Black men how do we convince black women to love their natural hair?

[marcuz]

Black women think black men like curly hair more than kinky hair so they do that. How many chicks I knew growing up wanted Chilli's hair? Even jelled down their baby hairs with vaseline too. Black men need to come out and say that's not what they only go for, and showing appreciation for the kinkiest of kinky hair too. And I mean mainstream, we need to see more love from black men for kinky hair. I'm not gonna lie and be like black men appreciate kinky hair because it's only a minority that do in my experience, most black men show a preference for curlier hair. And then these companies that were traditionally geared towards "natural hair" (which has been hijacked by biracials) end up labeling all their products "curly", it breeds even more self hate. Certain "black owned" companies like Shea Moisture even use white kids in their ads now.

we're back to the chicken vs the egg argument. i dont see black men shifting their mentality towards nappy hair until BW start presenting us with the alternative. present us with leagues of BW like this:

and see if we still pick perms or weave, THEN you will have a valid point. but black boys are growing up in environments where the women are already self hating. i see 5-6 yr old girls already got perm or braids, you cant blame US for that. the mother aint doing that to her hair so shes more desirable to boys. also, if you want to make this argument, then i feel validated blaming BW for all these damn thugs they produce and procreate with.

 

[NvrCMyNut]

black men being against weave is just one of those internet things.

 

[AntiVenom]

How is this some how black men's responsibility to "convince" black women to love and accept themselves?

Im not understanding how this became our cross to carry. If they cant accept themselves then thats entirely their own issue and they should seek a fukking therapist or counselor.

 

[Elle Driver]

we're back to the chicken vs the egg argument. i dont see black men shifting their mentality towards nappy hair until BW start presenting us with the alternative. present us with leagues of BW like this:

and see if we still pick perms or weave, THEN you will have a valid point. but black boys are growing up in environments where the women are already self hating. i see 5-6 yr old girls already got perm or braids, you cant blame US for that. the mother aint doing that to her hair so shes more desirable to boys. also, if you want to make this argument, then i feel validated blaming BW for all these damn thugs they produce and procreate with.

Yeah, then tell y'all mothers of y'all children to stop putting relaxer, weave, hot combs on they daughters heads. Black men, and men in general, determine whats attractive in women anyways. So we can go there too.

 

[Elle Driver]

This. Nothing wrong with appreciating both, as far as I am concerned.

I do understand the sentiment though - I don't see as much love for the kinky hair as I do for the curly hair. I say that as someone who has given multiple daps in the Curly hair thread too - maybe we have a responsibility to show more appreciation and encouragement.

And that's all I'm saying.

 

[marcuz]

Yeah, then tell y'all mothers of y'all children to stop putting relaxer, weave, hot combs on they daughters heads. Black men, and men in general, determine whats attractive in women anyways. So we can go there too.

so the black woman is ultimately 100% unaccountable for her own actions this is why women should be treated with kids gloves, cus you're right. men should determine the beauty standard and ostracize those who dont fit it. in a perfect world, nikkas wouldnt even talk to weave wearers. but in reality, nobody throwing away good p*ssy over a hairstyle.

 

[K.O.N.Y]

Also study black americans during the 1970s for context and insight on this

 

[iBrowse]

This nikka trynna get a plat thread I see you

 

[Poitier]

Black men, and men in general, determine whats attractive in women anyways. So we can go there too.

Are you fukking kidding me???

 

[Elle Driver]

so the black woman is ultimately 100% unaccountable for her own actions this is why women should be treated with kids gloves, cus you're right. men should determine the beauty standard and ostracize those who dont fit it. in a perfect world, nikkas wouldnt even talk to weave wearers. but in reality, nobody throwing away good p*ssy over a hairstyle.

More like that's what you're doing. You act like it ain't fathers around who could tell the mother of their children to stop doing that shyt. Ain't the man supposed to be the leader? You act like nikkas is helpless and can't say shyt. Yeah, it's a beauty standard, and yes black women perpetuate it, but since men are supposedly "leaders" of the household, why don't they lead and demand that shyt not be put on they daughters heads?

 

[Elle Driver]

Are you fukking kidding me???

Let's be honest Poitier, black men determine what's in attractive black women. That's just the way the cookie crumbles. nikkas prefer chicks with biracial hair like you.

 

[marcuz]

More like that's what you're doing. You act like it ain't fathers around who could tell the mother of their children to stop doing that shyt. Ain't the man supposed to be the leader? You act like nikkas is helpless and can't say shyt. Yeah, it's a beauty standard, and yes black women perpetuate it, but since men are supposedly "leaders" of the household, why don't they lead and demand that shyt not be put on they daughters heads?

looking at the stats, most of the fathers arent around. this is where the BW will pretend she was marriage minded, wanted a nice nuclear family, picked a stable guy, and he went out for milk and never returned. to that, i just direct you to this documentary:



all you've gotta do is watch the first 2 minutes to understand what the women were REALLY on, and not just what yall portray.

also, are you suggesting your hairstyles should be regulated by the men? because i agree, but most women will disagree.

 

[CinnaSlim]

@Milk N Cookies Girl! You are rocking those avis! Where are you finding them?

 

[marcuz]

Let's be honest Poitier, black men determine what's in attractive black women. That's just the way the cookie crumbles. nikkas prefer chicks with biracial hair like you.

okay, fair enough. now do black women determine whats attractive in black men

 

[Dev2103]

many more sistas are coming around at least where I live, not even straightening. fros, braids ,etc. progress but yeah people have to come to realizations on their own. some are too far gone and if you bring that up take cover