Candace Cameron Bure Defends Her "Submissive Role" With Husband: "I Want Him to Lead"

[Crakface]

Yeah because doing those things for a man that loves me, refuses to let me pay for anything when I'm with him, constantly shows me off to his family, rubs my feet, cooks for me and brings it over, loves eating p*ssy/ass, has fist fought dudes for looking at me the wrong way..didnt ask them if they had a problem just started throwing bowes in a group full of nikkas that said something about my ass, brings me random trinkets he thinks I'd like and is my personal therapist when I'm down is such a draaaaaaag.

Ugh I hate it ...hes totally asking too much for me.

Rubbing your feet? What on your anniversary? Sounds like that Honeymoon phase. You gone learn about that Mr. TooGood2BTrue though. ..

 

[Anothergirl]

What many men here are missing and I think what ultimately frustrates them is that they are not worthy of submission

From a Christian standpoint, the husband is described as much more of a servant to the wife than the other way around in the Bible. Christ is described as having servant leadership. But many of the men, especially on the coli, who pine the most for submission seek to do the bare minimum for their woman. So they're really not following the blueprint they're supposed to be, and thus no woman would submit to them in the Christian way. They know he does not have their best interest at heart and his asking for submission is all about ego, and not about uplifting her or taking burden away from her. Most Christian households when done right end up looking a lot like partnerships in this day and age, because the men realize that they are not God to know the best thing to do or deserve the final decision every time, and that 2 heads, both who are educated in the same way nowadays, is better than one.

Now there's another type of submission a lot of coli (insecure) men want, that isn't founded in religion at all. It can really be better categorized as obedience. But the problem those men have is that they simply do not have the financial capability to command that type of reaction from any woman (the type where anything he says goes, he doesn't have to contribute in any other way than being a 'provider' and 'protector'). The way that most marriages of today happen is that both male and female work outside the home, work around the same hours, and have the same level of stress before they even enter the home. So essentially the woman has taken on the man's traditional role in providing, but because of ego the man does not and refuses to take on any parts of the woman's traditional role. A woman would be an idiot to sign up for this, but some do, and after awhile, she gets bogged down in having to carry so much weight in the relationship, resentment builds, and....voila: 80% of divorces initiated by women forced to carry too much weight because of a selfish partner who put his ego before the happiness/comfort of his wife

mah maffukin girl

 

[Anothergirl]

At no point in the Christian Bible does a man lose his role as a leader to his wife

husband serves his wife/family....just as Christ serves the congregation. go back and read your bible correctly this time without picking and choosing what you want to follow.

 

[havoc]

I lead my wife. In her culture its expected and in my family the men lead so it compliments one another. I teach my wife how to navigate the demonic realm to bring more blessings to our household. I give her lessons on demonic filth so we are sure we are not inviting demons into our household. She is very warm hearted and naive when it comes to reading people so when we first started dating there was a lot i had to teach her about the demonic realm, friend. I taught her how to invest and save her money so she was making good use of her money instead of being frivilous.

She has taught me a lot concerning sentiment, kindness and giving. My wife does not go to someones house as a guest without bringing something. Since is started doing this it has really fostered relationships better for us. She is very good at making people feel good and acknowledging people when they are down or during the holidays. She has taught me how to be selfless and realize that helping others is less about making yourself feel good and more about helping others. She has taught me how to play craps and haggle with Asians. She is very good at bartering.

When you recognize someone as a good leader and you help add more tools to their skillset it can make their leadership skills even better. We play our roles and have been together 5 years while many of our friends go through their breakups to makeups, power struggling. Shes a great ol gal

 

[Anothergirl]

I think this is what's confusing to so many people. In this scenario, is the man not "submitting" to the wife? If that's the case then "submission" would be a mutual understanding dependent on which partner had the most knowledge and experience in the given situation.

But at that point, is it really "submission"?

of course a man can and will submit to his wife desires at times if fact most men of any worth will strive to make their wives happy as long as there's no negative effects on the family/income etc and it's within reason. the bible says he's her "servant" as much as she is HIS. fake christians like ChrisB like to ignore that part of the bible. that said that doesn't mean he isn't still head of household and he should still be respected as such.

 

[Anothergirl]

Well i'd like to know HOW she's keeping Jay around. She doing something right... like i said im 25, so i grew up listening to Destiny's Child...as well as getting school by my mom, aunties, and etc...

seriously?? she's rich and lets him fukk however he wants on the side. it's not rocket science.

 

[Anothergirl]

Yes because the socialization theory explains everything
Especially the concrete facts that we already know:

-like why men have bigger brains
- Why women are better at processing language and communication
-Why Men are better at processing spatial tasks and have more mathematical ability
-Why men are more left brained while women split activites between both hemispheres.
- Why their primary hormones create different responses towards stress
- Why women are more emotional and have larger Limbic systems than men.
- Why both genders process pain differently.
- and many more

None of this is nurture.. it's all nature.. has nothing to do with socialization. These are cognitive, behavioral and physical differences that no socialization can do shyt about for the most part. These differences make for some genders being better at certain things than others... that's not to say that roles can't be reversed since that is actually social... but if you wanna keep it real these things that are hardwired make some genders better candidates for things.

exactly which is why i hate when idiots on here do the whole "women are so lame...men are better at virtually everything" homo kindergartner spiel.
UM NO. we're DIFFERENT. no better or worse....just different. better suited for different things. men have their strengths and we have ours. let's appreciate each other for what each gender brings to the table, friends.

 

[Anothergirl]

I understand her thought process.

But sometimes that leader need to be told to sit the fukk down and shut the fukk up because he's wrong. So I hope she ain't submissive to that end.

ok this just made me out loud...and hard. i'm done for the night ..

 

[Anothergirl]

if that man is deserving of your submission you wouldn't have to say that....hed be down to discuss things and accept times when he's wrong. that should be a basic trait in anyone as far as im concerned (knowing when your wrong and owning up to it) vital quality to have

i think she was being facetious ...but yeah i agree.

 

[a murda]

A woman that understands this is a woman to wife. She will support her husband and continue to handle her business, knowing her responsibilities to please her husband and comfort him, while her husband protects his spouse...the easiest way to love.

My wife was.......

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[Chesirecatdaddy]

My wife was.......

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.....A HOE BREH



U MOURNING?

 

[a murda]

.....A HOE BREH



U MOURNING?

she wasnt a hoe breh ................... she jus wasnt submissive...............................sexually

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

she wasnt a hoe breh ................... she jus wasnt submissive...............................sexually

MOVE ON BRUH MAN

 

[a murda]

MOVE ON BRUH MAN

I am ill b divorced most likely b4 the summer

 

[VICVALLIN]

At no point in the Christian Bible does a man lose his role as a leader to his wife

acutally the bible does say that if your husband is not leading his family in the ways of christ, then his wife shall no longer follow him and follow christ instead.