Can you cheat and still be in love with someone else?

[Born2BKing]

Yes you can. People don't cheat to hurt someone, they do it to get some sexual satisfaction. The premise of cheating is making sure the person NEVER finds out so you DON'T hurt them because you LOVE them and don't want to put them through pain.

 

[Starman]

Yes you can. People don't cheat to hurt someone, they do it to get some sexual satisfaction. The premise of cheating is making sure the person NEVER finds out so you DON'T hurt them because you LOVE them and don't want to put them through pain.

Exactly. The truth is sexual satisfaction and love don't go hand and hand all too often. Some people simply cant be satisfied sexually by a single person over a long period of time. I will say this though: DO NOT GET CAUGHT.

 

[Mask and Da Glock]

You can LOVE someone and cheat on them, but if you can't be IN LOVE with someone and cheat.

When you are IN LOVE with someone they are providing everything you need on an intimate level - psychologically, physically and spiritually. They're the whole package. When you're in love with someone no one else matters on that level like that person does.

You cannot cheat on someone and be in love with them, even if you feel guilty afterwards. As long as you're cheating, it's just a strong love IF THAT...not IN LOVE. Something wasn't being provided for you on an intimate level that you felt you needed to go get. The person you think youre "IN LOVE" with was LACKING. Truely being in LOVE is a entirely encompassing feeling. No holes are gaps exist when you are IN LOVE. Are they perfect?

The strongest loves one can have in life are for God, their parents, their children, a sibling and your significant other.

A true best friend or extremely close cousin will essentially fill the role of a sibling...hence the saying "He/she is like a brother/sister to me."

A pet can fill the role of a child as well, and a guardian who plays the role of a parent can substitute for a parent, but those 5 loves are the strongest.

What if they physically can't fill that sexual role due to distance or some other circumstance? But if you do cheat...i think you have to be honest or else make damn sure that doesn't become a pattern because then in my opinion if you have sidepieces you dont love her.

 

[Versa]

What if they physically can't fill that sexual role due to distance or some other circumstance? But if you do cheat...i think you have to be honest or else make damn sure that doesn't become a pattern because then in my opinion if you have sidepieces you dont love her.

This is a good point. I think in some cases being long distance for an extended period of time can cause one to forget about being in love with someone. That love fades to the background and the selfish need to fulfill one's own desires over everything can take over.

HOWEVER I would also argue that if you are TRULY in love with someone that either

A) Long distance would never break the bond. That whatever sexual sacrifice you need to make will be worth it in the long run.

or

B) If it's an extremely long period of time, you would relocate to where that person is if possible to maintain that physical connection even if it includes sacrificing/compromising some of your career goals, life goals, and overall preferences.


It's a tricky situation, but I will say the dudes in here talking about "OF COURSE YOU CAN STILL BE IN LOVE WITH HER AND CHEAT...BUT DON'T GET CAUGHT BRO!" are sounding real silly. Like I said...big difference between loving someone and being IN LOVE.

You can love someone and grow to be in love with them for sure, but the minute you start shoving your dikk in other women's vaginas you are firmly in the "I really like her", "I love her but I'm not in love with her", or the "She's cool to be around, she's cute, and her vagina is aight" zone, NOT the "I'm in love with her zone."

 

[Mwrex]

Maybe if they're swingers?

In an honest open relationship??

Mistakes do happen though so I dunno

Seems like there is some



ass nikkas in this thread though

 

[That nigg@]

Sex & Love are 2 different things...so yeah. I think you can cheat and be in love.

 

[RTF]

Yes. Provided you do everything to ensure you don't get caught. Hotels, out of town etc.

Many men (bad role models perhaps) just feel it's their right to have side chicks. You h

 

[#1 pick]

Yes. Provided you do everything to ensure you don't get caught. Hotels, out of town etc.

Many men (bad role models perhaps) just feel it's their right to have side chicks. You h

Most of those men aren't in love. I have friends who are in love and they haven't cheated. Some were cheating like crazy when they weren't or wasn't ready for love.

 

[Mowgli]

taking a bullet ONCE, can actually be easier then living with your spouse for 50 years never cheating on her.
imagine that for a moment. imagine the hot pieces that will be going by your way between 2012 and 2062. or take a bullet. see there. taking a bullet is actually easier.

