“Can I ask you blacc men a question ?” - vital fb post

[V Skyye]

I think part of it is because women will give up that gushy wet wet without men doing that cultured stuff. The price of coochie has gone down for most women.

This proves her point as well. If a lot of women require nothing, why get mad at the women who do? Who cares if she’s broke, over spending, fronting, etc? If so many women are ready to open their legs after a man says hello, men should move on quick when meeting a woman like her who wants to eat, travel, shop, etc.

 

[Umoja]

So spending keeps going up, working and middle class people are spending large amounts of money at restaurants or Door Dash...but men cannot afford to go to restaurants? Surely you see the problem here. Men and women are spending money. There are simply differences in the way they spend.

This is not an economic issue. I'm not arguing men need to go to the fanciest restaurants. Many of the types of places I mentioned initially are not expensive. There certainly is a decent amount of men who still go out to eat, go to bars etc. But women's participation is higher, and there's a large segment of men who have simply removed themselves from social interaction. That's not a financial issue. It's a social issue.

This is the growing problem with hollow statistics.

More people are spending money on door dash than ever

You have more sense than that breh. More people are living home with their parents because they can't afford a home or the monthly rent payments. That leaves them with more disposable income (if they lack sense) but it doesn't make them the pick of the litter when it comes to dating.

 

[boogers]

im starting to thincc OP might be a facccce crip

no but seriously how do crips write out 'fake'?

 

[Vilify]

Another major disconnect between how men used to act VS now. The typical man in a city/urban setting used to have a pretty keen sense of his surroundings. Which often meant knowing the best restaurant for a steak, the best pizza spot, the best tacos/Mexican food, and the best bars for different moods. Men's social adventurousness and interactions have plummeted over the last 10+ years though, while women's has largely remained the same.

What happened to cultured men? It's no wonder women are frustrated when it comes to dating or meets. We used to dictate what was cool and introduce people to the vibes. Now we've got women out here running shyt, and their idea of a good time out is filtering restaurant searches by price. A cultured man doesn't have to worry about that shyt, since he knows the dopest places to go. regardless of price. And if she doesn't want to go, he's going solo and might pick up a chick in the process. Do you know the best shawarma spot in your city? What's the best soul food spot? Where can you get the best seafood? Pasta? You should know this shyt. But I guess getting Taco Bell and playing videogames all night is easier so brehs have no ambition.

I don't disagree that men as a whole seem to have fallen off a bit. But pre social media/dating app era was different. Now there are women who have been to damn near every restaurant or date activity that you can think of because there's an endless supply of men willing to take them somewhere. The bar to impress them is higher.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

The same could be said by men who have worked hard for success and don’t want a leech ass bytch or single mother
Cognitive dissonance

 

[feelosofer]

Because even high value men are wary of women with questionable spending habits. It's one thing to take a trip once a year or something like that but women who travel 3 times a year or more on a middle class salary are blowing through charge cards just to add their Instagram stories.

This is just a form of gaslighting and shaming men. Just keep your head down men. Keep grinding and improving.

 

[Still Benefited]

A lot of jealous ass men out here that wanna keep women shacked up without the ring. But why did she have to direct it at only Black men?

It's a male issue in general

S-atisfy
I-solate
S-ubjegate


These are the keys to a happy home. Its our job as righteous black men to show our women that traveling is wack unless your scouting and planning on leaving the country for good. Trying restuarants isnt "doing your big one". You just think it makes your life look exciting. Dressing up? Having half your ass out?

Activities? Sure she got 1 out of 3. But this is why its important to date your friend. Which 90% of people refuse to do. Because why would I bring a woman to an activity that I enjoy,so she can possibly make me miserable?

The truth is,most people dont really like their "significant other" like that. You just dont realize it because they are passable when it comes to filling voids. When you want some company,when your lonely,bored,wanna have sex. But watch how you magically notice how annoying they are when your not lonely,dont want company,dont need sex,are already having fun

 

[CP3.]

