Nothing against you, but in general I fukking
hate when people say this.
"You say you don't want kids now.
Wait till you fall in love
"
I don't think people understand how extremely selfless you have to be when you have children. It's a kind of selflessness you don't have with anyone else, not even your husband/partner. At the end of the day your husband/partner are their own person who make their own choices and have free will to leave. That's something you can just dead if it's not working for you. Kids don't work that way. You have an obligation to that child whether you like it or not. When you have a kid, you will never be first in your life again. It's not something that you can take a break from. That's why a lot of mothers end up feeling trapped because they feel like they had to have children. Then on top of that, kids are expensive. Maybe the woman is pursuing a demanding career. I've sat through two births and it's fukking miserable. There are so many valid reasons to not want to be a mother. To me, there's nothing appealing about having children. We need to teach women that being a mother is an option. If it's not something that they feel they want, they don't have to have children. If you're in a relationship that's serious, you need to make that shyt CLEAR from the get-go. Don't ever be involved with a man that says "maybe you'll change your mind" because down the road, it will become a problem when he tries to talk you into it. Don't give him false hope either when you know damn well that you have no plans on having kids. Be straight up. Not wanting kids doesn't make someone a bad person even though a lot of women are made to feel that way.
Why?
See this is what I be going in on some of the females in my family about. Why is there this population of females that don't want to bear children ever in their life? What is the reason behind this? This is disturbing to me....