There's a reason these muslim fanatics or any religious fanatics like to go the way of doing something crazy then offing themselves. and say "its for GOD." sure it is. you do that because you're trying to escape the tough parts of life. its hard loving God properly EVERYDAY. to do that, it takes EXTREME sacrifice....DAILY. you ever heard that church saying "you have to die daily." well that applies to your spouse as well. every single time you see a hot piece. that you have to pass on you. you're dying to self. let that die, let that feeling go and go home and tell your spouse you love them for real. cause now you actually do. you're willing to sacrifice self pleasure for them.

and for the record dipping on your wife and being a great father doesnt exist either. you can be a pretty good father. but never great if you dip on your wife. cause your kids see you too. they willl grow up with a warped idea of what a husband and wife should be. when that happens. you have just changed the course of their dating life forever possibly based on you wanting a nice personal feeling from some other chick outside of your house. that goes both ways for the ladies too.

yall need to stop fooling yourselves into believing nonsense.

just admit when you do wrong. even if you dont feel like changing. admit it.

this will give you the ability to find your way back to the right path when you come to grips with all the wrong you have done and now you are prepared to get right. but if you keep lying to yourself about whats right and whats wrong. you wont know which way to go to find the right path. cause you have deluded yourself so long.

its like scribbling on a map saying this way is home. even though it isnt. you do that long enough. you will actually believe the wrong way is the right way home.

Makes sense i have a relative whos father cheated on his mom religiously. Today, he cheats on his women religiously and has issues maintaining relationships because he feels thats just what men are supposed to do. Lost a long term relationship over it. His sis is gay.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Considering that most dudes on here are quick to call a woman a hoe, are a lot of guys in here really saying they would mind their "S/O" sleeping around on them?

Sounds like it's Coli Contradiction time

 

[Anothergirl]

Yes. Provided you do everything to ensure you don't get caught. Hotels, out of town etc.

this is just about the dumbest thing i've ever read.

 

[Mask and Da Glock]

This is a good point. I think in some cases being long distance for an extended period of time can cause one to forget about being in love with someone. That love fades to the background and the selfish need to fulfill one's own desires over everything can take over.

HOWEVER I would also argue that if you are TRULY in love with someone that either

A) Long distance would never break the bond. That whatever sexual sacrifice you need to make will be worth it in the long run.

or

B) If it's an extremely long period of time, you would relocate to where that person is if possible to maintain that physical connection even if it includes sacrificing/compromising some of your career goals, life goals, and overall preferences.


It's a tricky situation, but I will say the dudes in here talking about "OF COURSE YOU CAN STILL BE IN LOVE WITH HER AND CHEAT...BUT DON'T GET CAUGHT BRO!" are sounding real silly. Like I said...big difference between loving someone and being IN LOVE.

You can love someone and grow to be in love with them for sure, but the minute you start shoving your dikk in other women's vaginas you are firmly in the "I really like her", "I love her but I'm not in love with her", or the "She's cool to be around, she's cute, and her vagina is aight" zone, NOT the "I'm in love with her zone."

I agree one hundred percent, when i got kicked out of school (im back at it, this was a minute ago) i stayed in the city got a job and an apartment even though I was 18 to be with her. So you will find a way if you really are in love. For short times (2 months?), it's a tough call I agree with you but I also have a dikk so it's easier said than done for me.

 

[theGoldmangod]

I'm in love with my wife. I'm also rational to a fault. So no, I can't cheat on my wife.

See, irrational emotional ass nikkas with no sense of security in their manhood feel like they need to cheat to feel good about themselves. I know for a fact most nikkas talking about they cheat for new p*ssy are lying. I been there. I can't go raw and the bytch don't know what I like, how is that winning

Women be on some similar dumb shyt, trying to blame irrational behavior on the nikka they cheated on. That's the only diff, nikkas try to blame it on biology, chicks blame it on men.

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

See, irrational emotional ass nikkas with no sense of security in their manhood feel like they need to cheat to feel good about themselves.

Thanks doc. Now that we've gotten that out of the way explain why I've been having recurring bus dreams for the past 12 years.

 

[theGoldmangod]

Thanks doc. Now that we've gotten that out of the way explain why I've been having recurring bus dreams for the past 12 years.

You welcome bytch nikka