BlackGirl Lost chronicles vol14567 Hubby Calls me N!GGER in bed

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Intimacy Intervention: My Husband Uses Racial Slurs During Sex | Essence.com

Dear Abiola,

My man keeps calling me a “****** bytch” during sex and I hate it.

I have been married for a year and I am at my wit’s end. My investment banker husband is from a White old money family. I am a first generation Black-American woman whose family is from the island of Jamaica. We met at a reunion for the Ivy League school we both attended, and he proposed in six months.

We have the picture perfect fantasy life. He wines and dines me and we travel and shop the globe. Unlike all of the Black men I dated in the past, my husband is generous, loyal, committed and considerate. He courted me and I never have to pay for anything. He said I could quit my job and I did. He makes me feel like a woman.

I am a little embarrassed to share our problem. The first time he let the n-word drop was during sex on our honeymoon. When I reacted negatively, he explained that a Black woman he dated in the past enjoyed being called racial slurs. Another time he joked that he had purchased my freedom. He also speculated about whether his family could have owned mine because I have “good hair.” Then he made jokes about my pubic hair. He called it my “negro bush” and referred to himself as a “****** lover.” He says I am being overly sensitive because he loves me to death and should get a “Black pass” for marrying me.

I told him that I don’t appreciate these comments and he says that my friends and family probably use the n-word all the time. He also asked why Black people could use the word and he could not. I don’t use the word or believe in the nikka/****** differentiation. Neither does my family. I am too embarrassed to tell anyone about this because I know they might say, “That’s what she gets for marrying a White man.”

Every time we try having sex again, the slurs fly. Our sex life is pretty much over right now because I pretend to be asleep every time my sexy, handsome man wants to be with me. I feel completely turned off. I love my husband deeply so please don’t tell me to leave him because that’s not what I want to do.

My husband was my first interracial relationship. Please tell me racial slurs aren’t normal between interracial couples? I would like to figure this out before we have kids but I can’t afford to leave him and still maintain my lifestyle.

How can I regain my sexual attraction for my husband?

Signed,

Black and Proud

Curious as to yalls opinion

 

[Poppa_Dock]

sounds like trolling brah

any woman that retarded doesn't know how to use a computer

 

[Chris.B]

sounds like trolling brah

any woman that retarded doesn't know how to use a computer

Black women are OK with being disrespected by white men.

She will tolerate a whole lot of BS from the white man she won't even sniff at from a n!gga

Watch blind date episodes and see how black women react to white men and black men.

Total 180

Do you think she will write a letter to this site if her black boyfriend called her a hoe ass stinking n!gger b!tch? she will let that n!gga know what's up right away

 

[Lavish]

@Anothergirl

 

[marcuz]

sounds like trolling brah

any woman that retarded doesn't know how to use a computer

race play isnt anything new. you see how he said his black exgf liked it

 

[Arcavian]

That c00n life is a rough life.

 

[KingDanz]

That c00n life is a rough life.

 

[ThumpDaddy]

Damn, every time they have sex it's like another episode of Ghetto Gaggers. And then she has the nerve to end her letter, "Black & Proud"

 

[Poppa_Dock]

Black women are OK with being disrespected by white men.

She will tolerate a whole lot of BS from the white man she won't even sniff at from a n!gga

Watch blind date episodes and see how black women react to white men and black men.

Total 180

Do you think she will write a letter to this site if her black boyfriend called her a hoe ass stinking n!gger b!tch? she will let that n!gga know what's up right away

im in canada every black woman i met if you tried to call her any type of shyt liek that she would use your adams apple as a speedbag and we don't even have big racial problems.

all you do on the forum is bash black woman though so you hold no weight at this point brah :naw:

btw im in no way acting liek this is impossible :cenk:

 

[Swagnificent]

thats what you get for marryin cacs

bytch shoulda known better....if she went to an Ivy League School why she gotta marry for money......get your paper right then get a man who'll respect you

 

[KingDanz]

Damn, every time they have sex it's like another episode of Ghetto Gaggers. And then she has the nerve to end her letter, "Black & Proud"

got to be a troll... or she was dipped in c00n oil at birth

 

[Premeditated]

That c00n life is a rough life.

Amen

imagine being a shec00n and than your cac husband accidentally calling you a racial slur in front of his friends. I would pay good money to know what is in their head at the exact scene.

 

[Just like bruddas]

@Anothergirl

damn

 

[Cool Dr. Money]

Negro bed wench i dont feel bad for her

 

[marcuz]

. I would pay good money to know what is in their head at the exact scene.

"nikkas aint shyt"