#BOTHSIDES
All Star
Missed you bro
Brehs with Young Daughters and Sisters
#BOTHSIDES
All Star
The rule is usually half your age + 7. 40 years old /2 = 20 + 7 = 27 would be ideal.
I do think there may be a generational gap… but overall I don’t mind if it’s a healthy, caring relationship. Let’s be honest, a lot of folks are unhinged—criminal records, hell glorilla was just telling women to be toxic.
I do think there may be a generational gap… but overall I don’t mind if it’s a healthy, caring relationship. Let’s be honest, a lot of folks are unhinged—criminal records, hell glorilla was just telling women to be toxic.
The partner for most men and women is generally someone in their social circle or adjacent to it. We just have to shift the narrative back to building wealth with someone. Most are chasing the wealth for materialistic reasons and social validation.
Like OP said most other cultures teach them to pick their partners in their 20s. They're not well off at that stage, but they have a plan and a vision. Our women diverge from that because they're looking for the cart before the horse. Now I'm not saying scoop any breh up but the ones that are serious you should see because incrementally their life should be on a upward trajectory and they have good character traits which you should determine by vetting. That's the person you get in alignment with.
My advice to my daughter is just to find whomever makes her happy. She has the support system in place where she can afford to approach romance for romance sake instead of trying find someone with status and security to elevate her. Her Mother is a Doctor and her father is the CFO of a 20 million dollar corporation. She already got status and security from us.
I'd still rather her not settle down with a deadbeat all that being said, but i feel like it would be beneath her to hook up with a dude twice her age unless she really is captivated by him.
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I never understood this notion, making her own money to pay her bills? Most BW in this country is not making $$$ as you think.
So because a woman makes money (has a job) this means her money protects her from what?
Let's do this because women say this, I make my own money, if you make your own money, why women become upset when nikkas want you to pay for your own shyt and why there are women who 'expect' a man to take care of all the bills?
Please help me understand this notion when you are out here teaching your daughter to make her own money but yet she has her hand out or trying to get with a man to use his resources?
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Action Mike
All praise..
I'm not against age gap relationships up to 10 years - beyond that for a serious relationship is a strange hill to die on
You know women want to be attracted to their partners too right?
You know women want to be attracted to their partners too right?
Statistically the larger the age gap, the higher the likelihood of divorce.
The Half-Blood FKA Prince
Avada Kedavbreh!
As much as the idea skeeves the fukk out me, if wifey and i have done our job right, the 
brehs have more to fear from the hypothetical females we shephard in that age group than they do from the brehs.
Yall wolves may wanna be careful where yall sniff around. Fukk around and find out yall aint the only ones with teeth.
sometimes its wise to just stick to the dentures and the gums that ya used to ya dig?
brehs have more to fear from the hypothetical females we shephard in that age group than they do from the brehs.Yall wolves may wanna be careful where yall sniff around. Fukk around and find out yall aint the only ones with teeth.
sometimes its wise to just stick to the dentures and the gums that ya used to ya dig?Dont think i aint still sittin in the cut just in case though 
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
If you don’t have your own money that puts you at the mercy of whoever you’re with for the money. That’s why women stay in shytty abusive relationships because they have nothing to flee to, they can’t take care of their kids, etc.
You just said most BW aren’t making money so what group are you observing with their hands out? Educated women with careers? Or the broke women you just mentioned?
I’m always weary of men that have an issue with women having goals in life or wanting to be able to take care of herself. Like why do you NEED a woman to have nothing?
Again, this is straight out of a BET series or some fantasy that women have in their heads.
Women staying in abusive relationships has nothing to do with money, when many BW are single and independent. By the way, abusiveness goes both ways. Let's keep that in mind too.
The average BW makes less than the BM, so that means, most BW make less than a BM. There are a lot of single BW with kids, BW are not married, there are more BM married than BW and there are less BM than BW, this point here states that single BW are out here living on their own so who mercy are they're at when most BW are "single" and living on their own with kids? Aint these BW taking care of their own? Don't these women have their own money to pay for their own bills? What are you talking about? Please stop living in lala world with these thoughts smh.
