul to my ex. Who I did/do love.

If the opportunity arises with the right person people will cheat. And not feel any kind of way as it 'doesn't matter' unless things get 'emotional'.

The thing is mostly the people you have those ONS with are lame in the cold light of day.

This is why I'd be a terrible cheater. I'm willing to bet I would catch some type of feelings.

 

[The Mad Titan]

You’re insinuating that most desirable people cheat and non desirable don’t which is false. Being faithful is all about a persons values.

I'm not insinuating that at all.

I'm saying you have to pick what attribute are most important to you and go for it. If you want a body builder and someone that's really smart because being physically fit and smart is what is most important to you over everything else then don't hold out for someone "loving and rich" when thats not your biggest concern.

People try to get the best of everything instead of just going for whats actually most important to them.

 

[Yo Mama]

It is possible for ur husband to love you and still “cheat”. Men aren’t made to be with one woman . Monogamy is un natural and just plain weird. He probably just needs variety, fukking with one woman for your whole life is gonna get boring for him after awhile .

Most women don’t wanna hear that , but it’s the truth. Other than that does he do his husbandly duties well??

If so continue to fight for your relationship,people these days are so quick to just break up and get divorced

Its the same for women coz fkking one man for the rest of our life is also boring.

As bored with him as i got at times, cheating never crossed my mind.

Tge boredom cycle would eventually end and id find myself romantically and sexually interested in him again.

During that low period, I never had lust or feelings for anyone else.

 

[Yo Mama]

It is possible for ur husband to love you and still “cheat”. Men aren’t made to be with one woman . Monogamy is un natural and just plain weird. He probably just needs variety, fukking with one woman for your whole life is gonna get boring for him after awhile .

Most women don’t wanna hear that , but it’s the truth. Other than that does he do his husbandly duties well??

If so continue to fight for your relationship,people these days are so quick to just break up and get divorced

Its the same for women coz fkking one man for the rest of our life is also boring.

As bored with him as i got at times, cheating never crossed my mind.

Tge boredom cycle would eventually end and id find myself romantically and sexually interested in him again.

During that low period, I never had lust or feelings for anyone else.

 

[Brolic Scholar]

First, watch this OP and then I’ll answer.

 

[Mordith]

He says I should forgive and forget coz EVERYONE cheats...

1. The fact that your husband told you this to your face means that your husband does not respect you in the least bit.

2. You can only cheat on someone you're married to, so your best friend did not cheat.

 

[Karb]

you sure she didnt cheat with your husband?

So messy

 

[Dreadknox77]

You’re insinuating that most desirable people cheat and non desirable don’t which is false. Being faithful is all about a persons values.

No you insinuated that, I never said anything about being desirable.

What exactly do you mean by being faithful??

Also answer me this , when did having one wife /woman become a thing ??

 

[Brolic Scholar]

My experiences as a cheater, someone that fukked cheaters and possibly being cheated on led me to the conclusion that cheating is something some people have to get out of their systems. There’s really nothing you can do to stop it. Now, should you encourage it or stick around for it? No... and maybe a relationship can be fixed after someone is caught, but usually they can’t be fixed.

A sloppy cheater doesn’t love you. A cheater that falls in love is selfish. A cheater that is neat and does it for the thrill has issues, but probably does love you.

I grew out of cheating, but I think most cheaters are addicted to the rush and won’t walk away from it. So that leaves anyone that caught a cheater with a tough decision. Also is that person truly sorry? Do they want to change?

 

[Yo Mama]

My advice is the best way to choose a mate is in how you meet them.

I have never cheated on anyone. And have never lied to my husband.

I have been upfront with him from day 1.

 

[Dreadknox77]

Its the same for women coz fkking one man for the rest of our life is also boring.

As bored with him as i got at times, cheating never crossed my mind.

Tge boredom cycle would eventually end and id find myself romantically and sexually interested in him again.

During that low period, I never had lust or feelings for anyone else.

Men and women are built differently. One has testosterone, one has estrogen. If the man takes care of you, takes care of the kids and handles his business, you gonna leave him just for sum p*ssy ??? That chances are means nothing to him.

What he needs to do is stop being sloppy and at least be discreet

 

[Youhadasparkwhenustarted]

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Yeah we got kids.

I dont see us as long term anymore. I see him as a mean$ to an end now.

I'm not using him. I have told him this point blank but he does not take me seriously. He doesnt seem to grasp that he killed the love and respect I had for him.

Can't say I blame you, if brehs want multiple women, be upfront with it. Your husband is an ass and so is your friend. You should probably ask you husband to get tested tbh. Be safe out here.

 

[Jerz]

Smart man.. Nothing to gain from relationships

Never cheated, never needed to cheat... bytches be trifling and betrayed me anyways... So now I don't date and I don't do relationships...