Candace Cameron Bure Defends Her "Submissive Role" With Husband: "I Want Him to Lead"

[Anothergirl]

acutally the bible does say that if your husband is not leading his family in the ways of christ, then his wife shall no longer follow him and follow christ instead.

 

[Chris.B]

acutally the bible does say that if your husband is not leading his family in the ways of christ, then his wife shall no longer follow him and follow christ instead.

But where in that does the man lose his leadership role?

 

[VICVALLIN]

But where in that does the man lose his leadership role?

who are you leading if nobody's following?

 

[MAKAVELI25]

@Chris.B, I was with you till you started making Bible references

 

[Anothergirl]

who are you leading if nobody's following?

he's not too bright over there eh...

 

[GoPro]

Congratulations feminism. You won Women should be much happier fending for themselves now that they don't have a man to dominate them

 

[Drummage_EL]

Black people (and some liberal whites) the only groups I know that have an issue with men being men and leading the household. Italians, Irish-Catholics, Indians, Latinos, Arabs, Chinese. They'd laugh in your damn face saying its wrong for a man to be the patriarch. Its normal. That's how its supposed to be. And that's one of the main reasons their families and communities are intact and ours are in shambles.

How did you leave out Africans??? Their nations are Patriarch too.

 

[tru_m.a.c]

The word to describe this shouldn't be submission though

That's my whole point. No adult should ever submit to another adult. Especially ones that are on equal footing in a relationship


What decisions for your family?

I have asked for real life examples up and down this thread and none of the clowns responded @chris b

days later and I'm still stunned how muhfukkas don't know the difference between submission and compromise

So it seems the word "submit" is what's causing the knee jerk reactions.
How about we use another word.
Defer. Conform . Acquiesce. :
Better?

Yes! because defer, conform, acquiesce & submit all have different definitions and connotations:
- my wife defers to me
- my wife submits to me
- my wife compromises with me
- my wife conforms to me
- my wife acquiesces to me

All those sentences mean different things. Like, how is this even a discussion. Grown ass adults….

Hence why, I've been asking muhfukkas WHAT SPECIFIC EXAMPLES highlight a wife that submits to her husband? Once folks open up a dictionary or thesaurus, their use of the word "submit" will officially be thrown in the bushes.

Again, if you don't know the word, you can't think the thought.

I feel like every one here who is using the word submit is just a follower.

 

[mcdivit85]

I understand her thought process.

But sometimes that leader need to be told to sit the fukk down and shut the fukk up because he's wrong. So I hope she ain't submissive to that end.

If he's ok with his woman telling him to sit down and shut the f#ck up, then I would say he probably isn't the traditional type anyway.

Also, if he's truly thinking about the best for himself and his woman, then he wouldn't do anything to put them in harm's way unnecessarily. Now, that doesn't he's not going to make decisions that she doesn't like or doesn't feel comfortable with. It means that there's always a reason for the season. He's not haphazard with her submission...he respects it by doing his best to make the best decision for the team.

Peace

 

[mcdivit85]

Honestly, I find it fascinating how the word "submit" causes such a stir between black men and black women. I never understood the following things:

- why the word "submit" causes so much angst among black women
- why the idea of submitting has to be about slavery, bondage or being a dumb housewife who's destitute without the support of her cruel, evil husband
- why following a quality man's lead is somehow tied to the woman being weak and unable to fend for herself
- why a woman will talk about submission to a husband being bad yet will follow a line of dumba##es straight to being broke, bitter, with child and still single in her 30s/40s
- why a woman assume a man who expects submission from his woman is somehow this user and manipulator while the dude who sleeps in her apartment every night and takes money from her purse "believes in 50/50"
- why women don't realize that submission is a gift that they control and should give to a quality man...no one is saying submit to the dude with no job, no goals and no commitment to you

I would love some insight because I'm at a loss here.

Peace

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Make a thread about DJ Tanner and go Platinum, brehs

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

See, yall are a trip like cruise ships.

 

[Arishok]

A proper relationship is a partnership. That doesn't mean that each partner shares the same roles. A baskteball team is a partnership among players, but each player has a specific role that they play to facilitate the team. Imagine if the center took the ball from the point guard and said "Naw n#gga, I'm gonna bring the ball up the court." And then there would be no one in the post to score and the point guard would be man handled by center on the other team down low. It would cause imbalance.

Everything has roles and those roles serve different functions. Your hand serves a different function than your leg. The knife serves a different function than the fork. The CEO serves a different function than the CFO. But when it comes men and women, all the sudden everyone should be doing the exact same thing....it just doesn't work in real life.

Partners don't do the same roles as the other. That's why the need a partner in the first place.

Peace

All of this makes sense, I just don't like the word submit because it sounds like obedience, like the woman is to do everything the man says. I don't see anything wrong with talking things out and going with the person who has the better idea/opinion, whether its the man or the woman.

 

[philmonroe]

All of this makes sense, I just don't like the word submit because it sounds like obedience, like the woman is to do everything the man says. I don't see anything wrong with talking things out and going with the person who has the better idea/opinion, whether its the man or the woman.

Single talk right here*. This that my girlfriends going to make fun of me so I rebel talk. Who cares what is sounds like if you know its not that? Its also funny because when you aren't the "leader" a majority of the time chick starts whining to her committee that you aren't a "man" and she don't want to make decisions. In the words of Hov "is it oochie Wally Wally or is it one mike?"

* = Thats talk I hear consistently single chicks usually with kids say but I don't know you so you might not be single and or have kids.

 

[mcdivit85]

All of this makes sense, I just don't like the word submit because it sounds like obedience, like the woman is to do everything the man says. I don't see anything wrong with talking things out and going with the person who has the better idea/opinion, whether its the man or the woman.

Submission is a gift that a woman gives to the proper man. A man who has the best intentions and generally has a good head on his shoulders. So, when a woman submits properly, then it won't feel like a chore or jail sentence because she knows her man is making a decision that is best for the both of them. Also, this does NOT mean that he doesn't take her input into consideration for his final decision. It means he is responsible for making the final decision.

Peace