Cause of divorce - finances

[Marco Zen]

Actually, I think this happens to all races of women. There are a lot of white women (I've known a few) who stuck with broke flashy guys as well. However, I don't feel like these women get tricked. They are very aware that he is broke and does not have anything else to offer, but dikk. They go ahead and marry him because they are enthralled with him. After awhile they realize sexy don't pay no bills or equal happiness. This same thing happens to men as well.

This.

I think some folks are getting the term "flashy" confused in this discussion. When y'all say "broke and flashy" I assume you mean broke and confident or broke and stylish/ creative. I think women are attracted to a man who's confident in himself and more often than not I think with nikkaz an expression of confidence is being fly aka flashy

@Raye82 I agree with most of your post but I must add that although these women realize sexiness doesn't pay bills (or sustain a healthy relationship) , there's a flip side to that... Money doesn't buy happiness either ,nor does it fulfill a woman's emotional needs or satisfy that p*ssy

 

[MikelArteta]

120k with no kids is balling.

Didn't some stat make the rounds this week that some insane percentage of American HOUSEHOLDS make less than 75K?

More than half of American households make less than 60k a year.

The report breaks it down even further, noting that 40 percent of families earn $40,000 or less a year and a remarkable 15 percent earn somewhere between $1 and $20,000 a year

And more than 75% of American households earn less than 100k a year


The report breaks it down even further, noting that 40 percent of families earn $40,000 or less a year and a remarkable 15 percent earn somewhere between $1 and $20,000 a year

 

[Remote]

More than half of American households make less than 60k a year.

The report breaks it down even further, noting that 40 percent of families earn $40,000 or less a year and a remarkable 15 percent earn somewhere between $1 and $20,000 a year

And more than 75% of American households earn less than 100k a year


The report breaks it down even further, noting that 40 percent of families earn $40,000 or less a year and a remarkable 15 percent earn somewhere between $1 and $20,000 a year

Crazy.

 

[Danny Up]

What does what have to do with anything?

@Raul for my opinion like you said.

You said people need to discuss finances before marriage. I asked what exactly would that solve? If I'm on top of the world at that time and then I fall on hard times, it's a strain. I doesn't matter what was discussed prior.

 

[MikelArteta]

Crazy.

funny thing its even less for black familieis

but only on the coli is a single person making 40k 50k, 60k laughable

 

[MikelArteta]

the only financial things iw ould discuss is school loans, imagine marrying a broad with like 80k school loans, bad credit?

 

[Remote]

You said people need to discuss finances before marriage. I asked what exactly would that solve? If I'm on top of the world at that time and then I fall on hard times, it's a strain. I doesn't matter what was discussed prior.

Wait.
What?

Discussing finances helps people figure out a future plan. That's what it "solves"

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

120k is better than not bad with no kids

Neither of us had kids. So it was good.

 

[Remote]

funny thing its even less for black familieis

but only on the coli is a single person making 40k 50k, 60k laughable

People want to inflate their status, I guess.

There's nothing shameful with making 40, 50, 60k.
Some of us are fortunate to have a job as it is.

 

[Remote]

the only financial things iw ould discuss is school loans, imagine marrying a broad with like 80k school loans, bad credit?

College is putting all these men and women in major debt.

 

[MekaCatt]

@MekaCatt
Dimelo.

My divorce had nothing to do with finances, but on another note.

My coworker has been with her husband 12 years 10 before they were married. She always complained about how his parents did too much for him wouldn't let him be a man , how irresponsible he was, how his priorities were messed up. All this was before they were married . They got married , and guess what ? he didn't change . Real shocker right? Anyway she use to take care of an old lady , and was paid very well for it. Recently this old lady passed, and now the financial situation is killing their marriage. He's been working a job that pays a little over minimum wage , for 2 years, and just doesn't want to do better. All the financial extras , such as unexpected bills (car troubles, anything that can go wrong) he looks upon her to pay , which honestly he always has , she just now doesn't have the money and it's getting to her. She over looked a lot of his shyt because she wanted to get married , and was getting older , and didn't want to start the search over again. I know she loved him when they got married, but she also knew he wasn't a good choice. Mind you they had been "getting married " on and off at least 6 years before they actually did. I'm almost sure they will not still be married by this time next year.

 

[Danny Up]

Wait.
What?

Discussing finances helps people figure out a future plan. That's what it "solves"

No, it does not.

 

[Raava]

You said people need to discuss finances before marriage. I asked what exactly would that solve? If I'm on top of the world at that time and then I fall on hard times, it's a strain. I doesn't matter what was discussed prior.

Financial problems are not just because someone has fallen on hard times. It's mismanagement, living above their means, or just flat out lying about what they are doing with the money.

I guess the example I had in my head was when I went to go look at houses with a friend. She was looking at a foreclosed house and we got to hear part of the back story. The couple lost the house because the wife was not paying the mortgage. She was doing other things with the money buying herself things. Husband didn't find out until he found the notices. He just assumed she knew how to handle things like that.

I would not leave a hypothetical husband because we fell on hard times. I have been in a ltr and dude lost almost everything and I didn't drop him because of that.

 

[MikelArteta]

this is the coli

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/whats-the-normal-age-that-people-hit-that-100k-year-mark.33964/



failure if you dont make 100k

 

[Remote]

My divorce had nothing to do with finances, but on another note.

My coworker has been with her husband 12 years 10 before they were married. She always complained about how his parents did too much for him wouldn't let him be a man , how irresponsible he was, how his priorities were messed up. All this was before they were married . They got married , and guess what ? he didn't change . Real shocker right? Anyway she use to take care of an old lady , and was paid very well for it. Recently this old lady passed, and now the financial situation is killing their marriage. He's been working a job that pays a little over minimum wage , for 2 years, and just doesn't want to do better. All the financial extras , such as unexpected bills (car troubles, anything that can go wrong) he looks upon her to pay , which honestly he always has , she just now doesn't have the money and it's getting to her. She over looked a lot of his shyt because she wanted to get married , and was getting older , and didn't want to start the search over again. I know she loved him when they got married, but she also knew he wasn't a good choice. Mind you they had been "getting married " on and off at least 6 years before they actually did. I'm almost sure they will not still be married by this time next year.

Damn.
That's some sad shyt. She was carrying a bum.