Your post and thoughts don't align with the real reality.
A woman can have a million dollars and another woman can have nothing, both women look at a man the same, they will eventually want that man to carry most of the bills if not all.
So me saying women are broke and you and the other poster advocating for women to have money, at the end of the day when it all comes down to it, that woman and her money will still want her man to have resources to take care of her.
Sauce and Footwork
Superstar
I can’t imagine being old and wanting to have a relationship with someone my daughters age. You got to be lame as fukk for that. I ain’t judging who people have sex with if it’s all legal. But the shyt is creepy.
Since my youngest sister is already married, I will just focus on answering this question as it pertains to my daughter who is still unmarried.
On your first question, no I would not encourage marriage at 18/20 YO for anyone. That is too young in my opinion to be getting married. I would suggest 25 as a starting point, since that is when most people's brains have fully developed.
On your second question, 23 is still too young in my opinion. Even past 25, I do not want my daughter to marry a man my age. I could not stop her from doing it though, since she is an adult, but I would not give my blessing for it either. I want viable grandchildren, and older sperm is found to contribute to birth defects.
"Older paternal age may be harmful to the offspring's health in terms of genetic mutations, telomere length, and epigenetics [66]. Several lines of evidence suggest that epigenetic changes occur in the sperm of older fathers, particularly defects in DNA methylation [67–69]."
Effect of paternal age on offspring birth defects: a systematic review and meta-analysis
Objective: This systematic review and meta-analysis was aimed at determining whether paternal age is a risk factor for offspring birth defects.Results: A total of 38 and 11 studies were included in the systematic review and meta-analysis, respectively. ...www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
There are many other concerns that I would have about the situation, like his financial, mental, and physical fitness. I raised her to focus primarily on finding a man with good character & morals, so he does not have to be wealthy though he does have to be self-sufficient and in a reasonably stable career (at least middle class). So a 40 year old man with good character & morals, stable career, and loves my daughter would get my blessing to marry her if that is whom she wanted to marry. A 50 and older man would get to see the business end of my shotgun barrel.
Our women and men diverge from this because it isn’t pushed in our culture. Also, young men of all races are dropping out of colleges and trades and are not on the paths to support families by the time they are 30. So there’s less “marriageable” men period in American culture which is why marriage rates are declining, marriages are happening later, and there’s a rise in red pill content and “gender wars”.
Also, men who are college educated and/or making good money in blue collar fields are statistically more likely to be married. And most are married to women of similar social circles and backgrounds. So unmarried men over 40 is a red flag in itself. Is he divorced with kids and baggage? Is he unmarried for security or financial reasons? Or maturity reasons? Either way something is probably wrong and sis will be better long term with a younger breh with less baggage.
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
it’s not out of fantasy or BET.
there are literally countless studies highlighting the fact that poor women (and men) stay in bad/dangerous situations due to not having anything.
More Women Are Victims Of Domestic Violence Because Of Poverty
Financial dependence has trapped many women in abusive relationships
aninjusticemag.com
News
Economic Distress and Intimate Partner Violence
Financial strain, unemployment and living in economically disadvantaged neighborhoods can impact rates and severity of intimate partner violence.[1] NIJ has funded a number of studies that have shown relationships between:
nij.ojp.gov
But BET & my fantasy right? and these are just the first few links I can literally provide THOUSANDS.
You’re discrediting yourself making blanket statements. Do ALL women that stay in bad relationships do it for financial reasons? No. But don’t pretend that people aren’t afraid of being homeless and struggling with their kids, my thoughts absolutely align with reality Ive volunteered for countless women’s shelters helped COUNTLESS women out of abusive situations that literally left with nothing but the clothes they were wearing and had to start over living in motels with their children.
No one is saying a woman with money won’t want a man with money, I was answering your question of “So because a woman makes money (has a job) this means her money protects her from what?” I wasn’t attempting to make it seem like a woman having money will make her be with a man that doesn’t have anything. A woman being able to provide for herself and her children (if needed to do it alone) allows her the freedom to seek out healthier relationships and not solely look for someone that has money so she can survive. You should want that for child/female family members.
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