Black people and Mental health.

[Ferrum Phos]

Just now seeing this thread.

I've struggled with social anxiety disorder for most of my life and in my experience the absolute worst thing I could do was talk to people about it. People who don't deal with these things aren't qualified to help. I told my mother about it and and got nowhere. Not only that but she told other people in my family which I didn't want her to do. She told my father and he was literally telling me how he can relate because he gets uncomfortable making presentations at work. He was basically saying to just relax and problem solved. I was so furious I wanted to hang up on him. They didn't understand the severity. I needed professional help or someone who could help me without judging.

I remember in college I'd be hungry and have to rush to the cafeteria before they closed. There'd be 100 people there and I'd freeze up. It felt like they were all talking about me and if they were laughing it was directed at me. I'd leave and go hungry for the night. A lot of times I couldn't bring myself to leave my dorm room. There were a lot of nights when I didn't want to go on anymore.

I definitely couldn't tell my boys because they'd clown me. I was stuck.

I've been dealing with this since a kid and no one seemed to notice. My family knows I'm an introvert but most of them never tried to reach out. Honestly I'm ready to wash my hands of most of them.

I only really started to improve when I just started to focus on myself. I hit the gym and started meditating and they have done wonders for my sanity. Marijuana also worked wonders for me in college but I haven't touched it years.

You should look into local centers that specialize in the testing of pyroluria, a genetic condition that causes the body to dump abnormally high amounts of zinc and B6 from the brain during stressful situations, leading to severe social anxiety/crowd discomfort, agoraphobia, stage fright, and a lack of dream recall, which tend to get worse as one ages. Introversion and pyroluria mirror one another. It could just be a coincident, but nutritionist Trudy Scott treated her self-identified introverted patients as if they had pyroluria, using zinc, B6, and evening primrose oil, a rich source of the omega-6 fatty acid, Gamma Linolenic Acid, and her patients' personalities did a complete 180 with their social anxiety withering into nonexistence.

 

[King Poetic]

going through anxiety/ depression right now since i lost my uncle last year and found out my father 78 has cancer..

it's been a struggle to focus outside of work because i'm worried about him

 

[mamba]

going through anxiety/ depression right now since i lost my uncle last year and found out my father 78 has cancer..

it's been a struggle to focus outside of work because i'm worried about him

Stay strong, breh.

 

[l3lackstarr]

Good thread. I will keep an eye on this one. Mental health is def something that is NOT talked about or taken serious between us. I'll just go on record and say..... a lot of the time, prayer is not the answer (I hear this often). A lot of us need actual help out here.

 

[Afro]

started meditating

I've been curious about this. How does one start? I started to hit the gym, but on the days I don't work out, I still feel miserable.

 

[Supa]

I've been curious about this. How does one start? I started to hit the gym, but on the days I don't work out, I still feel miserable.

Sit upright in a chair, back straight, and get comfortable. Eyes can be open but closed is better unless you're in a park or around nature. The goal is to clear your mind. Don't think about anything. If thoughts pop up just let them pass and don't dwell on them. You want to be able to be still physically and mentally. Focus on feeling your breath as you inhale and exhale. Start with 5-10 minutes a day. I've been able to sit for 15 minutes without anything popping into my mind but it took a while to get there.

Check YouTube for some better tutorials.

 

[Objection]

I'm not going through any mental health issues right now but my wife is. Seeing her not be herself is probably the most painful thing I've ever witnessed in my life. It's like she is a different person and the real one comes out in spots. It seemed to happen so fast and it has me wondering did I miss signs. Did I do something to bring this about? I am trying to get her the help she needs but she is resistant and if I call the coroner to have her admitted I am sure it'll only damage the relationship between us.

 

[Afro]

I'm not going through any mental health issues right now but my wife is. Seeing her not be herself is probably the most painful thing I've ever witnessed in my life. It's like she is a different person and the real one comes out in spots. It seemed to happen so fast and it has me wondering did I miss signs. Did I do something to bring this about? I am trying to get her the help she needs but she is resistant and if I call the coroner to have her admitted I am sure it'll only damage the relationship between us.

First things first fam, don't assume blame for something outside of your control.

You can't let how she is feeling bring you down as well, because two miserable people won't solve a thing.

You definitely cannot force her to do anything she doesn't want to do (even if it is right). She has to come to that conclusion herself.

Does she confide if you at all? or does she keep everything to herself. I know I have a bad habit of keeping things in until I self-destruct.

 

[semtex]

Going through a bout of depression right now. feel like a scared little boy

 

[mamba]

Going through a bout of depression right now. feel like a scared little boy

Take it one day at a time, breh.

 

[Poitier]

Really trying to turn over a new leaf in life. Letting go of my impulse to negativity out of anxiety and depression and learning to let go of people who I have to beg to stay while I work on me. Positive mental attitude.

 

[Neuromancer]

Hope everyone is doing well.


http://www.arfalpha.com/ScienceOfBreath/ScienceOfBreath.pdf

this book is a breathing techniques for living. I hope it helps

 

[Prynce]

My depression seems to come from me feeling like I lack a purpose
I think I've found it in music but I feel this need to be the greatest at it and if I don't improve I get depressed. I have poor patient and want everything fast.
I also tend to become obsessive over what ever has my attention to the point I spend every moment thinking about it.


My depression isnt as crippling as it was and im making progress

 

[Poitier]

I'm way too hard on myself.

 

[Neuromancer]

I'm way too hard on myself.

Why do you think that is?