Brehs who are single, never married and over 35.....................

[Vandelay]

I meant to post in here a couple days ago. I actually was going to create a thread on this same topic.

I broke up with my LTR a month ago. We were going strong for damn near 5 years and I was about to put a ring on it, but we both self-destructed and here I am 39, going on 40 in 6 weeks.

I want a kid, I'm meh on marriage because I been married before. My ex had a kid, but one of my malfunctions was I didn't ever feel she was going to let me really be a step-dad to her son. In addition, I felt like she was meh on having another kid. So that amongst other reasons I terminated the relationship.

So, imma play the field for the next year maybe 2, figure out my career situation (I may leave Chicago), stack my paper and get on my relationship shyt again. I just came to terms with I'm just gonna be an old ass dad. Is what it is... it's not ideal, but me not having a kid is a worse fate. I just figure I'm probably gonna be with someone much younger than me now, 8-10 years younger.

 

[AtomicUse]

I meant to post in here a couple days ago. I actually was going to create a thread on this same topic.

I broke up with my LTR a month ago. We were going strong for damn near 5 years and I was about to put a ring on it, but we both self-destructed and here I am 39, going on 40 in 6 weeks.

I want a kid, I'm meh on marriage because I been married before. My ex had a kid, but one of my malfunctions was I didn't ever feel she was going to let me really be a step-dad to her son. In addition, I felt like she was meh on having another kid. So that amongst other reasons I terminated the relationship.

So, imma play the field for the next year maybe 2, figure out my career situation (I may leave Chicago), stack my paper and get on my relationship shyt again. I just came to terms with I'm just gonna be an old ass dad. Is what it is... it's not ideal, but me not having a kid is a worse fate. I just figure I'm probably gonna be with someone much younger than me now, 8-10 years younger.

It’s a lot of childless professional women in the city for you to date. Not saying they’d make great mothers or wives, but you should be able to occupy yourself.

 

[Vandelay]

It’s a lot of childless professional women in the city for you to date. Not saying they’d make great mothers or wives, but you should be able to occupy yourself.

Chicago has been a great dating city for me, and I'm awkward as fukk with women. There's women at my job now I could get something cracking with. Not afraid of finding someone new. I just always said I didn't want to be 60 with a high schooler.

I'm just really gonna take the next few months and focus on what I really want going forward. I'm not old clearly, but I can't really fukk around with my next relationship if the kid is still important to me. I'm not jumping back into something if it's not something that is gonna work for me for the long haul.