 

[Shadow King]

this is on point tho but its another thread

No it isn't. All that was never the case for the majority of men.

In other words it's all men's fault.....

The answer isnt obvious? Men generally dont care about any of that shyt and never did. They did it to get chicks. Its no longer required to get chicks. So guys dont do it anymore. Its that simple. Women are frustrated becuase guys arent making it easy on them and doing their job and compensating for their poor choices. They have low ass standards for dudes and tolerate all kinds of foolishness AND expect guys to do better just because. Thats not realistic.

A lot of that was exaggerated but this is also true.

Nah, I'm not joking and I don't think you're being honest.

I was going to chalk to this up to differences between America and the UK, but even in your country there is a cost of living problem.

There's huge irony in left leaning people like you, who will easily accept that companies not paying a living wage is a growing problem in America, acting dumbfounded as to why people don't have money to burn on dates and as though they believe the economy is booming again.

It is one or the other. I will press my foot on anyone's throat who starts pushing that bootstrap babble, but I have enough integrity not to deny the wider implications of these societal issues.

This is the growing problem with hollow statistics.

More people are spending money on door dash than ever

You have more sense than that breh. More people are living home with their parents because they can't afford a home or the monthly rent payments. That leaves them with more disposable income (if they lack sense) but it doesn't make them the pick of the litter when it comes to dating.

Any thread involving the contemporary dynamic between the sexes and he starts posting like he handed his device to his girl to set us straight or something.

 

[AceDeuceTrey]

Men and women socialize and spent money differently.

A group of single, straight dudes not really traveling in packs together every other month around the world. Men can occupy their time with more hobbies and interests than a woman can. Many find enjoyment and peace in solitary activities.

A guy is more likely to buy stocks for his brokerage account, spend on his car, have relatives he financially supports, etc. Plus men don’t have the societal and financial safety nets that women have, so we tend to be more fiscally conservative.

Say all that to say, to expect a man to just reallocate his time and money into your “lifestyle” off rip is delusional. Chances are women like this don’t own anything or isn’t set up well for the future financially. Everything is about balance.

And semi related, women confuse doing interesting things with actually being interesting people. Traveling and eating out aren’t personality traits and don’t make you special. Maybe if she had more depth and layers to her, nikkas with means to fund her “lifestyle” might take notice and stick around.

 

[pete clemenza]

You hear her talking like this you'd think she's dating an athletic, 6 figure, charismatic dude who has the time and money too waste on all these "activities".

Coz if she isn't, it's just another diluded Man-eater that lives in the movie world. The world isn't all instagram pictures. In between those nice things which we all love. There is work and responsibilities.

Most men like to make money and keep it. Most women don't mind living check to check or nikka to nikka.

This.. A lot of people don't get this part.

 

[Marc Spector]

Another major disconnect between how men used to act VS now. The typical man in a city/urban setting used to have a pretty keen sense of his surroundings. Which often meant knowing the best restaurant for a steak, the best pizza spot, the best tacos/Mexican food, and the best bars for different moods. Men's social adventurousness and interactions have plummeted over the last 10+ years though, while women's has largely remained the same.

What happened to cultured men? It's no wonder women are frustrated when it comes to dating or meets. We used to dictate what was cool and introduce people to the vibes. Now we've got women out here running shyt, and their idea of a good time out is filtering restaurant searches by price. A cultured man doesn't have to worry about that shyt, since he knows the dopest places to go. regardless of price. And if she doesn't want to go, he's going solo and might pick up a chick in the process. Do you know the best shawarma spot in your city? What's the best soul food spot? Where can you get the best seafood? Pasta? You should know this shyt. But I guess getting Taco Bell and playing videogames all night is easier so brehs have no ambition.

First off, Perk, this guy youre describing has never really existed. Or rather, not in large quantities/ Most American men historically ate their wives or mothers cooking exclusively or frequented some combination of mom and pops/fast food for lunch/slop to absorb liquor.

