Can a woman cheat and still be in love?

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raedawn07 said:
A reason is not an excuse, it is the reason that they did what they did.

The reason for an action has nothing to do with what someone could have done or what they should have done. It is why they did what they did. Just because someone doesn't think its enough doesn't change the reason they did it.

Now once somebody tries to justify it, then it becomes an excuse. If they try to say they aren't wrong because of missing something, then it becomes an excuse.
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In this case, any "reason" is an excuse. Because cheating is a choice, so it's avoidable. When people give reasons for an action it's because they had no other options and could only do one thing. When people give excuses for an action, they have other options but chose what was convenient for them

and giving a reason for doing something is an attempt to justify doing it.
 
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DaygoTaco said:
"I wasn't getting what I needed" is the reason that they're trying to use as an excuse. That's why people who use that harp on it as hard as they can to take the heat off of themselves. They wouldn't bring it up like that if they were willing to accept responsibility for their actions.
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In this case, any "reason" is an excuse. Because cheating is a choice, so it's avoidable. When people give reasons for an action it's because they had no other options and could only do one thing. When people give excuses for an action, they have other options but chose what was convenient for them

and giving a reason for doing something is an attempt to justify doing it.
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I don't agree. Everything someone does isn't because they didn't have a choice, matter of fact that is not the motivation behind most choices. An excuse is a justification. "I did this because of______ and its not my fault because blah blah blah" People do harp on it because they don't want to take full blame.

Someones reason doesn't make it right but it is what it is.

We can agree to disagree .:yeshrug: I never said it was right, or that they didn't have a choice I just gave a motive. Motive is motive right or wrong.
 
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AgentT said:
(If this has been discussed at length previously I wouldn't know it as the search function is very :flabbynsick: right now)

We've heard the arguments about men and cheating, what about women? Is it possible? Does it boil down to selfishness (just like when men do it)? I ask because I know someone who cheats on her man (in fact, they are engaged). I constantly tell her its wrong but she insists she is in love.


Discuss :lupe:
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For women its different, their emotional feelings get thrown off, unless she is a pro then she might be normal to cheating.

How do you know them? Who is she cheating with? How long have they been engaged?
 
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AgentT said:
I don't think there is any good reason to cheat. You wouldn't do anything to devastate the one you're in love with.
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I disagree with this. People do it all the time, although it may not be intentional.

I'm on the side of yes you can, it's just stupid to be in a relationship when you can't control yourself physically. Your emotions and love can be strong as they want to be but become moot when you're a weak-willed and weak-minded person to begin with who can be swayed by a pretty skirt or a few sweet words.

I've had girls tell me they love their boyfriend/husband after they've got off with me. It used to confuse me but now I just :manny:

And a lot of people just want to have their cake and eat it too or don't really understand what love is which could be your friends problem.

With all that said though, if a girl cheated on me and tried to hit me with the "but I love you" she'd get the :childplease:
 
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how do bytches simultaneously "love" someone and gargle another man's nut sack :usure:

like saying i'm a vegan but brb ima go to a steakhouse and have this prime rib and porterhouse combo and wash it down with some meat gravy pause and a lobster tail or 2.
 
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Another example...after over a decade of marriage, my old co-worker is creeping on her husband with someone 15 years her junior. She is in her 40s, dude is in his 20s. After three kids she is still pretty much the same size while the husband has gained a lot of weight. She swears she never cheated before and said she would never, ever leave her husband.

We think he knows cause he recently went on a workout plan :heh:
 
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