People being uncomfortable with their ex's being in new relationships, is typically because they aren't fully over each other or bitter about how it ended. And you make it seem like I'm saying go party with one another, this should have been a 3 minute meeting at best. I also know people that coparent all the time, again my perspective is naïve.
This is exactly it. It's why I said some people are mature enough. I know in my situation my ex wife is not. I left her, I filed for divorce from her, she wanted to work it out and I never even cared to try because once I'm done I'm done there is no working out shyt. Her actions clearly show me she is and always will be bitter that I bounced on her, which is why I have my drop offs set up to where we don't have to see each other.
I understand how bitter women are, she herself is not a threat to me, who she could get to try something could be. She knows me and what I'm capable of. I'm big, strong as fukk, I can fight and I'm a pretty decent shot(if you're within 15 yards of me and I had 10 bullets I will hit you at least 6 times, one of them will be a headshot I stay in the range) so I already know anyone she gets who would come and try me is going to be at least as capable as me which sounds like a recipe for a toxic situation(potentially violent cause I don't have the ability to duck a fade once someone is in my face with it) which isn't healthy for my son which is why I have taken steps to limit face to face contact between us as much as possible.
People know who they are, who they are dealing with, and the dangers of the situation. Trying to make excuses as to why they don't is essentially saying everyone in the situation is childish or just plain toxic and stupid, which needs to stop. If step parents is going to be apart of the culture people need to know how to navigate it and proper etiquette and protocol.
Old boy didn't really need to be there, all of this could of been prevented if she told him to stay home. Now if he followed her against her will cause he was just trying to bring an issue then that takes some blame off her, but even then she needs to not fukk with a man who doesn't respect her wishes because that is a clear sign of an abuser.