The idea of the "sophisticated urban man" is very new and very limited to mostly coastal men and even then coastal men who worked in certain fields that allowed them access, a suitable lifestyle, and income to afford diverse cuisine. Basically Don Draper or a single, divorced Cop living in NYC. Even foodie culture is something thats very "new" to America and only takes off during the advent of social media.

But on another note....

Have you ever heard of the crisis of men/boys?


BLUF: The emergence of women as independent workers, consumers, and gaining the ability to raise families and live sexually independent from men completely upset the balance of the West and boys/mens have been drastically behind in all education and income metrics since the around the 70s.

Basically the culture of the "cool man" died as many boys no longer had a way forward. And the crushing heel of late state capitalism is only limiting the options for boys/men to become this urbane metropolitan youre thinking of.

 

[AAKing23]

Men and women socialize and spent money differently.

A group of single, straight dudes not really traveling in packs together every other month around the world. Men can occupy their time with more hobbies and interests than a woman can. Many find enjoyment and peace in solitary activities.

A guy is more likely to buy stocks for his brokerage account, spend on his car, have relatives he financially supports, etc. Plus men don’t have the societal and financial safety nets that women have, so we tend to be more fiscally conservative.

Say all that to say, to expect a man to just reallocate his time and money into your “lifestyle” off rip is delusional. Chances are women like this don’t own anything or isn’t set up well for the future financially. Everything is about balance.

And semi related, women confuse doing interesting things with actually being interesting people. Traveling and eating out aren’t personality traits and don’t make you special. Maybe if she had more depth and layers to her, nikkas with means to fund her “lifestyle” might take notice and stick around.

Ding, Ding, Ding ….correct answer breh

 

[Shadow King]

Men and women socialize and spent money differently.

A group of single, straight dudes not really traveling in packs together every other month around the world. Men can occupy their time with more hobbies and interests than a woman can. Many find enjoyment and peace in solitary activities.

A guy is more likely to buy stocks for his brokerage account, spend on his car, have relatives he financially supports, etc. Plus men don’t have the societal and financial safety nets that women have, so we tend to be more fiscally conservative.

Say all that to say, to expect a man to just reallocate his time and money into your “lifestyle” off rip is delusional. Chances are women like this don’t own anything or isn’t set up well for the future financially. Everything is about balance.

And semi related, women confuse doing interesting things with actually being interesting people. Traveling and eating out aren’t personality traits and don’t make you special. Maybe if she had more depth and layers to her, nikkas with means to fund her “lifestyle” might take notice and stick around.

First off, Perk, this guy youre describing has never really existed. Or rather, not in large quantities/ Most American men historically ate their wives or mothers cooking exclusively or frequented some combination of mom and pops/fast food for lunch/slop to absorb liquor.

The idea of the "sophisticated urban man" is very new and very limited to mostly coastal men and even then coastal men who worked in certain fields that allowed them access, a suitable lifestyle, and income to afford diverse cuisine. Basically Don Draper or a single, divorced Cop living in NYC. Even foodie culture is something thats very "new" to America and only takes off during the advent of social media.

But on another note....

Have you ever heard of the crisis of men/boys?


BLUF: The emergence of women as independent workers, consumers, and gaining the ability to raise families and live sexually independent from men completely upset the balance of the West and boys/mens have been drastically behind in all education and income metrics since the around the 70s.

Basically the culture of the "cool man" died as many boys no longer had a way forward. And the crushing heel of late state capitalism is only limiting the options for boys/men to become this urbane metropolitan youre thinking of.

All of this. Both of you repped.

 

[LadyJ2]

LMAO @ “activities”

TF?

She is dull but thinks she is interesting because she follows trends and spends money. Notice she didn’t mention any hobbies, just basic shyt like eating, dressing, and going places. We all do that every day boo it’s called life.

Her problem is that she is uninteresting and thinks that a man should overlook that so she can keep up appearances. She never offers to introduce a guy to her interests and show him around? Or ask if he’d be willing to step outside his comfort zone and try a date she plans? It’s all about what he should do for her. Cuz she’s so awesome ya know.